He dumped me and I sent begging texts ..what now?

[frostytheshowman]

My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me.
He told me he met someone else,he has been texting her for months.
He did it by text.
Only after being distant and not coming over.
He stopped answering my calls and replying to my texts.
I sent him a long message asking why ? And how long ?
No reply
I sent another no reply
I sent another asking for a explanation telling him how hurt I was and just asking for a reason
No reply
Then he sent me a picture of a bunny and a pot and a laughing emoji
Then I sent another saying "I don't understand why you are being so cruel,I just wanted answers and you haven't even got the decency to do that.
No reply
How do I get some self respect back?
Make myself appear less crazy ?
Have I made a show of myself ?

There's absolutely nothing pathetic about your messages... Most people write faaaar faaar worse stuff because they feel like their heart is literally breaking! Don't think that your reaction isn't normal!
Also....I promise in time you won't give a toss about him.
When it happened to me I managed to get past the phase of sadness and utter utter heartbreak, but only after a long time of asking for answers and feeling like my pleading would do anything. Yes, in hindsight of course we all wished we hadn't done the emails phonecalls etc. But in reality it happens.
When I switched to anger and realised he was a completely different person (and I should have seen that even during our relationship), I did send a last contact to say something along the lines of... sorry I actually realised I don't like who you are..
So it's normal to want closure. If you do want to do something before blocking him off everything, just send your last message "Wow, what an awful...little person you have shown yourself to be. Can't call you a grownup. Maybe you'll grow a backbone one day. Good bye." and that's it. Nothing more nothing less. Because he doesn't deserve it.

Don’t even message him one last time. Block him on everything. If you want to piss him off, upload cute pics on all your socials & set your fb status to single as you know he’ll be stalking your socials on someone else’s account. The fact that you’re potentially dating others will get under his skin, without you having to do anything

Why do you need an explanation? It won’t change the outcome and it’s unlikely to be the truth.

I had a sharp intake of breath reading your post. He's a horrible person. I understand how hurt you must feel, you poor thing. Block him and don't think about him. He's shown you what an awful man he is. Take care.

Get yourself onto the chumplady website.

Your messages are not the worst. Yeah a bit cringe. Pffft. So what? A person with no regrets is a person who never did anything. Laugh at yourself, rage at cushion with a bad drawing of him / his knob stuck to it, then forgive yourself.

Also block him on everything.

Those texts are literally not pathetic whatsoever, just a perfectly normal response. It’s a two year relationship not a quick shag. But yes, you need to delete and block and concentrate on yourself and TRUST me he will come back and message you at some point (maybe in a couple years or when they break up), expecting to be able to pick you up again. Some men are pathetic. You’re better than that xx

The bunny boiler thing is such a pathetic male way of trying to shut women up and silence any conversation (it's also from 1987. You'd REALLY think they'd have come up with something at least a bit original by now).

It is only reasonable to want to know why someone ends a relationship.
It is normal to get upset when a relationship ends.

It's a sign that someone is a complete arsehole when they end a 2 year relationship by text and try to make out that someone is crazy for asking the reasons why. You've done nothing wrong OP. Nothing to feel bad for. Just block him on absolutely everything now though so you can move on.

Jesus what a juvenile swathe of pond scum he is
Anyone who has to resort to a pathetic inappropriate selection of emojis to send as a response to someone they’ve just treated appallingly is not worth a backward glance.

You are hurting now but I promise you in time - about six seconds - you will realise this.
Don’t try and turn his woeful shortcomings as a human being onto you.

Onwards and upwards and leave cockwomble to it

Block, delete on everything and don't look back.

You are not a bunny boiler, he is a cunt. Move on.

He's a spineless little shite. I'd probably send one last message saying that, but I'm hot headed.

Don't be like me. Rise above it.

Hope you're ok.

I'm a guy and in my younger days I sent far worse then that ... I've also rocked back and forth hitting my head on the sofa ... for sending such texts.

You'll cringe at them. You'll be embarrassed not for sending them ... but for sending them to someone who in time you'll realise really isn't worth it.

It will eventually become a funny story you tell about yourself to someone special.

I did tell it as a funny/cringeworthy story to my partner... with the caveat of what an idiot I was back then.

It'll blow over. Just don't send any more.

Op, we’ve all been there darling. Just delete his number and block his ass. He’s a dick who hurts you because it makes him feel better about what a cunt he is. You’ve made a bit of a fool out of yourself as have we all but you’ll not do it again. Let him go and be a twat somewhere else to somebody else, you don’t need him.

You’re not crazy at all!! Most people would freak out if their partner of 2 years did what he did- them to send you the bunny boiler image?! How cruel!! You’ll meet someone much better than this arse!!

What a complete twat. Be kind to yourself for the next few weeks. And be glad you didn’t end up marrying him or having children with him. He can mess someone else’s life up instead with his immature and cruel put downs.

Block, delete and pour yourself a nice big glass of wine 🍷

Tell us you have blocked him.

How horrible to be treated so poorly.

But you do need to realise that if you continue with these messages you are becoming a bunny boiler, and giving him a chance to report you for harassing him.

So break all contact.

You definitely did not make a show of yourself, you responded in a way that someone who has enjoyed a two year relationship would respond. It was only once it became clear you were on the receiving end of a heartless flick off that it became apparent that your messages were out of step with reality and he was not worthy of your (completely rational) distress.
That's shame on him not shame on you. But he is trotting out the old trope of a bunny boiler to add insult to injury.
What a ghastly, cruel, immature knobhead.
I'm so sorry your heart has been mauled by this toe rag.
I hope you recover in time and move on to better things. Good luck to him - his life will always be a pile of crap if this is the heights of joy he is capable of reaching with his heart of a grinch.

I would send him a text that warrants no reply and then block him. Something like ‘I am not a bunny boiler. It’s disrespectful and very immature to call me that. I deserve honesty after two years’ together. If you are too immature to provide that I doubt you will have a happy relationship with your new girlfriend. I wish you well but I deserve and will get far, far better’. And then block!

Sane people get frantic when treated in a not sane way. Don't worry about your behaviour. If anybody, including him and you, is in the mood for judging, his behaviour is far worse. Yours does not even compare.

It is sane and rational to have questions when a relationship ends.

Sometimes, the best thing to do is nothing. Dignity is what you will thank yourself for when you look back on this.

You are not a bunny boiler. I dont know anyone who would not question why they have been dumped after 2 years. No responses always make the situation worse IMO. You end up in a state, pouring your heart out in to a message hoping they would read it.

It's really shitty when one person checks out of a relationship first, the other is left blind sided and feeling like a fool. Its cruel what he did, if it makes you feel better then just know that people that know you two and know how he ended things, will be calling him names, not you. Sorry OP it's so shit.

You have 2 choices, 1) block him, 2) (and I'd have to do this, couldn't help myself in this situation) if not already blocked, send him a text, saying what a wanker/arsehole he is, so you are better off without him - then block.
You've not done that badly, you've not begged, you've just wanted to know why. The only thing is, this is on him, so no need to ask what you did wrong - maybe the wrong it was choosing a guy like him.

Op, just block him. You’re still thinking about what he’s thinking about you and how to present more favourably to him.

I’m sorry he’s been such a wanker about it. But you need to try to focus on not thinking about what he’s thinking of you. Because he is not giving you the same courtesy, 💐

If you do ever text again only do so by saying..
“I’d send you a picture of a massive cock (because you’re being one) but I wouldn’t want to make you feel inadequate” (followed by the pinching hand emoji)

But in all seriousness I’ve done waaaay worse in my time. Onwards and upwards!

What?! They're not even bad texts! After two years the least you deserve is a fave to face conversation and an explanation. I'm with @VVKills27 on this as well. If anyone should be feeling sick and ashamed right now, it's him. Imagine being so frightened of confrontation you just stop speaking to your GF of two years and then when that doesn't seem to have done the job, breaking up via text. Oooh so manly