Online dating in your 40s.. part 4

[Shayelle2009]

The sagas continue..

What are you going to say? Yeah though if you aren't feeling it cancel. It should make us feel excited 😔

I put:
Im sorry to mess you about but got to take a rain check on tomorrow. Ive just a shitload going on at the moment and just not in the headspace to be meeting - im sorry, hope you have a nice weekend. X

I felt too bad say, your constant messaging and informing me of all the minute of your day made me feel so under pressure and has completely killed off my attraction and all you've done is slowly make me feel more and more anxiety about meeting up.
Maybe its better to be honest?!? All i feel is relief that i no longer have to go.

He really ramped it ip this afternoon though, honestly he killed it for me! Its a shame but i instantly feel a fricking huge relief!!!!

I know exactly how you feel, well done.

I think I'm going to have to do similar...I need to be more assertive 😔

Not sure angel as it will be obvious after our phone convo I didn't like his voice 🤔

I keep putting things off and hoping they go away but they don't.

@Shayelle2009 you have to he admired lady!

Hey @Angelofdeath 👋

@bangheadhere40 how about if you say.. on reflection youre sorry to let him down but youre just not ready to meet anyone at the minute and you dont want to waste his time.. but wish him all the best and that he meets someone lovely like he deserves... something like that??

I feel really shitty @LuckyLinda3 and a bad person 😔 i was just starting to feel completely cornered by the guy and i dont respond well to that lol

I defo have issues. Anyone who ever likes me i dump them. Argh 😣

Do you know what @bangheadhere40 my friend said to me an hour ago just do it now shay then you wont meed to be worrying about it tomorrow. She was right i did it and its done now. You can do it.. just do it without thinking too much. X

As ever, its a comfort to post here 💗

Thanks.I think I will go with your suggested but tomorrow....thank you xx

Did he reply to you? I know I'm the same and feel bad really but the overkill is just too much isn't it.

Hi lovey oh blood tests are horrible aren't they i just cant look while they do it. Hopefully they will come back with good news for you? I really hope so.
Honestly i dont know I just feel a bit mentally all over the place and not ready to go to a new place and meet a new person. Maybe its the lockdown but Ive not seen a soul in weeks and weeks which im ok with but just dont feel like meeting a new person right now like i just dont have the capacity for it 😥 with all his pressure on top it just broke it.

Good luck @bangheadhere40 go with how you feel you know we’re here to back you if you have a wobble.. see how you feel tomorrow 🙂

Mine did reply just a short ‘hope it all goes well’ yes it will thanks matey, as no youre no longer wedged completely up my butt!! ... haha sorry that was rude!!!

Hope your covid jab goes well... it’s all to help it really ☺️💗💗

Morning Angel I just feel relieved and like the pressure’s off. Freedom 😁 hope your arm copes with his day!
@bangheadhere40 good luck if you do or dont go today! Mines not messaged anymore. If he sat back instead of replying to any message I send within a 60 second timeframe 😒 perhaps he’d see the messages are what ruined it for me! As it is i don't think we’d be compatible. Reminds me of my ex, constant hounding, texting calling etc it was horrendous.

Shayelle glad you are relieved.

I've woken up to 3 messages so far all lovey dovey and it's just killed it for me.

I'm trying to pluck up the courage to tell him, I need to woman up and just do it!

Ahh @bangheadhere40 i hear you completely. Are you actually meant to be meeting today then?

I have to admit and I just feel like a horrible person. But Ive blocked mr physical as i just KNOW theres going to be more texts today and i just don't want to have to deal with it. I dont want that feeling of anxiety on my days off seeing their name pop up and i then have to then respond, give explanations etc etc just dont want any more of the stress of it! There’s a lesson here for me - be upfront next time that I dont have time for ‘texting’ all day long.
Good luck whatever you decide to do!!

No...I said I probably wouldn't be able to meet anyway due to me being poorly but I would let him know.

I'm such a wimp!

Don't feel bad re blocking, I don't want to have to block him but I'm not sure of his reaction. I'm hoping he will be okay with it!

I'm just stressing about doing it.

I've sent it and now I'm anxiety ridden and can't look at my phone 😬😬😬