Kept up by the cats but I slept through woke up to horrid text

[Thelovecats69]

My husband was up late last night gaming.
When he does this he Skypes his friends and has noise cancelling headphones so ends up loudly chatting/shrieking through them.

Me and DD were having a sleep over in the lounge, or at least trying - my house is small, one level and open plan. Aka you can hear everything.

At 11.30 he pokes his head in and asks me why Iv gone to bed without telling him. I say he was clearly busy and I was tired. Plus we aren’t sleeping in the same bed tonight anyway so why does it matter.

He texts me ‘did you go to bed because you wanted to get out of sex?’

This is half joking half not. He wants sex every night. I don’t. It’s a sticking point at the moment.

He has had a beer and carries on gaming. I eventually fall asleep with my dd. (Shes 4)

DD and I get up in the night to use the loo, I think twice.

I hear dh get up once and shut the cats out , I assume they are being noisy although didn’t hear anything. I do have form for not hearing much whilst I’m sleeping, although that’s because I work full time so when I sleep I SLEEP! My husband stays at home. And apparently hasn’t had a full nights sleep since 2014. 😒

I woke up this morning to the following texts at 6am.

‘If you wake me, I am going to be mad’
‘You have not got up once’
‘Except for a piss.
The WHOLE night’

‘You let the cats in
You are single’

I haven’t woken him up this morning and have shushed dd when she’s started being loud. I came on here as I have no idea what to say or do about this.
When I went to get a drink I opened the kitchen door and the cats ran in, but I chucked them back out into the garden for now.

Brilliant update!

I hadn’t realised it was an old thread until your update, well done, hope this week goes well 💐

Wow he left you?? Don't tell me, he's gone home to mummy and daddy.....please, please, please will you put collars and bells on your cats so they're not killing/maiming quite as much of the local wildlife though. Have a wonderful life without him, it sounded like you were doing everything before so I doubt it'll be any more work, just less noise, less mess and less crap sex.

Congratulations

Good for you!

I feel as though I've seen this before

Stay at home dad and up all night gaming. Plus getting out of sex... like he's entitled to it! I'd leave the bastard!

Brilliant!! Good luck in your new, happier life! It will be hard at first until you break the habit of not having him around but then it will get easier and you will be glad.

Don't know how you got him out but so glad you did! Hope you, DD and cats enjoy your new peaceful life.

Thankyou so much for the update wishing you and your dd oodles of happiness just remember don't take him back

So happy for you. Welcome to the best chapter of your life. 🌸

Here’s to a happy rest of your life ! 🥂🍾🥳

He's not worth even one cat! Well done at getting rid.

Congratulations on your new life

You absolute legend OP, inspiration to us all. So glad you have changed your life. Hope DD and the cats are thriving!

I didn't see your thread first time around, but having read it now, I am so pleased for you.

Get rid of him.

Looks like I didn't read the thread again!!!!!

I am so glad to hear that he is out!

@Thelovecats69

Well, lovely ladies…

It took me another 3 months before I did it. But I left him.
Or rather he left me, so I have the house and can keep my job.

When he left I felt relief.
I kept busy but today feel reflective and to be honest, a little lonely.

I came on mumsnet to occupy myself and saw this thread and it reminded me why I got here.

Just wanted to give you an update and say Thankyou for your kind words, helpful advice and resounding LEAVE HIM response.

I have no idea how I’m going to juggle full time work and childcare by myself, but I’m taking it week by week.

Thankyou.

best thing ive read all day! congratulations!

he is a loser! did he just leave willingly?

do you still have your mice loving cats?

Well done! So pleased you left. I hope you can think of something to combat the loneliness x

Be glad he's gone. He was a waste of space and a drain on your own health.

I hope you and your DD are happy going forward.

Wow.

Just read your thread .

Well done! All the best for the future!

@Thelovecats69

Thank goodness he's gone!! He was an absolute millstone around your neck and abusive too! You and your daughter are better without his physical presence in your lives.

Hope you have changed the locks (or at least the barrels) in case he has a change of mind - and that you've changed ALL your passwords, so banking, social media, Sky, Netflix, Amazon etc. as well as checked if you are eligible for any benefits www.entitledto.co.uk and also claiming your 25% council tax discount as a sole occupier?

Also when funds permit maybe learn to drive? That will make your life easier too.

Good luck for the future. 🌹

Wow, it's great to hear your update OP, that sounds like a great result for you.

You (like most people) are probably asleep while I reply with my insomnia addled brain, but I'm pleased you're rid of him, he sounded like an awful excuse for a man. Have you changed the locks yet? Also, be prepared for him to come crawlimg back, armed with a sob story and promising you he'll change (unlikely, but once he realises how expensive and inconvenient living somewhere else is, he might well change his mind). Keep posting, I think many people will be delighted to hear how you're getting on, and will be able to offer you lots of practical advice.