He dumped me and I sent begging texts ..what now?

[frostytheshowman]

My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me.
He told me he met someone else,he has been texting her for months.
He did it by text.
Only after being distant and not coming over.
He stopped answering my calls and replying to my texts.
I sent him a long message asking why ? And how long ?
No reply
I sent another no reply
I sent another asking for a explanation telling him how hurt I was and just asking for a reason
No reply
Then he sent me a picture of a bunny and a pot and a laughing emoji
Then I sent another saying "I don't understand why you are being so cruel,I just wanted answers and you haven't even got the decency to do that.
No reply
How do I get some self respect back?
Make myself appear less crazy ?
Have I made a show of myself ?

Delete his number and block. Do not contact him again. Look after yourself whilst you get over the shock and adjust. Told you by text? How old is he 12? You can do better

Agree that you delete, block and focus on the fact that he is unpleasant and you are better off without him.

He's an arsehole. Just be glad you didn't waste any more of your life on the immature loser and move on with your head held high, if anyone should be ashamed of their behaviour it's not you.

You can't take back those texts but you can stop sending any more.

My texts were pathetic.
I said "I don't understand what I've done wrong? Why can't you just explain why your being so nasty"
No reply

To appear less crazy you need to block his number / WhatsApp/Insta whatever social media you have and have a long talk with yourself.
He's an absolute arsehole to have treated you this way, but you now need to let him go, and go eat some ice cream whilst congratulating yourself on your lucky escape.

What a cock. He's the one with no self respect. Get on with your life and be thankful you have had a lucky escape and didn't marry the bastard.

Those weren't pathetic texts btw, it's not unreasonable to expect an explanation at least. But he's clearly not going to do the right thing, so you need to stop expecting him to.

Well you can’t take back those already sent, so forget them, it’s done now. Just don’t send any more. Block and ignore - he’s unkind and immature. Sorry you are going through this op, it’s shit.

I'm not a bunny boiler am I?
All I did was ask for an explanation.
If he had just replied rather than ignore me.
The last two weeks he stopped ringing me or texting and when I asked what was wrong he got angry.
I just wanted to know why.

You aren't crazy. You just wanted answers and deserve them. Unfortunately the answer is, that he is a massive prick.

If he is such a heartless fucker that he could behave like this then really I feel sorry for him. Because he'll never know what it is to love anyone.

Chin up missus. Block his number. And if he ever tries to get back in touch, give him two fingers. The twat.

I'm sorry op but you have to make your own closure here.

Don't beg, best to cut the communication and him off any social media platform. You'll feel like rubbish at first but you'll get over that loser. Reminder he was seeing another women. Don't be a doormat

You don’t need to get your self-respect back, it’s perfectly intact. You deserve answers to your questions, any normal human would ask them. You don’t sound remotely bunny boilerish either. He on the other hand sounds like an evasive, immature child. He probably isn’t capable of providing the answers you deserve because he hasn’t engaged his emotions or brain yet. I know that feeling of wanting a deeper understanding & closure but you probably won’t get it from him, you’ll get it from yourself when you put him to the back of your brain & move forward in life without him, onto other people and pursuits more worthy of your attention & then you’ll realise he was never even worth this pain and upset. X

The ONLY thing to do now is ignore/delete/block. You can't take back what you've sent but you can maintain a dignified silence from now on.
I was once dumped by text and I never even replied at all - nearly killed me not to reply, I thought up many scathing replies in my head but never sent them.

Sorry that you have been hurt but he really doesn't sound worth your time.

Block. Move on. He won’t tell you why but I will - he has moved on with another woman. It’s cruel but true.

@frostytheshowman

My texts were pathetic. I said "I don't understand what I've done wrong? Why can't you just explain why your being so nasty" No reply

That not pathetic, why shouldn't you expect a decent reply? He's the one who's pathetic. Block and move on, you have done nothing to be ashamed of, he on the other hand has plenty to be ashamed of

You’re not pathetic or crazy for asking him why he’s dumped you out of the blue. His cruel reply shows that he’s the pathetic one - not only too cowardly to end things in a decent way, but also childish and immature in the face of your understandable upset.

Please delete his texts, block his number, burn his stuff if you have anything of his at your house, and try to put him behind you. He belongs in the shitshow of 2020. This year is destined for better things

What an arse he is. Block block block and move on and thank your stars you have no children together.

Oh mate, we've all been there when horribly hurt by an arsehole. He got angry and defensive and mocking because he can't bear to be held genuinely accountable for his behaviour. That says so much about him and nothing about you.

Onwards to the texts - you wanted an explanation, you aren't going to get one. It is absolutely time to realise you will never get one and block him and move on with your life. Look at it this way, he's been texting some other girl for months, he dumped you via text - is this guy even capable of adult communication? You are so much better off. If you truly must you can send a final 'I see I'm not going to get an explanation for your extraordinarily immature behaviour, thank you for showing your true colours and removing yourself from my life, all the best' text and then BLOCK HIM IMMEDIATELY. It can salvage a little dignity to have a classy last word.

But then follow through with being classy and never speak to this dickhead again.

He did it because he wanted to. I don’t mean to sound harsh. But it’s the truth. What other explanation do you need? Any more communication with him will prolong your misery. Block and delete.

There's two sides to every story... he's a cunt in both of them

Block him the only thing you did wrong is not celebrating now he is gone

You are not unreasonable to want answers but he won’t tell you why because there probably isn’t an explanation that doesn’t make him out to be the arsehole that he is.

Don’t send any more messages, if you feel the urge to message him, post it on here instead. Xx

He cheated on you, and didn't come clean till he had a replacement, because he is a selfish person.
As such he can't talk to you as he would have to own up to what he did and that does not fit his image of himself.
He needs to pretend to her and others that your the problem, so ghosted you.
His life felt exciting, while he was being shaded, and I bet he is still getting a key CK out of it.
But, and this is so true, the second you ignor him and he once more becomes Mr Boring in his relationship, his eye will stray again, and in under 2 years the new love will be his ex .

As Sandyfeet101says, from now on maintain a dignified silence. Being the type he seems to be, he was probably getting off on the attention you were giving him. Don't give him the satisfaction. Silence is a weapon, one that he was using against you. Two can play at that game, so don't give him any more of your precious headspace. At times like these, our dignity is all we have left. Onwards and upwards OP.