Sex 'I've had better'

[Bellapinkfis]

I am writing on here as i don't have anyone i wish to talk to about this but would hugely appreciate some advice.

My partner and I have been together a year - no children of our own - he was two .

He cooks , cleans, hoovers , is generous, is fun and is supportive . We have great sex BUT he wants sex each day and I don't. For an easy life i gave him sex almost each day but in the past he has said -
I always approach you
Sometimes you just lie there

I explained - i want sex 3/4 times a week and if this was the case i would be alot more up for it and initate .I often 'lie there' as i don;t want the sex and i feel frustrated. This has caused a few heated arguments.

Last week we had a huge row and he said 'i was boring in bed and then some other stupid comments. Anyway, he agreed to less but better sex . a week goes by, I dont want sex on Sunday night - I can feel him trying it in the bed - i gnore him and he flips out. He says i gave him the signals ! He then says people who are happy and this early on should have sex each day because they want too. He then said some rude comments, swore and was shouting at me about sex saying i havne't had a mature sexual relationship et

I turned around and said - I have had much better sex with other people. He went mental and said he doesn't want to be with me , os moving out, i am a slag etc!!!

I am shocked - immature i know but i think - he should know what it feels like to have nasty comments made. He has said vile things to me and said my sex was boring. His ego is bruised so now he is upset!!

When i was listening to him last night , i thought - i don't need this bollocks. Or am i just shutting the door on something great and we just need to get through this blip?

Is it common for people to argue about sex? Especaiilly after the honeymooon phase? Am i odd for not wanting sex each day ? I have never had an issue with a previous partner and having sex 4/5 times a week

I don't know ?
Please advise

@o8O8O8o

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I couldn't put it any better!

Get rid.

Sexually coercive PRICK.

Which will be why you're actually recoiling from the sex regardless- because having sex you don't really want to shut up a manipulative pushy creep is never, ever, ever going to be anything other than pretty repulsive.

Nice verbal abuse too, if you need any more reason to kick this twat into touch.

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Agree with everyone else. Who does he think he is? Sex every day regardless? No way. Agreeing to sex for an easy life is no way to live.

He watches too much TV. Seriously, nothing wrong with it, but how many women want sex every day? And I'd venture to say once a week even? Doubt there are that many.

If you don’t want to have sex with him then just tell him instead of putting your head in the sand and trying to blame him for not wanting sex.
Of course he wants sex everyday because he is not having sex everyday. If he was, he wouldn’t want it everyday.
Instead of blaming one another sort out the real issue why you don’t want to have sex with him and be prepared to leave if it’s a deal breaker to you.

You are both very incompatible.

Sadly sex {Or lack of} is why so many marriages founder.

He will likely have sex with other people if this is his attitude.

It's not normal, no.

It's normal to have different sex drives and at times for one or both to feel sexually frustrated/want more of it (or better) but it's not normal for someone to proceed to shouting at their partner and calling them names.

I've never had a partner call me names, nor would I accept it.

I think it's time you call it a day. He clearly lacks respect for you and you can do better.

Well he’s definitely immature too and sounds like he’s trying to control you.

You’re a boring slut apparently! Run with it and get rid of him!

Saying ''You have had better sex'' with other people would be very hurtful for anyone to hear!
Imagine if that was said to you?

Him calling you a 'Slut' is completely unacceptable too {Probably as a response to him imagining you swinging from the chandeliers with a super stud}

People can be so cruel to each other.

I'd end the 'relationship' especially as it is such early days.

Coercive control...you are NOT shutting the door on something great. Run.

Together a year? Get rid. It won't get better.

@Chimen

If you don’t want to have sex with him then just tell him instead of putting your head in the sand and trying to blame him for not wanting sex. Of course he wants sex everyday because he is not having sex everyday. If he was, he wouldn’t want it everyday. Instead of blaming one another sort out the real issue why you don’t want to have sex with him and be prepared to leave if it’s a deal breaker to you.

Wow what a way to excuse coercive control. Maybe read up on it and then post something more supportive

@oakleaffy

You are both very incompatible.

Sadly sex {Or lack of} is why so many marriages founder.

He will likely have sex with other people if this is his attitude.

You mean you go on and abuse someone else

You've previously explained why every day sex doesn't work for you and obviously he took none of that on board so why bother any more. Your reaction was correct, you don't need this bollocks!

As someone said above, first you were boring and now a slut because you've implied that he might be the reason you don't want sex that often. Misogyny at its finest! Mismatched libidos are a common problem, the way you sort issues out makes or breaks a relationship but it sounds like he moved straight into the nasty comments as opposed to having a conversation about it.

Let him take his probably 'not so great' willy elsewhere! You shouldn't trade forced sex in for hoovering skills!

After the why he spoke and treated you who fucking cares if you told him you've had better. Anyone would have had better than that disgusting treatment. He doesn't like it because you're standing up for yourself. Keep doing that . No man gets to treat you that way.

You're totally normal. You have a very healthy sex drive. What he means might be 'Why aren't you doing the things I've seen porn stars do'?

Also, love the fact you were sexually immature one moment and then a slag the next. Don't take him back. Be grateful he's gone!

Jesus Christ. He continues to have sex with you when you just lay there and he knows you're not into it? That's really borderline rapey. He doesnt give a fuck about your enjoyment, only getting his dick wet. Get rid and don't go back. He's gross and coercive and an absolute fuckwit.

He sounds entitled. Get rid immediately. Tell him it's not about quantity but quality. People have sex once a week or whatever and are satisfied. They don't coerce their partners to have sex everyday. Who has the time. Obviously he has too much time on his hands.

Definitely do not get back with him.

Any man who thinks it's acceptable to call a woman a slag can choke on his own cock.
He clearly has an issue with being told no!

How on earth people can be aroused and have sex despite knowing the other person doesn't want it is beyond me.

Get rid, this will only get worse. My exH said to me "what do you think it's like for me to do it when I know you don't want it?"

Wow well there's a name for that. But it's still all about you isn't it.

I divorced him. I've never been happier.

@Taylrse

Definitely do not get back with him.

Any man who thinks it's acceptable to call a woman a slag can choke on his own cock.
He clearly has an issue with being told no!

How on earth people can be aroused and have sex despite knowing the other person doesn't want it is beyond me.

Choke on his own cock made me laugh!!!

Get rid of this one!

Yes I've wanted sex every day, more than once a day. But if you don't, no-one should pressure you.