Crush on neighbour

[AdaHopper]

I have a huge crush on my neighbour across the street. I am recently divorced and still living in the marital home. I am moving to my own house at the end of March.

When I told my next door neighbour about the divorce recently, she said, 'oh like Mr x' across the road.

Mr. X just happens to be dreamy. I have never really paid much attention before because I was married as was he. But now I can't stop thinking about him.

But I am soooo out of practice. How do I go about this without losing face? I already sent a message to the street whatsapp to offer eggs to any willing neighbour (chicken eggs, obviously) and he came to collect some. So what now?

Also, he lives literally across the street. On the minute chance he is also interested, would it be really akward seeing as his house overlooks my STBX's house? My ex lives in the US 5 weeks out of 8 if that's relevant.

Help me out mumsnet. What's my next move? Or should I wait for him?

Does the neighbour know you are divorcing and moving away?

My STBX moved to the US 2 years ago. He made that decision all by himself. I found out 5 months after he left that he had had an affair with his secratary before he left.
I don't care if this would be akward for him or not tbh.
I am still in the house because he is usually not here and it makes practical sense.
The 'bed isn't cold yet' is not really relevant here.

Also, it is not as if I am thinking of asking the neighbour to marry me. It is just a crush.

The neighbour knows, yes.

You like him. Sounds like he might like you. I would ask him out. Life's too short.

I would just crank up the flirting a notch and ask him out.
If he says no, your moving anyway so wont have to live with the embarrassment for long.
If he says yes, well hey ho!

update
He just sent me a message saying he likes my eggs and asked if he can come by tomorrow and get some more.

Eeek! What now? Do I just say yes and ask him if he wants a drink in the garden tomorrow?

Do you think the ‘big and white’ might have been hinting at something.

Yes! Definitely op!

Cup of tea, drink...just invite him eitherway...you just need an opportunity to get chatting & see if you are compatible on other levels apart from just being divorced & neighbours. I don't know how subtle (or not) you are...but play a bit hard to get...you don't want want to just have a fling for the 5 weeks til you move....or maybe you do, starting on Tues 😂

Yep ask him

Tbh - a fling would actually be fine by me.

Ok, I will leave his message unread for a couple of hours and then reply. I'll give him a time after the DC are in bed and invite him for a drink around the fire in the garden.

I just sold my appartment (it was rented out, not where I live) and haven't had a chance to celebrate. I will use that as an excuse.

What does 'playing hard to get' look like these days? I have 3 DC for 6 out of 8 weeks. And I work fulltime. So I don't think there is a way for me not to be 'hard to get' at the monent .

@AdaHopper

Hard to get = don't jump his bones the second he appears in the garden, much as you might be tempted ! 😂

Could you angle the timing so DC are busy & not interrupting every 5 mins. Mine would be the curious sort, possibly standing & staring at him & then rattling off q's and constantly saying 'my Daddy did this that & the other...'! If they are little could they be in bed or ,if bigger then watching a movie so you 'chat' 😉

Got it, no jumping bones.

I would prefer he comes by late when the DC are in bed. So i might only reply to his message late tomorrow.

I had this exact same scenario (pre-covid).
I requested to borrow a certain item on the road WhatsApp app, he immediately arrived on my step with it. I invited him for a cup of tea out of courtesy. The rest is history. Several holidays together, birthdays, two christmases and a pandemic later we’ve just finished decorating the attic floor together.

I wanna know what he's done with 12 eggs to need more! He's deffo after an excuse to come see you! X

Ignore my previous comment, didn't realise this thread wasn't started tonight lol!

This sounds eggseptionally nice even if he just likes eggs . Could you start putting them in fun places with faces on? Terrible idea in terms of developing a flirtation but think of the fun you could have. I would glue little twig arms on them too and maybe some could queue to get in to a Playmobile bus , and one could be broken with a play mobile ambulance next to it depending on availability of toys from your DC

Your op sounds so familiar. Didn't you post about this a few weeks ago....

He clearly likes you. Just ask him round to get the eggs and for a drink once the kids are in bed. Why mess around?

@Looseleaf

This sounds eggseptionally nice even if he just likes eggs . Could you start putting them in fun places with faces on? Terrible idea in terms of developing a flirtation but think of the fun you could have. I would glue little twig arms on them too and maybe some could queue to get in to a Playmobile bus , and one could be broken with a play mobile ambulance next to it depending on availability of toys from your DC

I'm totally into this.

He could just really like eggs.

Fun eggs - I'll keep that jdea for later .

Is someone else having an eggsaga if a similar thread was on here? It wasn't me,

I am going to bed. I'll let you know what happens tonorrow.

Also - I am loving the 'happily ever after' neighbour stories.

Don’t leave it til late tomorrow to reply to his message. Reply in the morning tomorrow, try and strike up the conversation again. Try to be straightforward cos you don’t want to risk him thinking you’re not that bothered.

I followed your advice Lampan and send him a message last night. I told him that of course he is welcome to come and get more eggs and that I would love to hear what he makes with the eggs. I also said I would let him know when would suit me for him to come around.

I was thinking of sending him a message later and ask if he wants to have a drink by the fire in the garden tonight (if the weather holds out).

Tbh - even if there is no interest from his side at all, it would be nice to have a single friend to chat to. Being newly single is very lonely during Corona. I have 1 single friend but she lives 100k away from me.

Wish me luck!!

@MuckyPlucky

"decorating the attic floor together" - that's a euphemism I haven't come across before.....

It's better to have fought and lost than to not have fought at all!