Anyone want to join the breakup club?

[Herewegoagain22]

So today, my partner of 3 years ended things with me. Deep down I know it was for the best (for both of us) but it doesn’t stop it hurting like hell. There genuinely is no going back. It’s just going through this horrible period of looking for his texts, wondering what he’s up to, missing him in general and generally just feeling lost that I can’t stand

@Hurtandheartbroken123 sounds like a plan! I love learning languages. You can often find conversation groups online or in major cities (after covid) for practice.

Hope you can plan a trip to france to use your learning at some point!

Some men are SO selfish

Yeah so he literally just confirmed that he's ok because he has hope that after 6 months away we'll be ok and I'll let him move back in
But also says he won't get help for his drinking
So what's going to change? He had his last chance and he blew it. He expects me to just believe he won't get stupid drunk or drink in the morning around our dc again because he says so? Does he think I'm stupid? 6 months my arse

So little respect for you in thinking you will just be ok to wait 6 months for him. He put you last in his priorities and thinks you are just waiting around for him to come home. I hope you can be strong enough to say no when he drags his sorry arse back.

@Rodeodown I'm changing the locks once he's out

@fedup078 good on you, strong lady 💪🏼

So I woke up to another WhatsApp message that he’d sent AND deleted again last night, so no idea what it had actually said. Only saw it this morning. That’s twice he’s done that in the space of two weeks. What’s the point? I don’t even have his number in my phone anymore. I’m just ignoring it. It’s like child’s play. I have gone completely NC since he told me it is over, not breaking it now. Also not feeling good today, health wise, my throat is sore and glands swollen, hope it doesn’t come to anything more

@Herewegoagain22 it's mind games isn't it, it's not fair at all, doing the right thing ignoring it 👍🏻 rest up and I hope you feel better soon :( I'm just so unenergised at the moment, just because I'm fed up

ugh having a hard day today - feeling really grief filled at how quickly my life has changed from what I thought I had (loving security of a long term partner) to what I have got now
It feels surreal- like I am watching a different life not my own- think the thought of the weekend dragging ahead of me isn't helping

@crochetmonkey74

ugh having a hard day today - feeling really grief filled at how quickly my life has changed from what I thought I had (loving security of a long term partner) to what I have got now It feels surreal- like I am watching a different life not my own- think the thought of the weekend dragging ahead of me isn't helping

I get this feeling too. We moved in here on NYE and I was so excited for our new start in a new house, loads of plans for our new house, new school for DS and so many opportunities which lay ahead. He was gone within a week of that. I'm having to cope with not only the loss of my ex but also all those dreams I was excited for. Will be thinking of you at the weekend, it can drag out so much when you're sad.

Thanks Rodeo it really does help to know you lot are here- I have loads of real life support too- but I just know you guys get it

Does anyone else think of their ex 24/7? I absolutely hate it, I don't want to feel like this forever hahaha

@wow1111 my current situation is totally different and I can't wait for him to leave but I have been dumped by 2 men I truly loved and my god it hurts. Almost killed me both times. Thought about them every waking moment and then had the dreams at night too . It really is quite scary the impact it can have on you .

It's the dreams for me. Vivid, realistic dreams where he's here with me and then I wake up and it takes a second and all comes crashing down and my heart breaks all over again. As time goes on you will think of him less, I promise.

@Rodeodown

It's the dreams for me. Vivid, realistic dreams where he's here with me and then I wake up and it takes a second and all comes crashing down and my heart breaks all over again. As time goes on you will think of him less, I promise.

I was having nightmares about my ex until a couple of months ago. Horrible nightmares which would wake me up. They only stopped when I sent him a text saying I was blocking him on everything due to his waful behaviour, and then promptly did so.

It's been nearly 3 months now though, when will the thoughts bloody start fading :( it's just constant and whatever I do I always think of him, I do have to see him twice a week which doesn't make anything easier either

@wow1111 I really do think hes treating you appallingly
I think you need to be brave and have it out with him about a proper separation and discuss divorce
It's so unfair that he's just leaving you hanging like this . You need answers , closure and to be able to start healing and move on.

@fedup078 I'm near the end of completing my masters, only a few weeks left, so I'm going to focus fully on completing my last few assignments and then I'm going to ask him for a sit down and a talk about it all. At the moment I think I need to get a little bit stronger and I don't want my uni work to hr affected at the moment

@wow1111 This sounds like a really good plan. You need to take the power back from him, be the one in control and that will empower you to make the best decisions. Even if you do end up making another go of it one day, it must be on your terms and rules. He cannot expect to treat you so badly and just waltz back in once he's had his time.

Hey everyone!

Just a quick update, I have collected my bits and bobs from the exes. He has kept one of each shoe, so I have no pairs🙄, kept the bolts out of the baby's cot, taken all photos of baby - but it's okay, he's given me a frozen meal out of the freezer! Oh and some other ladies knickers and a condom wrapper!😱

Honestly I couldn't make this up! I've found multiple love notes, currently up to 24 about how he needs me and wants me, he's even given me his jumper😱 I'm finding it hard to be strong today guys! Please tell me it gets easier!

MotherHaryy Just a quick update, I have collected my bits and bobs from the exes. He has kept one of each shoe, so I have no pairs🙄, kept the bolts out of the baby's cot, taken all photos of baby - but it's okay, he's given me a frozen meal out of the freezer! Oh and some other ladies knickers and a condom wrapper

What a strange man...

My ex dumped my stuff on my doorstep a month after he ended it when he knew I'd be out. Point blank refused to meet up after ending a 2 year relationship, I haven't seen him since and I doubt I will unless I randomly bump into him. And he's behaved so hideously that I wouldn't even say hello to him.

Honestly, coming home to your stuff in a bag outside your front door in the middle of lockdown has to rank as one of the worst experiences you can ever have. It was way worse than being dumped. I don't think I'll ever get over it.

The last time I saw him, he was all over me as usual and we were getting on great, again as usual. He was already seeing the woman he dumped me for at the time.

@MotherHaryy was he always so weird?

@motherharyy whatever he thought he was achieving, it's probably had the opposite effect! What a weirdo! I'd love to know the thought process when he was putting the condom wrapper in there!

@Rodeodown @fedup078 - it was probably the same thought process his mother has? They've been driving past my house and reported me to social. I just want done with it, like why do I still even love or care for him? I don't understand it

I have had enough tonight.. been spoken to him like SHIT again, told him to get a solicitor because I'm getting a legal separation and he's called me childish HAHAHAHAHAHA