Dating Thread 200 - Spring is in the Air, Ghosters Beware

[cravingthelook]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Shayelle2009

Yeh its not a no but its not a yes - personally I'd just leave it and he can contact you back if he wants, but I wouldn't send another invitation?

My message said I was thinking of doing a walk over the next fortnight so to let me know if he fancied coming along and get coffee/food etc (he got me a lovely street food lunch when we met and we talked a lot about food).

So after the tennis/night shift cancellation I've let him know I want to meet again (and doesn't really need an immediate reply) but the ball is in his court. Let's see what happens.

I've decided going forward I don't really want to socialise or date anyone if it involves too much effort on my part

If someone needs me to be a cool flirtatious party girl who sends loads of cute or sexy messages/plans fun stuff to get a guys attention then I just feel shit about myself - I had some truly awful "friends" and dates in my 20's as I was being someone I'm not.

So unless someone is Ok socialising with me in a low key way (coffee and walks and dull chat) I'm going to phase them out.

I agree @SpringlikeBunk its just not the time for cool flirtatious party girl is it.. hopefully those kind of times will be back again in the coming weeks/months! I have actually screen shotted your advice on the last page as its really good ☺️ So much healthier to chill and just let things flow.

" Clean please or it's Febreze "

@LuckyLinda3 it is disrespectful and you are indeed Lucky to not be attached to him any more!

New vote for widening our areas 😂

Ha ha count me in @Mayzee!!!

@Shayelle2009

No more pining cos we’ll be wining and dining??? Hmmm ☺️

I like this one!

The last 50 posts of every thread could be devoted to the next snappy thread title contest. I vote for 'widening our areas'. We might get another thread under our belt before we can actually wine and dine so best to save that one.

I am (for the purposes of comedy) going to ask what is this thing called Febreze ? Is it a pheromone ?

@HairyArsedMan hilarious!!!

Ironically my 3 month wonder who I'm no longer under dropped me as his area wasn't wide enough.

The more people we can encourage to widen their area the better. I vote for that one too.

Ah well I'm going to combine the favourites... 😂😂 off to make the new thread now 😁

I did it... I hope you approve

Dating Thread 201: Get out from under your 3 month wonder and widen your areas www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4199465-dating-thread-201-get-out-from-under-your-3-month-wonder-and-widen-your-areas