Online dating in your 40s.. part 4

[Shayelle2009]

The sagas continue..

Glad to read updates, glad he has a nice voice too! Bet you are pleased you went back on Tinder 😊

Spreadsheet has calmed down a bit, I'm being direct now though and saying I have stuff to be getting on with! He did say he has got me a gift for our date, not sure if that's sweet or not. I'm definitely not getting creepy vibes but it's going to be oh so awkward if I don't like him I think.

@Eesha how are you doing? Any new irons? Has Mr Yoga been in touch at all. Hope things are okay with you.

@bangheadhere40 Hey, no it's been 2 weeks now with no contact. It's ok, perhaps for the best. No irons though I haven't been actively looking. My heart isn't in it plus with my toddlers, I'm not feeling like I have much to offer. That said, had lots of work done on my place, my first Covid jab yesterday which means I can see my family with less anxiety (they've had it too), plus a job interview in a week that I'm prepping for. I'm looking forward to the children going back, for them and also for me to start exercising with my walks so focussing on looking a bit better in real life!! Glad things are looking positive for people on the thread too!

Morning all, here's to a nice new week. My ex messaged yesterday afternoon to ask if I'd like to go for a walk and then again in the evening to see if I'd like to go for a drive. I replied but declined politely. Still on the apps though but so am I so I cant read too much into that. I'm still confused, he isint overly direct, I'll say I'm out for a walk and he'll say sure let's meet up and walk together. Then I think I'm not making it easy either!!

@bangheadhere40 i think it's cute hes got you a gift, if hes not giving you a creepy vibe then its cute! Id be chuffed if physical said hes got me a gift 😍

@Eesha im glad youre ok and just taking time to do you at the minute! Its a healthy way to be 💗

@LuckyLinda3 haha bet youre driving him mad now 😂

@Shayelle2009 I probably am but I'm not playing a game. I'm really trying to protect myself as I do like him. What do you think?

I'm rapidly losing interest in Mr Homeless, not particularly anything he has done or is doing. Im just not "feeling" it today, not sure what's happened? He's messaged quite a bit today, and it's starting to feel like a chore, just can't envisage keeping this up for another 4 weeks 😭. I've told him I'm flat out with work and I'll message him later....I'm not flat out, just got a meh feeling.

Oh dear pineapple that's how I'm feeling and I'm not sure why. It seems a chore though....

Maybe he's messaging you more as you brought up the lack of messaging

Difficult isn't it, not sure what to do either!

Omg @pineappleonpizzaornot i wasnt expecting to read that!! I think everyone needs a bit of time and space to regroup and breathe.. esp if its been quite intense... plus its only Monday, the crappest day!! You’ll get your mojo back @bangheadhere40 too 😁

You might just feel a bit ‘meh’ in yourself and pin it onto homeless. We cant always be effervescent 24/7/365 😊

Physical and i swapped a few tunes on spotify first thing and had a little chat but not messaged since... glad he doesnt bombard !

@LuckyLinda3 i think just keep doing what youre doing, just be careful he doesnt catch you at a weak moment though and you let him in... hes trying to get a hook in lol! x

@Shayelle2009 so you reckon I should avoid at all costs?

Thanks @Shayelle2009, and @Bangheadhere40, the conversations are just getting a bit "blurgh boring", I can't be arsed to keep finding things to talk about, that's why I've cut it short today. There's only so much telly you can talk about!
Maybe it's because it's Monday, I'm totally fed up of lockdown, and didn't seem to have 5 minutes over the weekend, I'm shattered!
I'm pleased it's going super duper well with physical 😁😁🙌🙌
Banghead, we seem to be going through exactly the same 🤦‍♀️🤪

Only you know how you feel Linda.. do you want to see him?

Aww Pineapple youre only human.. we all need a breather at times x

@Shayelle2009 I'm in two minds. I wonder if it's the physical thing that keeps bringing him back. He has messaged a few times today too but mostly about general stuff but getting a wee but flirty too

Oooh its hard if the physical was good @LuckyLinda3 but is it enough for you... maybe hes just not capable of more or has any emotional capability.. i think some men dont... its hard isnt it

Aw so true @Shayelle2009 and thank you for your compassion. I know I struggle to let someone get close and we seemed to be getting there. Sometimes I wish I could be more chilled and just go with things to see.....

Hi all I've found you again! Good to read all the updates @Shayelle2009 sounds good! @pineappleonpizzaornot hope yours improves. There is light at the end of the tunnel with the kids going back and lock down easing so I hope all your lovely ladies and men get everything you deserve

Hi @ivegotthisyeah 👋 how are you! Hows it going with your guy?

@LuckyLinda3 but something wasn’t working for you at the time, don't forget that, i think you did seem very chilled... him keep popping up like this is going to mess your head up and get you thinking about him.

@Shayelle2009 hi!
Good maybe too good to be true but I'm trying to stick to day to day rather than the future.
I can't find anything wrong so far but keep thinking maybe it's a lockdown thing and we life resumes it will go tits up but that's my mind set after being hurt.
He's caring, talks, messages rings buys me flowers 🙈 what did I do to deserve this so I'm lapping it up 😆

@ivegotthisyeah - He sounds a keeper!
@Shayelle2009 - How is it going with Mr Physical?
@bangheadhere40 - Hows Mr Spreadsheet - you still chatting?
@LuckyLinda3 - Hope you are feeling less confused?
@Isitreally7777 - How are you? Hope you are ok
I cant find Angel - I really hope she is ok
Im still chatting to Mr Homeless, feeling a little better about it today, he sent me a picture yesterday after he got home from work, and I did actually fancy him in it, was much better lighting and he looked more "natural".
We had a little chat about "us", and he said he really really likes me and he cant wait to meet me. The messaging has calmed down, which is good, but I am looking forward to another phone call with him later

@pineappleonpizzaornot that's great!! Hope when you meet him he's everything your looking for

Hi pineapple glad it's going well with Mr Homeless 😀

I'm still a little put off by his last pics but they were quite badly taken selfies so I'm just not sure. The messaging is a bit less but it's still irritating me a bit, I'm not sure.

I'm pretty sure he's a decent guy and is just trying to do the right thing, he's not a flake which is unusual. I'm just not sure i will fancy him.

I'm not really excited or anything like I was with my last iron.