He did the mash. The Geller mash.

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Thread 4. Wow. Thank you for putting up with my ramblings thus far, and for all the support - I couldn't have done it without you all.

Previous thread here

I can confirm he has purchased a masher. He sent me a picture of it and asked if it was alright

@drspouse - I had my birth certificate reissued in the name of my choice. I think there are a few they won’t let you use, but you can have virtually any that you like. It’s a legal name change here.

(Obvs can’t change birth details or I’d choose nicer, richer parents and be 25 years younger!)

OK, that's not legal in the UK, it records your name at birth as well as all the other details.

Shhhhhhh

Oh, my HEAD.

My lovely neighbour invited me over for garden drinks last night.

It was an ambush!

When I got there I went round the back to discover 4 of my best friends there with her, Bolly in hand, to congratulate me on doing so well and staying strong. To tell me to keep going and that I was doing the right thing, both for me and the girls.

So. Much. Champagne! There were tears and laughter and, I’m sorry, several hugs.

I staggered got home at midnight and oh, I KNOW I’m still tipsy but thank god for them all and thank god for you all.

Oh that’s so SO lovely, what a fabulous group of friends for a fabulous woman

Been lurking and cheering you on.
These are exactly the sort of friends that we all need. Bloody fantastic.
Hope the headache goes soon.

Women are ace!

Awwwwwwww 😍

That's brilliant! Go make yourself a bacon sarnie and sit quietly. 😉

That brought a slight tear to my eye. What fabulous friends you have! Of course they are right, you are doing the right thing for yourself and your girls 🥂

When you can face cooking you need a bacon sandwich.

This is a lovely update.

How lovely, what great pals you have.

What a fabulous update! Just goes to show what a wonderful person you are. Second the bacon sarnie for breakfast when you're up to it.

Best... Day... Ever...

Oh Polly that sounds so lovely.

Hope you have a fabulous rest of Easter weekend.

Here’s to amazing friends!

@drspouse In Australia you can have your birth certificate re-issued with your married/whatever name you want. Came in after 9/11, it's the only way you can have your Australian passport in your married name, the name on the passport has to match your birth certificate.

I had to go back to my 'maiden' name when I got divorced and wanted to renew my Aussie passport...which also meant I had to get a new British passport. Due to all the faff if I ever get married again I won't be changing my name!

@noirchatsdeux - you CAN go through Deed Poll here in Aus, but is much more expensive and you have to attain a lawyer. It costs under $200 to legally change name by having birth certificate reissued instead.

That sounds like an ideal moral booster.
Hoorah for the girls !!!!

That's amazing!
How did your neighbour manage to contact your best friends, wow, what a lovely thing to do!

@CharityDingle

That's amazing! How did your neighbour manage to contact your best friends, wow, what a lovely thing to do!

God, that's made me a bit emotional for you! Glad you got some hugs XX

Bolly for Polly sounds wonderful; what ace friends you have!

How lovely.
Good friends are priceless.

Honey on hot buttered toast is great for a head.

Awww Polly!!!! 💜💜💜

Oh that is so lovely!

Still got a raging hangover and had a 2 hour nap this afternoon 😂 never drunk so much tea and water! Picked up Chinese crispy duck pancakes for a dirty supper.

@CharityDingle I run with my neighbour and introduced her to one of my friends on the way back from a run last week - apparently they met again by chance last week on a walk and cooked it up.

Feeling very loved.

I’ve also told FWB (chats are lovely!) the truth - that I’ve spent the last 5 years being completely rejected both emotionally and physically (to the point where Geller would flinch if I touched his shoulder or push my hands away) so I’m a bit fragile and lacking in confidence - and likely to go overboard on the tactileness. He says he gets it and I can have all the cuddles I want when we meet up 😁 really looking forward to that now, nice to have it to focus on, a bit of me time!