He did the mash. The Geller mash.

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Thread 4. Wow. Thank you for putting up with my ramblings thus far, and for all the support - I couldn't have done it without you all.

Previous thread here

I can confirm he has purchased a masher. He sent me a picture of it and asked if it was alright

It's no good, I'm going to have to go to Lidl tomorrow.
By the way we make heavy use of Screen Time on the iPad and also Guided Access, both so that the DCs don't have me taking the iPad away "nothing I can do, look, it's stopped".

Polly I'm a lurker here. I use Moshi app for my 6 year old DD. It's a mindfulness app for kids with stories, music, meditation etc. It's great at bedtime and my DD usually falls asleep by the end of a 20 minute story. It has a week free trial. I'm fairly strict about no YouTube before bedtime. It's too overstimulating. During the day I haggle her down to 30 mins at a time. Good luck!

Your patience is impressive -especially on a long broken night like the one you described.

If this is ongoing - Remember that you are your DD's most important support and that you need to look after yourself for her sake - not just your own. If that means not allowing her in with you when she keeps you awake or allowing her screen/audio at times when you need rest - then fair enough.

We have just done an extra long dog walk to include Morrison's, I hope this Malbec is as nice as the Barefoot one I'm nearly finished!

Feeling the pressure @RandomMess - hope you enjoy!

Well my cold has set in with a vengeance and I feel AWFUL. Kids are having a pj day. I’m in the hot tears stage of feeling poorly.

We have Calm, and weighted blankets. DD1 was much better last night, although still awake quite a bit, I had her in with me so of course she has now started on this cold. You’re absolutely right, I must remember that @1WayOrAnother2

We are in middle of a localised Covid outbreak so are testing twice a week.

I messaged Geller to say that the last two weekends homework hasn’t been attached to Teams so hasn’t been marked, which is unfair on the children, so could he please submit it to the school so they knew it had been done.

His reply?

No. I knew that. It needs raising at parents evening. As that’s not fair. I have to say I don’t like this system.

Good luck with that one!!

In Other News...a date has been set for The Assignation 😁 and my new lingerie has arrived! Not great as had to guess sizing but a heck of a lot better than the current underwear, which til we’re out of lockdown and can go shopping is the best it’s going to get.

He doesn't realise it's not about what he likes does he?

Hope you start to feel better soon. P.s I hear gin is good for colds, though can't remember where I might have heard that valuable nugget of advice 🤔 I could be making it up for all I know 🤥

He doesn't like Teams? Welcome to the world of COVID! Schools use it, the NHS uses it, it's everywhere and he'd better grow up and get with it. Mind you, he'll be giving the teachers a good old laugh if he comes bleating in with 'it's not fair, I don't like Teams'!

Next time please liaise with the school and let them know they need to raise the homework issue with him or to email both of you due to the issues you are having with him.

You need to seriously minimise your contact with him. You could just message the school "I believe the DDs have completed this homework when they were at contact with their father"

Or actually better still say nothing to Geller and if/when the girls say something then explain Daddy needs to follow the school instructions. They need to know that things are his responsibility and you can't fix everything. Better a lesson to learn now than in 3 years time.

You need to stop managing his parenting and let him fail/deal with it. Although upsetting for the DDs you need to step away and bounce it back to the school.

I mean WTF he knows what he was supposed to do but hasn't done it??? I mean what possible reason other than to get at you or make a point with the school???

Hope you feel better soon, cold sounds grim

Thinking this through a bit.

Would it be a good idea to use one of these shared parenting Apps? I was thinking you mark up the calendar with his days and when you want to take them for holidays etc.

I am also thinking you use one with some sort of communication section so the Geller Complaints Monologue goes on that instead of an email or text to you??? So the school homework thing would just be a note on there "homework for x and y weekends not submitted" he would still respond but not to your phone???

Also DDs next medical appointments, if they fall on Geller days how are you going to handle it? I was thinking you say to him "I'll meet you at the hospital for DDs appointment as I'd like to be there" He will be stunned that you are expecting him to take her on his day but I think you need to push it as "of course you have to take her it's your day, I may not be able to make it last minute"

He needs the harsh reality of 40:60 parenting and he needs to get involved in her medical/SEN needs. Also not to rely on you to disseminate information from appointments he can't be bothered to go to.

Geez he's like pushing a rolling stone uphill.

So, he won't be attending any parents' evenings, then, as they're also moving online for many, many schools?

Oh, well.

Isn't this really that he doesn't want to install teams , or doesn't know to, or how it works ?
You are not there to do everything for him & he hasn't found a Pigeon who he can admit it to & get to explain it.

@Mix56

Isn't this really that he doesn't want to install teams , or doesn't know to, or how it works ? You are not there to do everything for him & he hasn't found a Pigeon who he can admit it to & get to explain it.

I think it's all about purposefully shirking his responsibilities in the hopes that Polly will take over ALL the homeschooling and homework duties so the children aren't penalized. That way all he has to do is 'Disney Dad'.

What a lazy entitled piece of shit he is.

The ultimate irony?

Guess the medium through which he conducts his career at present.

😂😂😂😂😂

Geez ignore him

@StuckInPollyannaMode the Malbec isn't a smooth/nice as the Barefoot one IMHO but I'll manage 😉

In other words go to Sainsbury's at get some Barefoot Malbec whilst it's on offer and we can compare preferences!!

Ugh he’s infuriating!!

I have Hortus gin and baklava from Lidl.

I've heard many recommendations for Harris gin. My good friends are going there this year so I am going to ask them to get me a bottle to try. My favourite gin has been Winchester dry gin. Tried it at the Winchester Christmas market a few years ago and am hooked. I also like Greenalls, Tanquary and Bombay Sapphire. I like my gin to taste of gin, not fruit flavoured. My neighbour gave us some pink stuff from Sainsbury's but it's so sharp, I saving it for summer to maybe even have with lemonade.

Ooh hope you like it longtompot and yes Congealedcrags it has sugar kelp in it so it is is practically one of your 5 a day!! . Plus the bottle is really pretty too.

I would think time for an open, frank chat with head teacher about him and his actual ability to use teams van his unwillingness to facilitate kids homework.

Maybe even show her his stupid, royal “OPINION” about the school’s policy on using Teams...

My tight arse H bought some Gilberts Gin as I had run out, it must have been on the bottom shelf. Not recommended.😓
Re Teams, could you respond.
"You will have to suck it up, & do whatever is necessary for the girls benefit when they are your charge.
You manage teams for work interestingly."
Most people here will say dont answer,

I think its good for the paper trail.

My exh (emotionally abusive, manipulative, nasty, I've written about him on other threads under different names) tried to insist we have a virtual parents evening together. Went on about how awkward it must be for teachers to have to talk about the same child twice etc, so we MUST be in the zoom meeting together. I haven't spoken to him in person for three years, let alone seen him in the flesh (🤮), so why he think I'm suddenly going to want to be in a zoom meeting with him, who knows. He seems get little ideas in his head and runs with them! So I emailed school asking if it was OK for them to do two separate meetings and would they mind. They said they're used to it, done it loads before for separated parents, they understand the situation and why has he suddenly decided now as he hasn't shown any interest at attending ever before! (ds is in yr9)! I love that school😁 They'll have the measure of him son enough @Polly.

Funny how these men get things all worked out in their head and are then totally incredulous when the mother/school says NO. They are so used to everyone just falling into line while they call the shots.

@StuckInPollyannaMode - agh, so sorry about your gruesome cold. Wish I could bring you a home made lasagne and a pot of chicken soup.