Dating Thread 202: Here's hoping the lockdown loneliness and longing eases up soon...

[SpringlikeBunk]

Come ye all!

You've done the right thing cat - you can start making space for someone else now.

I've just accidentally super liked someone on Tinder. Full of himself he was too. Hate it when that happens. It's a massive (probably deliberate) design flaw that the bit you do to read the wording is so similar to the bit you do to super like 😐

@Eesha

Don’t see why not - you can both check each other out in advance? I’d have avoided some dud dates with video step.

Like others say just be wary of location and timing etc. But tbh you can just turn your laptop off or leave call if any weird behaviour.

I’d probably dress up a bit (not sexy but flattering colours and lighting etc) but that might just be me.

Well done @TheCatWithTheHat

I think being honest is better than pretending you’re ok with all the sparse random contact and “playing it cool” when you don’t want to.

There’s a certain strength in emotional honesty.

[quote TheCatWithTheHat]@Sunshineandflipflops I remember you from when I first started posting about 18 months ago - really glad to see your update! At that time it was Miss C who was messing me around - I met Miss H a couple of weeks after Miss C ended it for good just over a year ago.

I've replied to her today and said it's best that she doesn't contact me again, as it was just getting my hopes up. So that's that - I feel really sad again, as my hopes were raised and have been dashed. But I'll bounce back again I'm sure.

Just wish this wasn't so tough sometimes.[/quote]

[quote TheCatWithTheHat]@Sunshineandflipflops I remember you from when I first started posting about 18 months ago - really glad to see your update! At that time it was Miss C who was messing me around - I met Miss H a couple of weeks after Miss C ended it for good just over a year ago.

I've replied to her today and said it's best that she doesn't contact me again, as it was just getting my hopes up. So that's that - I feel really sad again, as my hopes were raised and have been dashed. But I'll bounce back again I'm sure.

Just wish this wasn't so tough sometimes.[/quote]
Good reminder that we all need to be firm on boundaries, kinder to ourselves & where possible, kind to others.

I find it really hard to break things off or tell someone they're friend zoned. It can take a couple of go's and sometimes I have to resort to text because I don't always have the steel required to follow through in person. I'm sorry that she's been in and out like this. Not great for you and lazy of her.

Meeting Mr. Bookworm for our zoom date at 1pm tomorrow. Wish me luck!

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Meeting Mr. Bookworm for our zoom date at 1pm tomorrow. Wish me luck!

🍀🍀🍀🍀

Hopefully meeting iron on Saturday and he wants to go the full works - outdoor meal etc rather than coffee ? (Medic so “wants to make the most of the time off etc”) .

He’s coming to my city so I should look places up

How do people arrange this? You just get a takeaway and find a spot?

Wonder whether to take a blanket or cutlery and a candle and bring a bit of ceremony otherwise feel like a tramp a bit

@SpringlikeBunk

Hopefully meeting iron on Saturday and he wants to go the full works - outdoor meal etc rather than coffee ? (Medic so “wants to make the most of the time off etc”) .

He’s coming to my city so I should look places up

How do people arrange this? You just get a takeaway and find a spot?

Wonder whether to take a blanket or cutlery and a candle and bring a bit of ceremony otherwise feel like a tramp a bit

I met Mr Italian at the pub and I had a sparkling elderflower, we used the loos then went on a walk, stopped halfway as Mr Italian had brought flask of coffee and home made banana bread. We didn't have blankets as we were walking so a faff to carry.

Mr Bear and I walked our dogs for 2 hours. He brought macaroons too :)

One iron I met last summer brought blankets and a picnic basket

@BelladiMamma thank you ❤️

@Notcoolmum 👋, lovely to see you. I'm pleased things are still going well with Mr B and you've got a plan for the future.

Mixing kids of any age with a partner is fraught with problems (different problems depending on their age) so its sensible to wait.

How old is your youngest?
My daughter is heading off to Uni in September.

Thanks @SortingItOut we have a couple more years yet. It may happen before then but it's nice to know it's a plan and that he's happy to wait until the time is right. He's much lower maintenance than me!!

Date was a complete dud. He made it really awkward at the end.
Oh well
Move on

Sorry to hear that @cravingthelook hopefully new crop of matches with lockdown lifting

Sorry craving how disappointing.

Mew match, hilarious first chat, meeting for a walk on Saturday.

This is how I'm going to do it, match, if the chats decent, meet straight away to see if anything.

One of them will be brilliant and distract me from thinking about the utterly shitty Mr HT.

In other news I have a second interview tomorrow

@cravingthelook

Mew match, hilarious first chat, meeting for a walk on Saturday.

This is how I'm going to do it, match, if the chats decent, meet straight away to see if anything.

One of them will be brilliant and distract me from thinking about the utterly shitty Mr HT.

In other news I have a second interview tomorrow

That's great to hear, @craving. wishing you the best of luck 🤞🏻❤️😘

@cravingthelook

Mew match, hilarious first chat, meeting for a walk on Saturday.

This is how I'm going to do it, match, if the chats decent, meet straight away to see if anything.

One of them will be brilliant and distract me from thinking about the utterly shitty Mr HT.

In other news I have a second interview tomorrow

Great news 😊

Hi hope you don't mind me joining.
Matched with a guy two months ago,swapped numbers,we would text daily all day,ring me daily (sometimes a few times a day)
He would send the morning /evening texts
Had a great first date
Told me his family would love me,talked about me to them.
Spoke about the future
Organised a second date,I paid £20 deposit
Everything going great then he went quiet for two days.
Text me saying he wasn't ready to date and blocked me
Found him on tinder with updated pics-then his profile disappeared
Clearly met someone else

@walkigonsuncc

Hi hope you don't mind me joining. Matched with a guy two months ago,swapped numbers,we would text daily all day,ring me daily (sometimes a few times a day) He would send the morning /evening texts Had a great first date Told me his family would love me,talked about me to them. Spoke about the future Organised a second date,I paid £20 deposit Everything going great then he went quiet for two days. Text me saying he wasn't ready to date and blocked me Found him on tinder with updated pics-then his profile disappeared Clearly met someone else

Hi. I'm really sorry that happened to you. It can feel like shit. Take a leaf out of @cravingthelook book and arrange to meet soon after matching. Then text by all means but don't invest too much pre meet. Sorry again

Hello new and old faces
Glad to read love is finding its way through lockdown. Couldn't use my exact old id but I used to be salty
Was also asked to pop by to give you my good news story. Mr Music and I are moving in together next week. It wouldn't have been so fast except for some changes in some circumstances that meant it just made sense to make the move now.
Bumble certainly came good for us. Wishing those in relationships lots of continued happiness and to those dating remember there is more to life than dating so don't stop enjoying your journey along the way.

It's left my confidence pretty low tbh
All the communication,talking of future then boom gone
Blocked

The potential is back with another cringy/icky morning message. It's just far too over familiar for someone you haven't met. It's more of a text you would send in a long distance relationship to someone you haven't met.
This might be the beginning of the ick. Any suggestions of what to send back? He has blue ticks off so he doesn't know I have read it

@Dancerinthemoonlight that sounds totally fake, like scammer fake. And why is he waking up at 4.18 in the morning? He doesn’t work on an oil rig does he?

@Dancerinthemoonlight

The potential is back with another cringy/icky morning message. It's just far too over familiar for someone you haven't met. It's more of a text you would send in a long distance relationship to someone you haven't met. This might be the beginning of the ick. Any suggestions of what to send back? He has blue ticks off so he doesn't know I have read it

I had someone who used to do this. Cocklodger and multiple dater. Sorry. As you say it's all very well if you're in a LTR or long distance ...

Yes my scammer vibes are tingling @Dancerinthemoonlight! Although some men are just full on and think this type of stuff is what women like - my ex probably sends messages like this to his dates
Ick for me