What's the issue here? Him or me?

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I get enraged at my dp all the time because he says words wrong..words that he previously got right, I correct him gently time and time again and he doesn't get it..then I get enraged and will walk off when he keeps getting it wrong. He says more and more stuff wrong all the time. His sentences are are jumbled. He's says he's not clever but he is..just not with basic reception level grammar. It's his first and only language.
People literally take the piss out of him for the way he talks and sometimes I even have to translate to people what he's trying to say.
Why is he like this?

And before anyone says, I know I'm wrong to get angry, I've spent years calmly trying to help with how he speaks but nothing changes and now I resent it that my dc learn how to construct sentences but he can't do that same. My dc are copying the way he speaks and I want them away from him as they do extremely well at school.

I have no patience for this anymore. I want him to try to speak properly. Its not accent or dialogue or slang..he'll literally say things like "I end up walking to the shop" instead of ended. Then the week after there's a new word he's saying incorrectly. This morning he said " I eat too much this mornign" instead of ate. What's going on with him?

You can't change other people. You can only change how you react to other people. The stress is in your head, not his.

Having said that, if it's getting worse maybe he should have a medical check-up?

Sorry but you sound awful, whatever your OHs issue is ,(and maybe he should see his GP and get it checked out). I definitely think you're the problem here.

Also I don't know if this is connected but I cant have a conversation with him..I try all the time as I'm so damn lonely but its like talking to a brick wall..he will grunt or nod his head but its never a two way conversation. Its like he cannot engage.
He's not stupid, he's very skilled at what he does and he can build a rapport with people in seconds whereas I take years literally to connect with someone.
But conversations with me and people he's known for years are one sided. It's like he gives up with us.

You're not very supportive OP

At least he didn’t say eated

I am awful for how I feel and react I agree 100 percent.
It's been 15 years of this and now I have 3 dc I don't have time to parent him anymore.
I have tried so hard that I'm exhausted.
I think we need to go our separate ways.
I've asked him yo get checked out as it's always new words that he gets wrong even though he used to say them correctly. He won't agree to it though.

What age is he? Could it be the signs of the start of dementia, a memory problem, some other issue either with trauma to or issues of the brain?

@FuckyouCovid21
I've been supportive for years. I cant do it anymore. My dc are clever
Top set for most things.but they are starting to speak like him and people comment on it all the time.

Hes 36

I would also worry about a brain problem if it's getting worse.
Don't parent him OP, that's really not your job.

Just to confirm- he’s always had a problem with saying some words and sentences correctly, but it’s getting worse, and now he is also saying words incorrectly he previously was fine with?

If all that is true then it seems like it could be something that needs investigating by a medical professional.

He has always said certain things wrong but that never bothered me. Its the new things that are added weekly to that list that bothers me.
He has the best memory I know. He is great at his job. He's very knowledgeable in certain things. So that means he's capable so why does he do this?

Just imagine being told all the time that you speak/eat/walk (pick any characteristic) incorrectly? You are constantly criticising him, and the more you criticise the worse it is likely to get.

Or do you believe he is doing this on purpose?

@bluejelly I never did before the dc but they are picking up on how he speaks and I don't want them to.

This is very odd but it sounds like you don't like each other very much and have each given up on the other.

How can the DC copy, when the words he alters are constantly changing? Do they just randomly shorten things or use the wrong tense? Odd, as children usually copy their peers and are keen to fit in.

Is he doing it on purpose to annoy you?

I want him to get checked and he says he would but never does. I do criticise a lot but most of the time I just walk off before i say anything because i know it won't be nice.

At least he didn't say eated
Ffs, yeah he would've crossed the line with that one.

If he is getting worse, getting more muddled, he does need to see a doctor.

You seem to have a very black and white view of 'capable / incapable' as ell-encompassing categories.

I'd be encouraging him to seek medical advice and supporting him in that. If this was my partner I'd be extremely worried, not angry with him

I dont think it's on purpose at all.
I dont like him anymore.
I dont like myself anymore.
And yes it is all because of this.

This is very strange. I can’t make out if you are being pedantic or he has some kind of brain injury. Does he know he’s doing it?
My XH used to say things like ‘pillows’ instead of ‘cushions’ or ‘roof’ instead of ‘ceiling’ but I just let it go because that’s how he was. But this sounds like more than that?

I've been worried for years @FuckyouCovid21

I've offered to go with him to the gp, assured him that no matter what I'd be here for.him. He has been promising to get checked for years...now I'm angry because nothing changes unless he helps himself and he won't.

You said it’s hard to have a conversation with him as he just nods and grunts, that could be because at this stage he is scared to have a conversation that may lead to him being criticised for the words he is using, it may also be getting worse as he himself is getting more worked up due to the dynamics of your conversations leading to frustration for both of you.