DH and I just had a big row (unusual for us) and I wonder if I'm being reasonable.
We've been together since uni and often led quite separate lives. We've both had pretty large hobbies (that take up some evenings and lots of weekends). We have DC (7) and early on often argued because I was at home and he was still out doing hobbies. That has been better for the past 5 years or so, largely because I was able to start doing more of my hobbies again so things felt more fair.
During lockdown obviously all has changed. We've had some big conversations about doing things differently, enjoying our house and garden more and our local friends more. Doing more together and less of our own stuff.
This week DH has travelled 60 miles twice to go and train for one of his hobbies. He has also decided to run an ultramarathon and has been for 2 runs that have taken an entire morning and into the afternoon.
I said to him this afternoon that this has made me sad, because his actions show that he still wants to live his life with his own interests rather than what we talked about.
He has said that he does his hobbies because he doesn't get enough emotional support and fulfilment from me.
I feel like I don't really want to go back to how things were and that actually maybe we would be happier apart.
Am I over-reacting?