Online dating in your 40s.. part 4

[Shayelle2009]

The sagas continue..

@Shayelle2009 thanks for the kind wishes, yeah I'm not feeling too great.

I've told spreaders if I'm not better we will have to reschedule. He was fine with that so that's a relief.

It is very scary, the thought of being hurt again. But its a risk everyone takes when they meet someone and get involved. Its a waste of your emotion on him though. 100% you’ll end up hurt by him - hes hurting you already, its clear to see x

Ahh sorry you're not feeling well @bangheadhere40. Best to take time and get yourself better then think about meeting hey

Morning . Ah @Shayelle2009 - I ma soooo pleased you have arranged to meet "Physical, Lets Get Physical!" , if you click then its so worth a meet, I really really hope you guys hit it off! Excited for you!
@bangheadhere40 - Hope spreaders dough will be ok if you cancel .

Homeless is still going strong, he did say to me last night that he hasnt looked forward to meeting anyone for a long time, but he he is looking forward to meeting me......I think he is a really nice guy with a kind soul, but Im not getting too excited, he sent me another pic yesterday and he seems to get better taking them, but I havent seen his teeth in any of them, hope he has some, and they dont resemble cheese triangles!

@Shayelle2009 thank you.

So my ghoster was messaging last night, when do I ask him if he remembers me?!

Haha that song had popped into my head too @pineappleonpizzaornot!! I wont mind if i do, he looks a bit grabbable haha and hes just so cute! I hope hes not a wet lettuce lol i dont think he is but ill see on saturday!!
Sooo so lovely things good with homeless.. are you guys gonna meet for a walk? Lots of people have said its crap but i like the idea of it do i hope its not dry and awkward for me!!!
@Isitreally7777 just ask him what happened to you as you disappeared last time we chatted.. see what he says!

Cheese triangles you know 😂😂 youre so funny!!!

He sounds lovely for you @Shayelle2009, Im really pleased, that Superswipe was well worth it .

If I start referring to Mr Homeless as Dairylea mouth....then its a no goer .

@Isitreally7777 - I matched with someone a while a go that had previously ghosted me, we then matched again and he messaged, I mentioned it and he promptly un-matched me AGAIN...PRICK!

I've not mentioned it yet, he is messaging like nothing happened but also like we already know each other (no getting to know you questions).

So ladies I admit to giving in last night and seeing my ex after getting messages from Saturday every day asking to go for a drive or a walk. I was in town and we met after work and sat in the car for a wee while. No serious conversation really but he kissed me and the rest of the time was just spent kissing in the car. No arrangements made when I was leaving but a while after that he texted to check I had got home ok and said it was lovely to see me. I needed money from the ATM to pay a bill today and he offered to give me the cash..obvs I didn't but it was kind. I'm more chilled this time so I've decided to just see how it plays out. Maybe in being really stupid here but the chemistry we have is so good.

@LuckyLinda3 surely you have an attraction plus both have been looking on the apps and there's nothing there so why not just have a deeper discussion about him allocating more time to you both. Personally I think this is something you could overcome.

Aww thats sweet @LuckyLinda3 did it feel nice to see him? Personally id just let him keep doing all the running now but i think you need to tell him how it wasnt working for before, how you want him to fix it and see if he can do it!! And if not move on for good...

Haha yes @pineappleonpizzaornot it really seemed to work superswiping him... i wonder if he was just jaded with the apps like everyone else.. as he seemed like a different guy once i reconnected with him and has been since!

Pineapple i hope he doesnt gave a mouth full of dairylee dippers.. hehe... then again though cheese and pineapple are so good together!! 😂😂🙈

Hi @Eesha and @Shayelle2009. Yeah it was nice to meet up again but I agree Shayelle I'm inclined to sit back a wee bit. I'm also really unsure of the app thing and how much you can read into it.
Posters here seem pretty chilled about it, guess it's back to the earlier conversation of how we keep our options open.

oh @Shayelle2009 - that just made me feel a bit sick !

@LuckyLinda3 - Pleased you met up, but you do need to make sure you dont fall into the same trap as before, spell it out to hi that if you're going to try again then it needs to be different this time.

I have made a deal with myself that the next relationship I get into if that ever happens then I am always going to say if something is bothering me, being quiet just causes more pain in the long run.

Yeah you're right @pineappleonpizzaornot. In some ways I wish I was stronger like @Shayelle2009 and just blocked him but something stops me from doing it.

Really fancy cheese and pineapple on those sticks now!

lol, Its my boys 21st tomorrow and we are going all 80's and having.....cheese and pineapple on sticks .

@LuckyLinda3 - I was quite jealous when I read you kissed....the last thing I kissed was the dog!

I agree @pineappleonpizzaornot i have learnt that the best way to be in life with men or anyone else is communicate openly and in an honest, calm and kind way, you really have to know what you want though and be firm in that, communicate that and do it face to face... no texting, or any of that rubbish.

80s cheese and pineapple woo hoo!!! Sounds amazing! Happy 21st to your boy @pineappleonpizzaornot 🥳🥳 ahhhhh, to be 21 again 😅

Im not sure that mr physical has ever had a proper rship as i thought it was odd how he started texting me asking about the kids situation. I would rather have a conversation like that face to face... if we meet and hit it off i am going to be firm that any meaningful convos going forward will be when we’re in each others company only! No bloody texting!

@Angelofdeath 🤗 hey, been thinking of you and so glad to see you back.. hows everything...missed your chats! Yay for pulling whilst giving simple directions! 💘💘

On the subject if hair i am cringing so bad about going to meet mr physical on sat with my hair. Not seen a hairdresser in 5 months and the roots .. 😱 i just dont know what to do to try and make it look presentable..

Hey everyone. Hope you're all good. Glad to see some have positive stories in here atm. Sorry to hear you're not doing good still @Angelofdeath x

I've been speaking to a guy I've spoken to a couple of times before. We always speak then it fizzles out. I think we're just both shit at messaging. We have swapped numbers though. Maybe I'm just boring as fuck? I don't know. I mentioned meeting and he seemed very up for it, but we're too far apart atm. Not sure what to do tbh.