They always always say it's you.
If you ever get to know about their last relationships, you'll see signs it's their default behaviour. But they could never ever admit it's them ... So they'll always convince themselves and try to convince you it's you.
I was with a man who had some similar behavioural traits. He told he me it was a. Because I told him I'd cheated on an ex, and b. Because if the strength & uniqueness of his feelings for me (he's fallen in love and this was the first time in years).
He had started, from about three months into the relationship, trying to get me to agree to an arrangement that we would not socialise separately from each other (despite not even living together and seeing each other only once or twice a week). I wouldn't agree to it (even if we'd been living together or seen each other more, I wouldn't have agreed to it).
He started "cracking up" when I socialised separately from him (he was angry, critical, threatening to finish the relationship or finishing it but later not following through. After the incidents he'd make critical comments and question me about absolutely anything I said about the social events during natural conversation).(He also criticised many things I mentioned about past situations, before I met him, that I'd said during other normal conversations).
He told me he'd had no problem with previous girlfriends socialising separately from him; it was just me (because of the above) .... He would stop for an occasion or two but always return to the explosions over me socialising separately or even plans to do so.
Like many people, he was capable of getting into a conversation about past events and get carried away/lose discretion .. he tended to talk a lot about one of his exes who he clearly still held a lot of animosity towards; he let it slip during one convo about her (where he got carried away in his triumph that she'd been caught out lying) that he'd actually dumped her because she'd gone on a girls night out at a time when they weren't getting on.
Yeah .. the guy who told me very confidently that he only had a problem with me going out separately because I was a past cheater and also he'd fallen in love this time; had somehow weirdly had a problem with this ex socialising separately too. He also omitted to realise when he told me that she'd lied about being out in the girls night out but had been caught out (by being seen by a mutual acquaintance who told him) .. that I could draw the conclusion that she felt she had to lie. Why would anyone lie about something like joining some other women on a girls night out : if they thought there'd be no problem with it on their relationship??
They're all the same, they're the same with ever woman (to.skme extent of another), they always say it's you. It's not.
Just be grateful you have no child with him.
He's dressed you out with the endless shit these guys come out with; which just have an effect on you being happy, relaxed etc ..
That has a knick on effect on your child. Don't let him keep doing that, even when you're not seeing him any longer. You deserve to be happy and relaxed; and your child deserves to have a happy, relaxed, undistracted parent. Dint let him face that effect in their life.
He's nothing but an abuser.
And a very common garden type of one at that.