Dating Thread 202: Here's hoping the lockdown loneliness and longing eases up soon...

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Come ye all!

I agree @TheCatWithTheHat she's doing an unfair push and pull, if she's testing the waters to see if you might be open to trying again that's one thing, but I'd hate to see you being used for an ego boost.
@Sunshineandflipflops I remember you, I've had a few name changes since then but you met Mr Ad just as I met my on/off iron. Glad to hear things are going well for you! And you too @JeSuisPrest it's lovely to hear happy tales

@Sunshineandflipflops Hi Sunshine, i remember your stories about Mr SAS and also Mr Ad. Im really glad it worked out with him as wasnt he a recovering alcoholic who was actively helping others. His story gave me real hope that my ex might also recover too. I also think its great that you are enjoying things for the good that they are. Long may it continue!

@Howdoesthiswork that term sapiosexual really annoys me because of course eveyone wants someone intelligent. Its almost like they are saying you are lucky enough to date me because i only like smart people!! I always swipe left on them.

Oh, I missed the update from @JeSuisPrest! really pleased to hear you are happy as I know how hard it was ending things with MrC.

@Eesha Yes, he has been sober over 2 years now and in being with him I have also re-addressed my relationship with alcohol. Not that i am/was an alcoholic but I was drinking more than I was comfortable with post marriage break up.

I know most people who tell anyone to steer clear of anyone who had recently become sober but I took the chance and I'm glad I did. I didn't know him as a drinker, just as he is now.

Yes, MrSAS was a learning curve but I have fond memories of the 5 months we spent together so no regrets there.

I remember you sunshine glad things are going well.for you 😊

No updates from me really, a couple of non descript dates this year but that's it!

It’s nice to see the success stories posting updates- gives me hope

@Sunshineandflipflops Lovely to see you over here and really great to know that you and Mr Ad are doing great. Plus the summer holiday with all the kids sounds fun.
Him living so close will be brilliant - no hour long trips to see him.

I agree with you on the relationship style when you're older being different to that when you're younger.
There is no need to live together, get married or do any of that if you don't want to and if you can find someone who thinks the same you're onto a winner.

I'm still with Mr K, he was an FB that became an FWB and then my boyfriend. We're nearly 19mths in and its going well (apart from the wobble when we got a joint invitation to my brothers wedding but I'm over that now🤣)
He lives 5 miles away and we see each 3 times a week with no weekends (except an hour or so on a Sat am as he has his son every weekend). Its perfect for me, I have space to be me, a friend, a girlfriend and a mum, I dont need to give my all to a relationship to be happy and luckily he feels the same.

@SortingItOut That sounds perfect to me and I'm glad all is going well x

Sapiosexual gives me the rage. Completely pretentious and immediate left swipe.

I'm also not keen on the Myers Briggs personality thing, e.g. "I'm INTJ" - so now I have to look up a personality test to see if we're compatible?

Almost as annoying as "anything you want to know, just ask" or "old fashioned values"...

I normally like slightly geeky masculine rough looking types

but I’ve been messaged by a real looker - like model good looking (confirmed is who he is on social media/work profiles etc ).

We also have stuff in common

It’s funny because I’m not a looks person and of course it’s just the start of chat

but also I’m looking at his pictures like:

Maybe it's time to block and move on cat - if she engages in conversation you might get your hopes up.

@Sunshineandflipflops I remember you and I'm so glad it has worked out with you and Mr Ad.

No real updates from me. Setting up new profiles on the apps either this week or next. Only potential iron I was talking to has gone quiet after I wouldn't explain why I wasn't close with all my family. I think it's a good thing as the messages were getting over familiar as we hadn't met. Along the lines of my darling dancer and guess who woke up with you on his mind.
Current company have decided to keep me so I'm staying until something I'd sooner do long term comes along and then jumping ship.

Hi everyone,

Just checking in.

Had a lovely chat with Mr Bookworm on WhatsApp this morning. Was worried that my disability would put him off, but it hasn't. He says he's going to research it, so he can learn more about it.

Lovely update @Sunshineandflipflops and it's a timely reminder that we shouldn't write people off for past indiscretions - Mr Ad sounds great.

I'm glad they're keeping you on @Dancerinthemoonlight, it gives you breathing space to find what you really want.

@TheCatWithTheHat I really think you need to tell Miss H not to contact you again, and block her if she argues. She does you no good.

@ThisTooShallBeFantastic

Lovely update *@Sunshineandflipflops* and it's a timely reminder that we shouldn't write people off for past indiscretions - Mr Ad sounds great.

I'm glad they're keeping you on @Dancerinthemoonlight, it gives you breathing space to find what you really want.

@TheCatWithTheHat I really think you need to tell Miss H not to contact you again, and block her if she argues. She does you no good.

@TheCatWithTheHat I agree. Block Miss H and move on with your life. She's messing around with you and you're just going to get your hopes up again ❤️

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards

Hi everyone,

Just checking in.

Had a lovely chat with Mr Bookworm on WhatsApp this morning. Was worried that my disability would put him off, but it hasn't. He says he's going to research it, so he can learn more about it.

That sounds promising 😊

@VanGoghsDog how crap of MrNormal. You've probably dodged a bullet if he's that unpredictable

👋 @HairyArsedMan suggested I give an update as I was on the thread ages ago. It’s coming up to two years ago that I met Mr R and had the worst anxiety every time he didn’t reply to a message immediately. Anyway we’re still together. He didn’t tell me he loved me til we’d been together about 18 months and now I get it every day which is lovely. I had to introduce him to the dc relatively quickly as they don’t sleep at their dads which was a risk but fortunately everyone gets on and we’re going to start house hunting soon. We aren’t going to share finances but I would expect to own a house and him a holiday home.

What have people's experiences been of video chats? I've realised i haven't done this with a potential iron before but one has asked me.

@stealthninjamum great news!

@BelladiMamma indeed

Thanks eesha I hope you’re well.

I used to hate video chats but am now practiced at how to do makeup / hold phone / how dark to make room to flatter me the most. (I still try to look my best for Mr R). I also find house party is a more flattering app to use than WhatsApp. And I only ever do it on a phone. I do not look good on my zoom / Skype catchups with friends on the computer.

@Eesha

What have people's experiences been of video chats? I've realised i haven't done this with a potential iron before but one has asked me.

I've kept it quite low-key - daytime, maybe even outside. View it almost like an informal date zero.

No opportunities for being too much of a sex pest. Then if they message you with something suggestive afterwards indicating they were disappointed that it wasn't a bedroom / sexy chat you can delete and block anyway!

I've had 2 good ones and 2 sex pest ones. The sex pest ones wanted bedtime chats.

@stealthninjamum Lovely to see you on here, its like an OLD reunion this week.

I'm so pleased to hear you and Mr R are doing great and that you're going to house hunt together.

Its stories like we have heard this week that make you realise OLD is worth it in the end.

@Sunshineandflipflops I remember you from when I first started posting about 18 months ago - really glad to see your update! At that time it was Miss C who was messing me around - I met Miss H a couple of weeks after Miss C ended it for good just over a year ago.

I've replied to her today and said it's best that she doesn't contact me again, as it was just getting my hopes up. So that's that - I feel really sad again, as my hopes were raised and have been dashed. But I'll bounce back again I'm sure.

Just wish this wasn't so tough sometimes.

So lovely hearing the updates from older posters. So pleased to hear things have worked out so well @JeSuisPrest I wonder what happened to @shitwithsugaron who seemed to have a similar timeline to you on the thread. Great news to hear that you and Mr AD have made the distance @Sunshineandflipflops. I was worried about dating an alcoholic in recovery and delighted to be proved wrong. And house hunting is MOST exciting @stealthninjamum.

I'm still with Mr B, coming up to the 2 year mark and looking to move in together at some point. But maybe when my youngest has gone to uni. Older teens are a different kettle of fish to younger children and it's important to me they don't feel pushed out or uncomfortable in their own home so I'm happy to wait. Tinder does work sometimes!!