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I am CEV dp doesn’t want vaccine....

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Workinghardeveryday · 01/04/2021 23:05

I am extremely clinically vulnerable. Had my first vaccine begin of April. Because of my condition we already know the vaccine probably won’t work on me. DP has been very supportive of me shielding for over a year. But he doesn’t want vaccine! He can have it now well before he would be normally qualify. He is a bit anti vaccine!

Am I wrong to feel a bit miffed?!!

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Plumplumbadum · 01/04/2021 23:09

You can be miffed of course. But it's his choice to have it or not. And your choice whether to keep seeing him if he doesn't. Please don't try to guilt trip him into it. Everyone is making their own choices right now, and it's not fair for other to influence the decision either way.

Branleuse · 01/04/2021 23:09

Id be more than miffed. Id ask him to move out

pog100 · 01/04/2021 23:18

@Plumplumbadum

You can be miffed of course. But it's his choice to have it or not. And your choice whether to keep seeing him if he doesn't. Please don't try to guilt trip him into it. Everyone is making their own choices right now, and it's not fair for other to influence the decision either way.
I can't see what's unfair about doing everything you can to persuade someone to take a vaccine which is really harmless to save worry and potentially the life of someone they love. I would agree it would be wrong to force someone but to use all powers of persuasion, including moving out... Go for it.
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Workinghardeveryday · 01/04/2021 23:18

I would never try and influence his decision, it’s his body and his choice. We live together, have been for 13 years and have 3 kids, mortgage etc, can’t really move out because of this. He is otherwise great...

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Regularsizedrudy · 01/04/2021 23:20

Personally I prefer not to date dumb dumbs

WetWeekends · 01/04/2021 23:23

I certainly wouldn’t be sharing a bed with him while he was being so selfish and ridiculous! What crap has he been reading to decide he’s not having it?

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Workinghardeveryday · 01/04/2021 23:26

He is quite the conspiracists! His mum is too so that doesn’t help!! I get we all don’t really know the long term effects of the vaccine, but the lengths he has gone to to protect me are unreal!! And now he can be vaccinated - it’s an uncomfortable conversation... he doesn’t want it. I think if I said I wanted him to he would for me probably to keep me happy. But why wouldn’t he do it anyway?!!!

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GillBungalow · 01/04/2021 23:28

I bet he wants everyone else to have it.

OneEpisode · 01/04/2021 23:30

Working so you have had the vaccine? Did he try and persuade you against it? I’m just wondering what his arguments are!

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Workinghardeveryday · 01/04/2021 23:35

He thinks it’s some sort of conspiracy and doesn’t trust it!! He has spent too long looking at conspiracy theories I think.
When I was called for it he said it was totally my choice and if he had my condition he might feel different

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Workinghardeveryday · 01/04/2021 23:36

Sorry yes had first one in April

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Onelifeonly · 01/04/2021 23:41

Off point but April only started today. You mean March, I guess.

Everyone is entitled to make their own choice (though personally I think it's misguided and selfish not to have the vaccine) but in your case I would at least argue against him and try to persuade him.

MixedUpFiles · 01/04/2021 23:41

So is he planning to continue to stay home indefinitely because that is really the alternative. He needs to do his part to keep you safe. That can be the vaccine or staying isolated.

I’ve got a CEV partner of my own. I would never consider simply not taking one of my two options to protect him. If I couldn’t choose either, I might as well throw my own bags in the street.

Regularsizedrudy · 01/04/2021 23:42

Oh dear

I am CEV dp doesn’t want vaccine....
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Workinghardeveryday · 01/04/2021 23:47

Sorry I meant February lol, 7th February I had first one.
Oh my he is in red section we have discussed flat earth snd also 5G 😬.
I just don’t get why try so hard every day and not go for the vaccine! I don’t know what to think?!

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rainbowthoughts · 01/04/2021 23:47

You are CEV so I'm assuming you have made an error in your dates, you didn't just get the first vaccine today, did you?

Shadowingshadows · 01/04/2021 23:47

He sounds like a cunt. A husband (or wife) should do all they can to look after and protect their partner but he’s putting his stupidity above your life.

He’s also thick, leave him

rainbowthoughts · 01/04/2021 23:47

Cross posted with you re date!!

His beliefs are not something that I could live with tbh.

CurseMyTinyThumbs · 01/04/2021 23:48

@Workinghardeveryday

He thinks it’s some sort of conspiracy and doesn’t trust it!! He has spent too long looking at conspiracy theories I think. When I was called for it he said it was totally my choice and if he had my condition he might feel different
But the person he supposedly loves has that condition… :-/ If having that condition himself might change his mind, but you having it doesn't, does he just not care about you very much?
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Workinghardeveryday · 01/04/2021 23:50

😣. But he is so loving I just don’t get why he wouldn’t! He’s not stupid, so why wouldn’t he!

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CurseMyTinyThumbs · 01/04/2021 23:56

He's been infected with a particularly nasty mind-virus I guess

RickiTarr · 01/04/2021 23:57

I am extremely clinically vulnerable. Had my first vaccine begin of April

So, today?

RickiTarr · 01/04/2021 23:57

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Workinghardeveryday · 01/04/2021 23:57

Mmm I know what you mean. It actually is worrying. How many more people think like this... it’s very worrying

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Workinghardeveryday · 01/04/2021 23:58

No sorry was mistake - is late lol, 7th February but already know because of my condition chance of any antibodies extremely low if any

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