@BelladiMamma - I’d probably enjoy the dates for the short term as who knows what will happen in the future. But who am I to talk ? I always overthink and plan my life - I’d already planned my next 20 years with my iron purely based on good connection on the phone calls - which died a rapid death after the first and only date 
I need to take things slow and just enjoy.
Will I ever fancy anyone ever again ? I feel like no but here’s hoping. I just don’t know how to do it all anymore being mid fifties and out of practise. That was a real big draw to sticking with exP so I never had to date again in my life!!!
Currently was msg with Mr Irish - who phoned out of the blue. I did ask him if he’d misdialled and he said no he’d tried to speak to me. But I just find that too much stepping over boundaries for me. I want prior notice, arrange a time and with my previous calls they also texted before calling just to check I was still ok to speak. Ooh so polite.
So MrIrish has gone quiet. He also doesn’t have any kids - and given I have three , one still at primary school I need someone who appreciates the responsibilities I have.
I am also msging with MrHaircut - who is 25 min drive away (which is close for me so that’s super). He’s quite pleasant. Not as much of an instant connection as my first meet up date, but flowing ok. Not yet arranged a meet yet. He’s 4 years younger than me , and probably looks even younger - he has naturally gingery brown hair - the type that doesn’t seem to go grey.
Mine is salt and pepper grey - I’m contemplating dyeing it so I don’t look 20 years older than him if we were to meet up!