[quote Onesmallstep67]@VanGoghsDog, do you feel able to talk openly with Mr WG ? Is he actively looking for dates or has your connection come about solely through social interaction/ shared friends ? Do you think he's testing the water with you or is he really only looking for something more ' casual' ?[/quote]
He's so busy - he messaged today saying he was packing for four nights away (volunteering stuff I think, though I didn't ask). He has two permanent part time jobs, one of which he is actually off sick from due to an injury at work (but doesn't impact the other one), a temp job (30 hours a week, ends in a few weeks), runs his own consultancy, does two volunteer roles and one paid role for a volunteer type org, looks after his CEV parents who are an hour's drive away, has two lodgers, has three kids he sees, a sister who works shifts and is going through a divorce who he provides support and babysitting for, a friend who has cancer and who is going through various chemo etc currently.......then he gets called on for supporting various stuff like boating things, sailing trips, delivers various training, plays bagpipes at events....is in some military reserve... The injury at work has caused him some issues and he's had another health issue this year that saw him spend two nights in hospital. Throw Covid on top....
So, I can't work out if he's emotionally unavailable or just unavailable!
But, either way, it's not a great time for him to consider dating and I respect that.
Anyway, there's no dating due to covid is there? We've been on a few walks, had coffee at each others houses, take away, he cooked brunch....
He showed me his Tinder profile and it was only about casual. I told him that wasn't what I was looking for though not in direct relation to him 'offering' anything.
We connected via the hobby group and I sort of forced a connection by contacting him through the meet-up app, but he did respond and he continued the contact beyond that one thing I contacted him about.
I do feel that if things were calmer, take away Covid, he would be up for a relationship, but I'm not prepared to start on a casual footing in that hope as I'd be setting myself up as I already have feelings.
Whether I can talk to him.........we talk without any depth in RL, lots more detail by text. In RL he talks a LOT. It's hard to get a word in and it's not like a conversation. I don't mind, generally, I prefer it if people chat otherwise I feel like I have to entertain people. And no idea if it might just be nerves. He mainly talks about work/stuff related to his work and his family.
I do need to get into a position to have a proper chat, but it's hard.