Crush on neighbour

[AdaHopper]

I have a huge crush on my neighbour across the street. I am recently divorced and still living in the marital home. I am moving to my own house at the end of March.

When I told my next door neighbour about the divorce recently, she said, 'oh like Mr x' across the road.

Mr. X just happens to be dreamy. I have never really paid much attention before because I was married as was he. But now I can't stop thinking about him.

But I am soooo out of practice. How do I go about this without losing face? I already sent a message to the street whatsapp to offer eggs to any willing neighbour (chicken eggs, obviously) and he came to collect some. So what now?

Also, he lives literally across the street. On the minute chance he is also interested, would it be really akward seeing as his house overlooks my STBX's house? My ex lives in the US 5 weeks out of 8 if that's relevant.

Help me out mumsnet. What's my next move? Or should I wait for him?

@Faerysmoke

You like him. Sounds like he might like you. I would ask him out. Life's too short.

Because he's accepted some eggs? Need more to go in than that n

@AdaHopper

So....what happened...did it get hot by the fire 🔥🔥?

Dying to know!

I’m impatiently awaiting news!!!

Ooh good luck! I hope things work out the way you want them to! Keep it straightforward and friendly, less chance for stress that way, and if you gain a new friend in him then that’s a good outcome in itself 🙂

No fire tonight. It started raining in the evening.
I did send him a message that he could drop by after 9pm but he didn't read it until after midnight.
I'll juat drop him off a box tomorrow and leave it at that for now.

If anything changes, I'll update here.

No don’t drop him a box off, let him come over to collect them. When he’s there ask if he fancies a coffee/wine or whatever and chat a bit. See how it goes..

For goodness sake, there’s nothing to be lost here, except time.

If you don’t ask you don’t get.

It’s not a military operation. Spring is in the air too, you can invite him for a walk and “forget” to put your knix on! 👗

The mistake you've made is leaving it ages to reply, then telling him to come after 9pm. That's too late. I know you wanted to have your kids in bed first but if I was him I'd find it odd if my neighbour was being so precise about what time I could pop over for a box of eggs.
If he's going to be coming every few days for a box I'd try and build a rapport before I went in for the kill and invited him over late at night.

FWIW I think he's into you too OP. 🤞🏼🥚

I sent him a message that I am WFH today and I have no meetings in the afternoon so he is welcome to come and I can also offer him a coffee in the garden.

He is coming at 1!

If I am really honest, the chances of anything more than friendship to come out of this are pretty slim. I am enjoying the silly crush feelings though. And this thread.

Ask him if he likes his eggs coddled.....

Shameless placemarking right here!

please keep us updated OP- I'm starting dating soon and I need good stories- I am studiously avoiding all the OLD threads on here- I want hope only!

Even if nothing comes from it, a coffee in the garden on a sunny day with some good company isn't so bad.

This is some Desperate Housewives shit and I looove it.

It's all a bit Jilly Cooper, and you know how her books escalate into naughtiness!! Blatant placemarking!!

He has appeared in my dreams the last 2 nights. And NO, not thos kinds of dreams.

He just left. He stayed for a good hour. It definetly has not helped my crush. I feel like a teenager.

Turns out his divorce timeline is almost exactly the same as mine.

Regular coffee breaks during WFH days could be just the tickets.

Aw love that it went well!

Hooray!

Yay! Great news!!

Yay a bit of excitement and a crush is just the ticket in lockdown op!

This is great, harmless fun. You seem to enjoy each other’s company, that’s the main thing. At the very least, it’ll be nice to have a pal nearby. Must be lonely having to deal with all you’ve had to and single parent most of the time without someone you can hang out with and get some adult time in with. I’ve felt isolated at times because of my DH’s work and moving a lot, finding that one new friend to click would make a world of difference!

Ooh exciting! We’re you getting flirty vibes from him?