Crush on neighbour

[AdaHopper]

I have a huge crush on my neighbour across the street. I am recently divorced and still living in the marital home. I am moving to my own house at the end of March.

When I told my next door neighbour about the divorce recently, she said, 'oh like Mr x' across the road.

Mr. X just happens to be dreamy. I have never really paid much attention before because I was married as was he. But now I can't stop thinking about him.

But I am soooo out of practice. How do I go about this without losing face? I already sent a message to the street whatsapp to offer eggs to any willing neighbour (chicken eggs, obviously) and he came to collect some. So what now?

Also, he lives literally across the street. On the minute chance he is also interested, would it be really akward seeing as his house overlooks my STBX's house? My ex lives in the US 5 weeks out of 8 if that's relevant.

Help me out mumsnet. What's my next move? Or should I wait for him?

Any update? Xx

Nothing I'm afraid. No contact at all. DD1 had exams this week meaning she came home early and I have been busy packing so there hasn't reallt been an opportunity to meet anyway.
Schoold have closed a week early for Easter where I am so there won't really be an opportunity next week either.
So no update.

So...9 months on and I see sexy neighbour regularly as a friend.

He came to mine tonight to help me install a catflap. I cooked a dinner for him.

He looked gorgeous and smelled great.
But I still have no idea if he is at all interested and can't bring myself to flirt.

Also, he has told me he is non-monogamous. That is not something that puts me off necessarily. I don't see myself in a relationship with him tbh. But basically I am still in the lusting over him stage and enjoying it.

And this way I can ask him to come and fix things in my house 😊.

also he has told me he is non-monogamous

Hmm… is that how he ended up being single again?

As a bloke, and given he was previously monogamously attached, dropping something this personal into a conversation with a woman would indicate “I’d like to have sex with you but don’t expect any commitments”. He’s testing the water and leaving it open for you to say something like “oh, something like that would suit me too.”

No, in fact his ex left for someone else.

I think it's a valid lifestyle that I am not really dismissing. It might actually be something that could work for me.

At the moment I am keeping it strictly 'friends' though. I'll have to have a boozy night out with him at some point to see if there is a spark.

In the meanwhile I still see my FWB on and off and that is fine the way it is too.