He did the mash. The Geller mash.

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Thread 4. Wow. Thank you for putting up with my ramblings thus far, and for all the support - I couldn't have done it without you all.

Previous thread here

I can confirm he has purchased a masher. He sent me a picture of it and asked if it was alright

Wow what a rollercoaster today has been.

Spent much of it at hospital

Gellar has been fucking useless

Friends have been amazing

DD2 has been ridiculously brave

I nearly fainted twice

There has been a LOT of wine

I made pizza

I’m traumatised and a bit pissed. Watched Dirty Dancing, god Patrick was amazing.

I’m just beyond. More in the next couple of days

I really hope everyone else’s children are ok @pointythings how is your DD? @Daftapath is yours ok?

I had a day trip shopping with DH including lunch al fresco, they nearly poisoned me with putting chives in my cheese and tuna toastie but failing to list it on the menu.

Ate far too much bread and suffering the consequences DH said my driving isn't as good as it was (Post stroke furthest I've been and first time on motorway) but not anywhere near as bad as several of his other passenger experiences

I am glad my life is currently calm.

Glad your friends have been amazing Polly

You poor things! Were DD’s finger broken @StuckInPollyannaMode?

Wow Polly that sounds like a looong day. Hope you all got a decent nights sleep and that DD is doing better this morning.

Hope you all slept.
Also that G didn't lay on another layer of uneeded angst.
What was the damage?

Oh Polly what a day you've had! And of course Geller was useless. I hope you've all had a good night's sleep and feel better soon.

DD2 is home, in a lot of pain due to holes in belly. I'm on compassionate leave today and probably tomorrow too to look after her. Turns out she had a UTI as well as appendicitis, so she's on heavy antibiotics. It's never just one thing, is it?

I've only just read all the threads so this was on topic several hundred posts ago, but I couldn't see if anyone had recommended a speaker pillow to help with night time dramas? Only the child on the pillow can hear anything, so could be a way to allow one stories/music etc without disturbing the other! Hope all is well with you and that there have been no more injuries?!

Ugh, Pointy, hopefully she will feel a lot better in 24hrs

How is DD2 Polly
(& your DC Pointy & Daft ?)

How are all the invalids?

Utterly insane 48 hours here.

Geller turned up, demanded I buy a house with a big garden, claimed he would have to go part time if the girls get into the secondary school I like (so he can do the school run twice a week!), asked how to deal with DD1’s behaviour and I told him to look at his own before he looked at hers, which went down like the proverbial lead balloon. He has capped off a week of being an all time SHIT by telling the children tonight that they aren’t going on holiday this summer. The holiday that HE was uninvited from. We’re trying to rearrange it for May next year and he’s fucking told them before it’s even been confirmed.

DD2’s hand is ok, not broken thankfully, she’s been a superstar. Back to hospital to have it redressed (I’m taking her, put off Devon for a night, I don’t trust him) and then I’m off. Bags packed.

Antibiotics making me hungry not sick, I’ve had a munchy day today, but I did do a 5.25 mile run. Whilst running we were talking about books and my running buddy said she’d always wanted to go to Guernsey ever since I lent her The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society. I said me too - so we’re going. This summer. Camping.

I’ve also booked Cornwall, 3 nights. And got the car fixed.

I’m on a roll! Oh, and I’ve had my hair cut. Can be observed from time to time sneaking admiring glances at self.

How’s everyone else doing? Any more major injuries to report? Hope everyone on the mend.

Who the f*ck does he think he is?

So he has now informed you that he intends to go part time? You definitely need a higher settlement then to compensate for him planning to reduce child maintenance.

I don't know of any that needs a part time working parent so they can get to secondary school. Parents always manage to work around it somehow!

Delurking to say well done @StuckInPollyannaMode!
Good for you not allowing his DISGUSTING behaviour knock you off course. Just another way to try and get your attention/control you. It has really brightened my evening to see that you're focussed on doing things for yourself and getting your sparkle back. Your girls will be so so proud of you (even if they won't show it any time soon ).

Tell Geller to bugger off back under a rock. Hope the DDs weren't too upset and understand it's just postponed, not cancelled.

Like he actually gets a say in your life going forward. Jog on Geller you twat.

Oh that was always his threat. He won’t.

Didn’t question why I thought it was a good school for the girls, why I liked it - literally the first thought was about him and how it would work for him. Selfish to the end.

That fucker needs a belt of a few shovels and his body hidden in a septic tank forever. What a waste of space he is.

What a knob.
My DS head cut is healing but he still can't brush or wash it or get it cut. He keeps pulling it back off his forehead and saying IT'S FINE.

Heaven forfend that he should ever be slightly inconvenienced! And has he never heard of independent travel/school buses?

God he’s a twat! It’s all about paying YOU, not his own kids! So typical!

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Are you in the (former) marital home? If not, you don't have to let him in the house, you know. My BFF refused to allow her ex to cross her threshold and told him if he had anything to say he could say it from the porch. She said she wanted no memories of him inside her house. Plus if he was on the porch she could shut the door in his face if he pissed her off. Which she ended up doing quite frequently!

No, @StuckInPollyannaMode‘s moved. They both have. I imagine he came to collect the girls. In fact, I doubt she let him in the house. I do rather relish the image of Polly slamming the door on HIS fingers (or his nose!).

‘Well, if that’s what you think you need to do. Talk to your colleagues and boss, they might have some thoughts. Anyway, the school will suit dd.’

1. Deflect 2. Suggest consult with others.( As he knows they will think that truly pathetic reasons) 3. Focus on dds , should work for most things re them!

Id be tempted to email and say looking forward to revised settlement offer to facilitate the house you want me to buy, but you are too restrained for that!. I totally agree it’s all about the settlement now, you can’t trust him. How are you feeling about the parenting split? Does the current request still look in their best interest? (Ive forgotten if it’s still 50 50, if so wonder if you should give up on that, he’s not capable)