He dumped me and I sent begging texts ..what now?

[frostytheshowman]

My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me.
He told me he met someone else,he has been texting her for months.
He did it by text.
Only after being distant and not coming over.
He stopped answering my calls and replying to my texts.
I sent him a long message asking why ? And how long ?
No reply
I sent another no reply
I sent another asking for a explanation telling him how hurt I was and just asking for a reason
No reply
Then he sent me a picture of a bunny and a pot and a laughing emoji
Then I sent another saying "I don't understand why you are being so cruel,I just wanted answers and you haven't even got the decency to do that.
No reply
How do I get some self respect back?
Make myself appear less crazy ?
Have I made a show of myself ?

It's not you.

This guy will rinse and repeat with all the women he meets.

Never think your happiness lies entirely with a man. Learn to recognise this type earlier on - and there will have been signs. And know you can never affect change in another. But you can put yourself first - always.

You're not crazy. He just wasn't that interested (sorry). He sounds very immature. In time you'll be grateful you dodged a bullet...block him EVERYWHERE. If he comes sniffing back do jot give him the time of day.

Nothing you said was pathetic! They were totally reasonable questionsa and honest responses to the way he has treated you after 2 years together. His behaviour and response are the shameful things. He should be embarrassed.

Now block him. He is not a good guy.

As someone who came home from a long day at work to find their boyfriend had moved out and run back to their mummy - with no word of warning - believe me when I say the rubbish has just taken itself out.

I also wanted a explanation and back then there was no social media, just landlines and letters...I never got a decent reason, beyond me realising he was incredibly immature. Sounds like your ex is cut from the same cloth. He's the pathetic one, not you.

It won’t seem like it now because you are grieving the loss of the relationship that you had, but he has actually done you a favour escaping life with him. Angeldust is right, he’s likely not so much of a catch as you thought.
Be glad that while you are sad to lose what you thought you had, you are also more aware now, and can raise the bar higher, for a happier relationship next time.
His immaturity and insensitivity is now someone else’s problem.

No but you never contact him again ever. And when he comes crawling back you ignore and block

No. You are NOT a bunny boiler. You’ve been with him for TWO years. Yes you’re entitled to better than being ghosted by text. If it was me I’d send one last text of a gif picture with a giant cock and a turd and a middle finger. Then block him. Don’t write anymore text though. Just a cutting picture. He’s disgusting. Utterly disgusting. You’ve had a lucky escape. Don’t ever let this vile prick back in your life

Not recommending it but tbh I'd social media shame him by screenshotting and posting his messages along with something like 'so after 2 years together he hits me with this bs. Having thought on it, good riddance!'. He'll not be laughing when everyone sees what a nasty person he is.

Of course that would require you sharing your side of the convo too so could understand why you wouldnt want to.

Probably best to just move on with your head held high. .

..but id be tempted... xD

Indifference and a skyward eyebrow should you ever meet..

Yes it is shit. Yes you should have an explanation. Yes he is a knob.

But no, you won’t get an answer because he is a coward. And no, he won’t be honourable because he is a knob.

Block. Now. No more communications.

And you will soon be thankful to be rid of him. Honest.

Two years is a relatively lengthy relationship that shouldn't be ended by text. You weren't unreasonable but he's clearly an arse so don't message him further and if he does message you, don't respond...he will hate it!

What a bastard. Delete, block, move on. It will be hard but you will get there.

Your texts really weren't bad at all so stop beating yourself up. You don't have anything to be embarrassed about. Just don't contact him anymore and you still have your dignity intact.

Hate being ignored I mean

Whatever you do , please don’t post it on social media !

I don't think there is anything remotely wrong with the texts you sent or the fact you sent them other than you asked what you had done wrong. I wish you had better self esteem than to assume it's your fault when something is wrong.

Crikey it was a 2yr relationship, of course you are wondering what is going on.

So please don't beat yourself up about that.

From here on though, I guess you can only work with what you have which is evidence that he has left the relationship and is not prepared to engage in respectful communication.

You are allowed to feel hurt, angry, bewildered... let the feelings come. Do protect yourself though by leaning on friends (and family?) rather than hoping he will suddenly turn into a decent person.

Look after yourself, you're worth it. What he has done is very cruel.

@frostytheshowman

I'm not a bunny boiler am I? All I did was ask for an explanation. If he had just replied rather than ignore me. The last two weeks he stopped ringing me or texting and when I asked what was wrong he got angry. I just wanted to know why.

The thing is, ultimately you already know why - he’s decided he’d rather have someone else.

You don’t need to know any more than that.

Block him, and never write to him again.

I once broke down and cried snotty tears and begged a boyfriend to take me back once. I was in my twenties too, not early teens . Those texts weren't at all embarrassing. You were entitled to ask for an explanation. He wasn't decent enough to provide one. It hurts but it won't always. Block now.

You weren't pathetic at all, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. This 'man' sounds like an arsehole, block and delete from all SM and phone and forget him.

VVKills27

You don’t need to get your self-respect back, it’s perfectly intact. You deserve answers to your questions, any normal human would ask them. You don’t sound remotely bunny boilerish either. He on the other hand sounds like an evasive, immature child. He probably isn’t capable of providing the answers you deserve because he hasn’t engaged his emotions or brain yet. I know that feeling of wanting a deeper understanding & closure but you probably won’t get it from him, you’ll get it from yourself when you put him to the back of your brain & move forward in life without him, onto other people and pursuits more worthy of your attention & then you’ll realise he was never even worth this pain and upset. X

Completely this. He has shown himself up massively by choosing to be an absolute prick in the way he ended your two year relationship. You aren’t going to get closure from him. But you are not a bunny boiler for seeking it. As others say he will probably be getting a thrill out of your messages and perhaps even enjoying knowing that his no response and eventual cruel reply is winding you up. I’d take that as all the closure you need.

Take care and look after yourself now.

Those texts are not pathetic! You deserve an explanation. Two years is a long time to invest emotionally in another person and to have that ripped away.

You sure the new gf didn't send that cruel picture?

Anyway, he's not brave enough or compassionate enough to speak to you and offer an apology or closure so don't waste any more time on him

As others have said, delete and block on all platforms

Jesus, who needs enemies. I'm so sorry OP, you deserve far better. What an utter arsehole!
Delete, block and focus on yourself. Hugs 🤗

That wasn't too bad, he blindsided you and it was natural to want answers. He was cruel and very gaslighting to send that gif.

Just block now. Initial upset and response is to be expected, but now you can pick yourself up and cut him off and you still have dignity.

You did nothing that most people wouldn't have done (including him if the situation was reversed).

Sorry this has happened, OP. Please don't feel ashamed of your texts, anybody would be desperate for an explanation if they were dumped out of the blue after a two year relationship!! It makes me so angry when men make women feel like they are crazy for having totally understandable and acceptable responses to their shitey behaviour!

Block him, delete his number and move on. I know it's easier said than done but when you look back you'll be so glad he showed himself up to be a prick and you didn't waste anymore time in him.

In real life every single time I have seen a girl in this situation, her sleazy ex always comes crawling back eventually.

In time you’ll move on to bigger and better things, you really will. You will win by not having him in your life. His life will always be shit, he thinks he has the upper hand against you now and eventually he’ll message you again as hell assume you’re desperate for him back. Just imagine how satisfying it will be to ignore him whilst you’re living your best life??

He’ll *