What's the issue here? Him or me?

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I get enraged at my dp all the time because he says words wrong..words that he previously got right, I correct him gently time and time again and he doesn't get it..then I get enraged and will walk off when he keeps getting it wrong. He says more and more stuff wrong all the time. His sentences are are jumbled. He's says he's not clever but he is..just not with basic reception level grammar. It's his first and only language.
People literally take the piss out of him for the way he talks and sometimes I even have to translate to people what he's trying to say.
Why is he like this?

And before anyone says, I know I'm wrong to get angry, I've spent years calmly trying to help with how he speaks but nothing changes and now I resent it that my dc learn how to construct sentences but he can't do that same. My dc are copying the way he speaks and I want them away from him as they do extremely well at school.

I have no patience for this anymore. I want him to try to speak properly. Its not accent or dialogue or slang..he'll literally say things like "I end up walking to the shop" instead of ended. Then the week after there's a new word he's saying incorrectly. This morning he said " I eat too much this mornign" instead of ate. What's going on with him?

The issue is that it has got worse since last year. Its not just the spoken word but the written word too.
It seems like he was always a bit like this but maybe you are only noticing it more now that he needs to be more adult and mind the kids alone etc.
He seems immature in lots of ways. I wonder did you compensate for him, but over time and with the arrival of kids, this compensating has gotten more difficult for you to deny to yourself...as it were?

Holy shit, you want your children away from their father because they do well at school?!
Yeah, God forbid they should turn out like the resident thicko ...

[quote Likeohmygod]@CrispsnDips

Thank you for understanding where I'm coming from and not judging me.[/quote]
You’re very welcome, I can definitely relate.
What has been useful for me is to work hard to replace all those negative, critical thoughts I had about him and concentrate on what he does well/what attracted me to him in the first place. It has taken a couple of years to change my thinking, and I’m still working on it, but I’m getting there 😂

Relationships are hard!

Sorry but this is awful.
You're genuinely thinking of leaning your husband, and the father of your children, because his grammar isn't great?
Do you ever think he stumbles on words because he's frightened of your reaction to whatever he says?
If a woman posted this about her husband everyone would be saying LTB.
You are emotionally abusive. You're worried your DC will pick up on his language, you should worry they'll pick up your gross behaviour toward their father.
And for the record, your grammar isn't great either.
Maybe you should see a therapist for your own blatant issues, before you project all your unhappiness on your poor husband who's been completely worn down by you.
And yes, he probably needs a doctor for support Incase he has a medical condition. Hopefully they'll be more sympathetic and compassionate than you have been.
I'm sorry op, this is one of the most horrible posts I've read. Your examples of his inadequacies are mild, and to insist they are the root cause of your unhappiness and anger is absurd. Sort yourself out.

I am from a certain area and a lot of what he has said I couldn’t see anything wrong with. My speech might not be good enough for some people and if you correct me I will avoid you
Is this why he doesn’t speak to those close to him as he can’t speak freely without you correcting him or people taking the piss out of him

There is nothing more off putting than the grammar police. What he said is perfectly understandable so what is the problem

You would love my friend. She has a brain injury and her speech is really muddled. But if you listen you understand what she is saying and can hold a conversation. No one would dream of correcting her.

Is he good at eye contact? What does he think is the reason for this? I have disabilities and I forget simple words ALL THE TIME. it drives me mental and it’s extremely infuriating and exasperating. For me and my dh. It’s not just specific words, it’s anything. My brain switches off and I can see the thing in my head but I cannot find the word. There’s nothing I can do about it. Have a CALM discussion with him. What does he think? Does he realise he is doing this? Does he think he is right or is aware the words aren’t necessarily grammatically correct? I’m sure he will be frustrated too. And from there, maybe you will find the solution...

JustSleepAlready

I have always had that sort of thing.

I end up saying random words till I find the right one,

Can you pass the .... strawberries, fridge, bowl, table , salt