Crush on neighbour

[AdaHopper]

I have a huge crush on my neighbour across the street. I am recently divorced and still living in the marital home. I am moving to my own house at the end of March.

When I told my next door neighbour about the divorce recently, she said, 'oh like Mr x' across the road.

Mr. X just happens to be dreamy. I have never really paid much attention before because I was married as was he. But now I can't stop thinking about him.

But I am soooo out of practice. How do I go about this without losing face? I already sent a message to the street whatsapp to offer eggs to any willing neighbour (chicken eggs, obviously) and he came to collect some. So what now?

Also, he lives literally across the street. On the minute chance he is also interested, would it be really akward seeing as his house overlooks my STBX's house? My ex lives in the US 5 weeks out of 8 if that's relevant.

Help me out mumsnet. What's my next move? Or should I wait for him?

Does he stop to chat when passing? Maybe you could ask how he is to get the conversation going?
Give him your number incase he would like any more eggs when you move, gives him an opportunity to message if he's interested.

I have his number as we are both in the 'party committee' of our street. I had a chat with him when he picked up the eggs. Yesterday I sent him a message to let him know he can come for more when he wants more. He said thanks.
Now what? I should just keave it until I bump into him, right? We don't often bump into each other though.
I am loving the 'crush' feeling though. Very refreshing after the horribleness of betrayal and divorce.

Bit of an awkward one as you don't know how he's feeling after his divorce. Do you get the vibes that he fancies you?
Just be very friendly and if he wants to talk to you or ask you out he has your number.

when he comes for the eggs, ask him if he would like a cuppa or a walk and have a socially distanced chat in the fresh air. See how the land lies, if he responds positively ask him out for a "date" walk. the worst he can say is "no"

Good idea. I was thinking of asking on the street whatsapp if someone wants a walk and see if he responds. The only issue is that my ex is also in that group. Or maybe that would be a bonus.

If your ex already lives on the same street as you then it feels very close to home pursuing something with another neighbour, but maybe not dependent on how amicable you are with him I guess? Seeing if he is responsive to going for a walk can't hurt much I guess but maybe better to say it to him rather than sharing with all? If only to avoid having to go for loads of walks with people you can't be arsed with

I've had similar experience (recent break up, crush on someone) and TBH I would just ease up a bit and not rush it.

I think back to all the ideas I had to try and connect with this guy and I'm glad I've not done anything! There's time, don't rush it and do consider whether this is also fuelled by your recent turmoil.

Maybe give it until you move, then parting shot ask him/let him know you'd like to stay in touch?

My marriage actually broke down about 2 years ago when STBX moved to the US because his career is more important to him than his family.

The neigbour crush is more of a sign that I am ready to start dating I think. OLD doesn't work for me and in Corona times being single is boring and hard.

So, it is a harmless fun way for me to flex my flirting skills. I am not really expecting anything to come out of it, but it is fun thinking of the possibilities.

Also, maybe he could also do with the distraction. If nothing else, at least this could be a frienship in lonely times.

I say go for it!! Next week you could leave some eggs on his front porch with a note and say if he fancies a walk sometime to let you know! It puts the ball into his court! Good luck op! X

I like that idea.

Please report back then!

I will. I gave him 12 eggs so I'll leave it a while. I should have just given him 6. 🤣.

Just tell him you have some eggs that have been neglected for a while if he is interested. He sounds like an egg man!

Just don't put all your eggs in one basket.

I had a crush on one of my neighbours.

He's upstairs in bed

Message him to say you have more eggs and you’ve kept the best ones for him. When he comes over offer him a coffee and biscuit and get chatting!

I married the boy next door 20 years ago.

Go for it!!!!

Go on some dating sites and see if he is in them?

''How do you like your eggs in the morning?''

Perhaps there is a way to incorporate that song into a flirty text? 🤔

😂

great eggdeas!

Sorry to put a downer on this but how many threads have we all seen like this where everyone is all exciting and encouraging to pursue a person (because it’s easy when you’re not the one involved) and then things haven’t worked out? I would take it slow. He hasn’t given any indication that he’s interested (not to say that he isn’t) but I’d hang back a little. I like the idea of dropping off the eggs on his door step but I don’t know if you need to leave a note or anything. Just see how he responds to that first. A decent person would send a text to say thank you, then you could initiate conversation from that and see how it flows. There’s no rush, you don’t want either of you to feel uncomfortable when you live so close. It’s great that you’re feeling this way towards someone though - exciting times and keep us posted 😉

@MaLarkinn

I had a crush on one of my neighbours.

He's upstairs in bed

😂😂😂 love this

I wouldn't leave a note about asking for a walk I would how ever leave more eggs with a note just saying had these spare thought you would like them . Name on the end . That's it . If he is interested he will text you . It is hard to judge because any decent person with manors would text back thanks anyways . But if he does try to make conversation. If he carries on all well and good if he doesn't then leave it there x

I am taking it slow. I sent him a text after the last eggchange and he replied to that. He said the eggs were nice. And very white and big.
I replied that the second box had small brown eggs as I don't discriminate.
Cringe right?
He did reply straight away with 'difference is good' and a winky face.

That was a few days ago. Also, when he came to collect the eggs 🥚, he mentioned he had noticed I was running a lot.

My STBX is around until tuesday so I am not doing anything until then for sure.

Also, he is my neighbour now but won't be in 5 weeks time, when I move.

So your stbxh will still be living in your house opposite this guy? Sounds like a recipe for disaster. Just leave it until your living arrangements settle. Your bed isn't even cold.