Online dating in your 40s.. part 4

[Shayelle2009]

The sagas continue..

That’s a shame @Angelofdeath... pity you never said to him that if he wasn't soooo ridiculously ugly on both the outside and the inside, you’d have been happy to meet up!! 🙄 another one for the psycho bin hey!!

I’m trying not to feel a bit of ick with mr physical. Too many text messages... i just find it irritating...

Oh and I hear you about certain people still having an effect months and even years later. Im exactly the same! I put it down to vibrational energy 🙈

How often is he messaging Shayelle?...we all seem to have the ick from this. I know if they never messaged though I'd complain about that too 😁

Urgh what an absolute cockwomble @Angelofdeath. Im sure he is soooo lucky in his life! Hence his beautiful attitude! 60 miles away is definitely not far away enough for that one!

Hi @bangheadhere40 so one of us usually messages in the morning... but he tends to reply really quickly to mine then i feel under pressure. Wish he’d just be busy in his day and not think about his phone 😂 as i prefer to be left alone to get on with my day... so then i reply probably too soon too then he’ll be straight back to me again. Im feeling worried as he seems quite keen but i dont want to lead anyone on.. lockdowns coming to an end and im excited about having my freedom back... not sure it will be the right time to be tied down 🙈 i sound horrible dont i. Well i guess ill meet him tomorrow, if theres no spark either side then it will be a mutual ciao! If theres not, then ill worry more 😂 hes just clearly a really nice guy, i wouldnt want to hurt him.

Im so unused to anyone being bothered about me, is this how guys get when they’re interested? Texting too much, being a bit enthusiastic ? Ive been on own so long i cant remember 😂😂 anyone got any tips on how to handle it?!

Lol. He sounds like spreaders with the instant replies and then feeling that you have to carry on the convo etc...

I'm not sure 😄

I'm feeling a little better but still not sure if to meet him. He's obviously super keen but I'm not excited 😔

I think its the keeness that kills it isnt it. The fact theyre being like that and never even met us 🤢 its got just a desperate vibe to it

Though ive just re-read the messages yesterday and he’s not done anything wrong... it’s just me i guess 😕

I'm exactly the same shayelle not sure what we should do 😔

I just got another message from a guy on tinder. Spoke back then I didn't reply for 10 mins as I'm bloomin working.

He just said 'well I guess that's that then never mind if you can't even chat'. 😮

What is going on with these men.

So @Shayelle2009 when we were messaging yesterday I kinda asked where he thought things were with us, he fluffed it off as a big question and continued to message about normal stuff. He said he would text/call later but nothing. Maybe I'm being demanding but am I right seeing this as flaky enough behaviour?

@bangheadhere40 just think hes not for me and move on! They’re obviously unhinged!
Thing is ive got good mates who can be a bit annoying with messaging but theyre lovely in person. Im hoping today doesnt make me feel hounded as im not going to meet him tomorrow if he does.

@LuckyLinda3 i just think convos like that should be face to face... and not you asking him, the other way round... just leave it and see what happens next but yeah i think hes flakey. If you want more with him dont meet up and snog him in the car anymore

Honestly @LuckyLinda3 i think you should sack this one off he just sounds like a chancer. Next!

Thanks @Shayelle2009, think you're right. I need to toughen up in general.

Youve given him his 2nd chance Linda and hes still dicking you about. You can defo find better xx

Yeah he sounds flakey....and like it would just cause you to question everything.

I don't think I'm going to fancy spreadsheet...more photos that aren't great. They are all poorly taken selfies though so I'm not sure if to go anyway.

I don't want to let him down if I'm not keen.

Sorry just thinking out loud.

Really @bangheadhere40... are they poorly taken as in the lights bad or hes just not nade any effort?
I am completely undecided about whether to go tomorrow or not 😩 at the minute i just feel like i dont want to ..

I'm not sure, I'm just not feeling it from these selfies and don't know whether to go tomorrow either 😔 I know it can be different but I'm not at all attracted to him from these latest pics.

Is physical being over the top today too? I'm not excited about spreaders messaging me and it's all a bit samey. He has been nice though and hasn't done anything wrong.

Haha im feeling EXACTLY the same as you. I dont know what the hell to do about tomorrow 😣

@Shayelle2009 and @bangheadhere40 are you sure you two ladies are not just getting anxious about meeting your irons in person and trying to talk yourselves out of it??
I ask because I do this all the time

Honestly @Mayzee i just dont know, ive felt really at sea today and feeling like mentally maybe im not not in the right place to be meeting anyone new 😞

I decided to speak to mine on the phone. I hoped it would make things easier, he's nice but I can tell he's not right for me 😔

I'm not sure what to do...I'm almost certain anyway. It was a disappointment.

Cancel it then sweet if youre not feeling it. I literally couldnt text him for 2 hours because ive been so busy and no word of a lie he replied within 1 minute. Its making me feel under pressure i cant deal with it and i just have to cancel. It doesnt even feel like fun or exciting it just feels stressful, full on and its making me really angsty. Fuck it im cancelling mine now.