Crush on neighbour

[AdaHopper]

I have a huge crush on my neighbour across the street. I am recently divorced and still living in the marital home. I am moving to my own house at the end of March.

When I told my next door neighbour about the divorce recently, she said, 'oh like Mr x' across the road.

Mr. X just happens to be dreamy. I have never really paid much attention before because I was married as was he. But now I can't stop thinking about him.

But I am soooo out of practice. How do I go about this without losing face? I already sent a message to the street whatsapp to offer eggs to any willing neighbour (chicken eggs, obviously) and he came to collect some. So what now?

Also, he lives literally across the street. On the minute chance he is also interested, would it be really akward seeing as his house overlooks my STBX's house? My ex lives in the US 5 weeks out of 8 if that's relevant.

Help me out mumsnet. What's my next move? Or should I wait for him?

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When will you tell him you like your eggs fertilised?

When will you tell him you like your eggs fertilised?*
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Flirty - not as such. But he stayed for 2 coffees. I did just enjoy looking at him whilst he talked.

I think I'll take the friendship route and who knows what will happen when at some point alcohol will get involved. 🥳

At this point I am not sure how he sees me. We have known each other for years, just always from a distance.

I have always thought he was hot though. Full head of hair. And he is creative. I like that in a man.

So I hope you asked the reason for his marriage breakdown?, hope he's not a nutter

I did, though not in great detail. He has his DC 50/50 and seems to communicate well with his ex. So confident he is a nutter nor an abuser
I am yet to find out who initiated the split though. It was a 'growing apart' scenario. That is all I know for now.
I'll invite him for a coffee next week when STBXH has left for the US again. I am staying at a friends a few days now (yes, she is my support bubble, or at least the equivalent in my country).

I just love this! Hope there’s another instalment soon!

Seeing as my life is on the right track to becoming soap-worthy, I will give you a plot twist.

I actually have a FWB who I have seen very regularly since the summer when SBXH was very sure our marriage was over.
I have known FWB since I was 18. At the time he was the love of my life and we were together for 3 years. We have stayed in touch on and off since then.
Now we are both single after a heavy break-up.

I don't want to fall for him again as there is no relationship possible there. He was a great distraction for a while but now I need a distraction from my distraction .

So yeah - it is tragic. But actually, I am having a great time. It is good to feel again, even if it is like a teenager.

dum..dum..dum..

Op - so lovely to hear of your potential romance. I'm a LP who hasn't seen another potential date for months... Wish you all the best :)

OP would it help things to print a special stamp on each egg? The attached example from Etsy is only an example

Unfortunatly I think he is actually not into me. I sent him a message on monday asking if he wanted to come for a coffee. He replied straight away but said he was too busy monday but perhaps later in the week. Since then, nothing. Oh well.

He might have a deadline. He might be scared to be too keen. It’s only Wednesday.

I did leave a small box with eggs on his doorstep in the afternoon. I opted not to use the suggested note though. I just noticed he has sent me a whatsapp and invited me over to his tomorrow or friday.

Aww lovely update op. Only just read the thread. Good luck for when you see him next

Please keep this posted... I'm eagerly watching

An eggcellent update!

Just got back and I am all giddy. From the questions he asked, I think he might be interested. Maybe.

OMG I love this. So much.
He might well be just taking it nicely like people used to.

Well I am in no hurry. From what I know of him now, he is a really nice guy.
He still gets on well with his ex. He told me today that she is seeing someone else now and that he is ok with it. I am hoping he told me this as a way to indicate that he is ready to date.
I was only there for an hour as we both had meetings to get to. I wish restaurants were open. Then there would be the possibility of a proper date.
Should I wait for him to make the next move now?

Coming from someone who shagged their neighbour and it ended horrificly badly.
Please god don't.

I think a brief ‘thanks for coffee, have a good weekend’ is polite but wouldn’t do much more for now. Play it casual but pleasant.
Eeeeeek though it’s exciting when you find someone nice!

Sorry it ended badly for you Flob. I have the advantage of moving in 2.5 weeks, so he won't be a neihbour for long.

I might send a thanks. Or something else casual this weekend.

His DS is interested in the same hobby my DS does apparently. So there are many ways to stay in contact casually.

I’m so glad it’s sounding friendly and positive whether it leads anywhere or not - well done OP!

My mum married her next door neighbour and had my 16 year old sister to him... they're still together. Why don't you thank him for coffee, remind him you're moving soon, and would he like to see you again before so?

There have been a few message conversations over the weekend, but all of them started by me. All practical stuff. For example, I asked if he has any use for a bunch of bananas as I had accidentally bought 4 bunches instead of 4 actual bananas. I was thinking of asking him which coffee beans he uses as his coffee was great. Or I was thinking of suggesting we do a cooking workshop together as he has mentioned he likes to cook. I have just noticed that my (planned) interactions with him are all food /coffee related ....

I should really just leave it and let him make the next move, shouldn't I?

Stop prattling on about bananas and coffee beans - ask him out