Failed date asked for his scarf back... two months later?

[dothem]

I was dating a guy back in November, things were going well I thought, but then I realised he was putting zero effort in. I was given his scarf one day but completely forgot to give it back so I rang to tell him, he didn't pick up. So I text to say "hey sorry I have your scarf", he ignored it.
Then he cancelled our date last minute saying he was too busy, and made no effort to reschedule. So I decided to bin him. Why spend time with someone who won't put any effort in for you?

Then two months after me texting to say I didn't want to see him again, and receiving a huge wall of text in response, he text again "Hey do you have my scarf still?". Now I know I should probably have posted it back, back then, but it's a bit random to ask now. I know it's not a point, but this guy was always tight fisted with money (split the bill on what we've eaten kinda thing), which I completely get, but when you realise his holiday home is worth £5mil, you get the picture that he is wealthy..

I'm thinking of ignoring the text, and just sending the scarf back to his flat in London. I think he's probably at home with his family, but that's not my issue is it?

Ignore him like he ignored you. Don’t pick up if he rings.

Block and live in peace..

I would ask for an address, post it back and then block. I can also understand the posters saying block straight away, but I think I would want to eliminate any reasons for him to try and ever contact me again

I'd post it back! And block

It’s just a scarf. He’s fishing & wanting to reel you in. I’d ignore & block. He had his chance to get his precious scarf back.

Post it back without any stamps on

I'd block him. Fuck him. Would not post FA to him.

Ah well, what a shame you have totally forgotten about him, and as a result thrown/charity shopped the scarf as you forgot where it even came from.

I'd reply with this
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I'm not sure I'd bother to post it back. Guy sounds like an arse!

I’d post it back and block. Have done with him.

By all means post it back, but why not give it a good wash first? (What a shame the label said "dry clean only".....or wash at 30....and you were thorough)

Just send it back.

Ignore and block. He’s trying to use it as an “in” to reel you back in

Just post it back? What do you have to gain from being petty about this?

Is the scarf very valuable

I would post back and then block. Be mature.

Send it back without postage definitely.. He can cover the cost. Why should you?

If you know his address, post it back. Anything else is just petty. If you feel he was petty dating, why stoop to his level? It’s just being a good person to return what you borrowed. If you have the address, just post and no need for reply.

If you don’t have his address, a simple text back for the address, post it, then block him.

It doesn’t have to devolve into a text exchange of anymore than that.

I would say yes I have it, you can come collect it just let me know what time. And when he confirms the collection time, just say ok thanks for letting me know, I'll leave it outside the door in a Tesco bag and you can just help yourself.

Agree with previous poster, it went to the charity shop in a clear out. He didn't seem to want it back and you've been having a declutter.

Eh? Why the vindictiveness?

He just wanted that into you, as the phrase goes. Not his fault, not yours either.

Just post it back. End of story.

Why would you tell lies about having charity shopped it or send it back with no postage? You'd just look like a cow. I really don't understand some people.

Wipe your bum on it then post it back with no stamps on it 😁

Did he include his name in his message or is he assuming you kept his number?

Because "Who is this?" or it being ignored would be a perfectly normal response!

Is it a nice scarf OP? I need a scarf, so I propose you ignore him, block and send the scarf to me.