He can't decide if he wants me or the other girls,walk away?

[Givemeoilinmylamp]

I'm dating ? Sleeping with? him.
We have been for 5 months now.
He has told me that he is also texting a few other women.
I'm driving myself into a bit of a tizzy.
I'm checking when he is online and I know he must be texting one of these other women.
When he was drunk last week he said "who would treat me better I wonder"
I know who these women are as he showed me them on Facebook.
So now I compare myself to them and check to see if he has liked any of their pics (sad I know)
What do I do ?
Do I walk away?
Before lockdown happened he went out for lunch with one of them (even tho I asked him not to go and come and see me instead )
It's really hammering my self esteem.
Do I walk away now? When it's only been a short time?

Yup. Walk away.
Be upfront with the next person you meet that you're looking for an exclusive relationship. I know it's the modern thing to date before you get exclusive but that seems a bit shit to me!
I think you know you're worth more than this.

you really need to ask this question?

Absolutely walk away! I can’t even believe this is real. Realise your self worth and find someone better

No, stay in a 'relationship' that makes you stressed and miserable, with a man who seems to enjoy making you jealous and windong you up. Obviously.

Why are you doing the pick-me dance for this utter twat of a man? Raise your standards.

What makes him so special?
Who does he think he is?

You are better than this! The only reason he can treat you all like this and behave like he does is because you are allowing it. Stop letting him, get an STI test and move on with your life. (And tell him he’s got a tiny dick).

Walk away. If he's still behaving like this after 5 months he is not that into you ( Sorry ). He's enjoying himself stringing you all along - very cruel. If you don't leave he will damage your self esteem. Be kind to yourself and find a decent man , they do exist.

The only person you're mugging off here is yourself. Get some self respect and block him.

I already know the answer is yes.
I just need a good ole kick up the you know what x

How many posts... yes, walk away.

When he was drunk last week he said "who would treat me better I wonder"
I know who these women are as he showed me them on Facebook.
So now I compare myself to them and check to see if he has liked any of their pics (sad I know)
What do I do ?
Do I walk away?

He is playing you like a fiddle, isn’t he?

Why is it that you have no self esteem?

Of course dump him, but then address whatever your underlying issue is. If you were okay, you wouldn’t be in this situation.

Don't walk, run! He's a shit.

Oh op, what did you say when he showed you the other women on Facebook, "that's nice dear?". Sorry, I don't want to be mean to you, you are getting enough of that from him. But why are you sitting there passively waiting for him to choose? Why are you giving him that power? Why is it his choice in the first place and not yours? Do you not have a say in the decision?

Op, as you say, you know what to do and you deserve so much better.
Please tell him so and get rid. Good luck to you

I am 50 this year, for context.

Once you asked someone out and they said yes you were going out and that was that.

When if ever did it become a thing to not assume the other person was not seeing anyone else.?

Seriously you even need to ask this? Why would you let him treat you like this?

It's fine to date but I've always though once you've committed to a third or fourth date your then exclusively dating that person.

OP you've basically been fuck buddies for 5 months and even worse he's been a twat that whole time. I'm assuming his dick isnt gold plated.

Fuck him off with 'this isnt working for me anymore' then block. Stay completely mutual because his ego will get off just as much on you being upset.

*neutral

Bin the fucker.

Yes, you need to dump him of course.
But he deserves a callous way of being dump.
Maybe ghost him? Tell him you have decided to go with the other guy you are seeing as he is just so much better in bed? Dump him because really, you do not find him attractive at all?
Some way that hurt him that bit. Ghosting I think would be the best.

Don’t walk away. Run, as fast you can, and don’t look back!

Stop being a bloody doormat.

Wow op are you seriously asking this question . You ain't dating . He's only with you until somone 'Better' comes along . I hate men like this and trust me I have been there and been a right desperate mug ! Tell him you have actually found somone who actually wants you and block the prick

He’s not worth your time OP. Don’t give him any more 😊

Blimey. I'd have laughed in his face if he'd showed me pictures of other women and said, That's you and me done now. Go see if one of them wants you.

Block his number and find some dignity.

And actually, like others have said, I'd probably be texting, The sex is a bit shit with you and you don't last as long as other blokes, so I think I'll call it a day. See you.