@Affor,
What would help in this situation.?
What do you want to hear?
The truth, or sympathy regarding your poor choices?
Some situations in life have to be black and white, they are that way so you don't hurt others and yourself.
I understand you are in pain, but at least you have not made a life destroying choice of picking the wrong partner as a father, as your mm's wife has done.
This is a choice that could have been very different if she had known about you.
As it stands, you may one day be with him, she may be left alone with twins but whatever happens those children have had a terrible start in life, an uncertain future, instead of the wonderful real nurturing envoiroment it should be.
Make no mistake this will have affected his relationship with both children and spouse.
How would you like to discover that you made the wrong choice?, not just the wrong choice of loving someone but one where the life long choice of having a child with that person was utterly wrong.
As women we make these choices regarding children the best we can but when other women do not respect those choices let alone the men who want everthing then we should expect no sympathy.
It is self indulgent, and cruel.
The choice you made was black and white, it would have been so easy to draw a line and not emotionally invest with this man.
I am trying to understand but, I suppose there are many crimes (and this is a crime to many people) that I don't understand.
Your mm is useless, always will be, why would you want something like that in your life, a deficient human being who is so selfish he can't even stay faithful while his wife is pregnant.
Repulsive, as mm go that probably is the lowest of the low.
I also thought this was a support thread for staying away from the AP, not one for gaining sympathy for still enticing the AP back.
Either cut contact or shut up.
Also don't swear at other posters, who you believe are taking the moral high ground it shows you are in no way remorseful about your actions.