He disclosed my sensitive info

[IwishIwasBrave]

So I am pregnant with a guy, we dont live together. He has 3 children with another woman. This woman is in a new relationship. 2 days ago he went at her house to see his children. An argument kicked off due to him being late few days with child maintenance, which never happened before. She demanded the money. He got angry and told her exactly this "My new girlfriend is pregnant, we are having a baby girl, which you never could have.( She has 6 boys). My girlfriend is a Social Worker and you do fuck all". He then came to visit me and told me all this. I was fuming. I am not even qualified yet, I am student in placement and he discloses info about my job with someone I never saw in my life. Also telling her about my pregnancy,when I want to be out of drama. AIBU to be upset? After all this he said I should keep the baby, he doesn't want anything to do with us.I dont even know how to feel. I also caught him on Dating apps everytime we had an argument. AIBU to think he shouldnt disclose senitive info about my job just to upset his ex?? I am cross, dont know what to think

Have they advised against smoothies?
I’d not, would she try them? Mine will eat all sorts of things in a smoothie that she would never touch separately, like avocado. She understands that the smoothie is getting her vital nutrition, but they don’t have the texture problems that the separate food being . Like I mentioned above, we aren’t at anorexia, just picky eating and anxiety so I know it’s different.

@baileys6904

WTAF am I reading???

Since when do we victim blame on here?? (OP I'm sorry for the victim label) but why the fuck are we battering a young woman for accidentally becoming pregnant with some nob jockey and bringing her career into it?! What the actual hell does thta have to do with out? Do doctors no longer get ill, no? Dentists don't have fillings?

And let's face it, we are all on here cos something has not gone to plan in our lives and we needed a bit of support.

OP, run away from this dick and concentrate on you and your family. He's not worth you or your kids, which I think you know now.
No ones perfect, that's why they're on a problem forum. Take the positive and ignore the negative. Good luck for your future

It's not victim blaming to be concerned that someone in training to become a social worker refuses to acknowledge that abusive behaviour is abuse.

Being a single mum, having an abusive ex - these are all things that can be hard but don't reflect on whether you are a worthy person or not, just about whether you've been lucky or unlucky or had a blind spot when in love (haven't we all?). I'm barracking for OP, but very much hope that soon she will be looking back on this and wondering why she gave second thoughts and second chances to this guy. If she still doesn't see why he's not fit to parent and thinks it is in any way acceptable, then I'd wonder how far she'd let struggling families and individuals go before seeing any need for support.

He was going to play you and the ex off against eachother. Keep him gone.

Your child is going to be family to this woman. Ideally, you should be pals.

Maybe you can both bond over your tosser of an ex.

@overtherubicon

So what you're saying is people should post their occupation before receiving advise because it would differ each time?
Does that mean people who have experienced mental health issues shouldn't be psychologists? Or women that have experienced an abusive relationship shouldn't join the police?

Or perhaps it actually means they have the empathy and understanding needed to actually help.

If I was a single mother in need of help, and it were a choice between you and the OP, I know which I'd prefer.

Try less judgement, more empowerment

My god this is the nastiest example of ganging up on a poster I've seen in a long time. After I read page one, I jumped to page 7 predicting the mob would have taken over, and it had already occurred by page 2!

The irony of talking about how abusive the OPs boyfriend is and calling him a bully then tearing down the OP yourselves.

I'm sure the OP isn't even reading anymore. Poor woman.

[quote baileys6904]@overtherubicon

So what you're saying is people should post their occupation before receiving advise because it would differ each time?
Does that mean people who have experienced mental health issues shouldn't be psychologists? Or women that have experienced an abusive relationship shouldn't join the police?

Or perhaps it actually means they have the empathy and understanding needed to actually help.

If I was a single mother in need of help, and it were a choice between you and the OP, I know which I'd prefer.

Try less judgement, more empowerment[/quote]
Not at all, have you misread or are you talking about a different pp? I said that making mistakes is something we all do. Like you say, it makes us more empathetic. I'm also a single mum with an abusive ex, why would I judge her for that?

However I think it's a big concern when a social worker defends an abuser in her own life and states that his behaviour is that of a fit father. I've been blinded by love too, but as in my pp, I'd hope for her sake and those of her future clients that once she is out of this situation she would recognise his behaviour for what it is.

@overtherubicon nope right poster and even toned down you can't help it.
You empathise, say you've been there but STILL go on about her occupation. Like people in certain jobs aren't allowed to get into a tricky situation without it meaning they're shit at their job.
You don't think social workers have shit relationships then, no? Cos obviously they'd recognise and get out before it turns shit? Same with doctors or prison officers or parole officers or anyone that's worked with manipulative or abusive males.
You're actually shaming her through her occupation, can you not recognise that?? That's sending the message, if you're in this position, don't say anything cos you'll get ripped to shreds and annihilated as well. No wonder she's in a shit relationship if even women who are meant to empower are writing her off.
Good job!

She’s a student SW. It is not her occupation yet.