Should I walk in to 2021 a single woman?

[TheDiceWoman1]

NC for this.
In a very up and down relationship and I've spent all of Christmas feeling stressed and low.
He doesn't trust me. Makes me jump through hoops. He said he wanted to see me today to have sex as it's his reassurance I won't be sleeping with anyone else tonight. Not that I'm going anywhere it's just deranged thinking. I'm on my period and he tells me I'm avoiding and delaying having sex. I have been bleeding since Tuesday and last had sex with him Monday.
He clearly is not happy just to spend time chilling with me.
He says I don't take it seriously how much sex he needs. I've tried to accommodate and I'm not prepared to have sex while bleeding. He's truly awful and I'm struggling to walk away. I don't want my new year to start like this.

Fucking hell, op. He is AWFUL. Do yourself the biggest favour of your life and dump him. Right now, by text, and then block. Don't start off the new year with this arsehole.

Don’t walk. Run. He sounds awful.

Fuck. That.

Get shot of him and have a glorious new summer romance. Nothing makes me heal over more than a man being pushy or coercive for sex. 🤮

I think you know the answer. This has been an awful year but there is hope for 2021. Start yours well by getting rid of this man. He is controlling and demanding; has no concern for your feelings and will never trust you. He will just get more clingy/demanding/abusive.

Give yourself a New Years treat and walk away.

It will never get better. I would dump him pronto even if it means spending NYE alone. You will be happier.

Get rid of him. He's pushing your boundaries of what is comfortable. Ref Flag!!!

New year, new start - dump this pathetic man-child. Best of luck.

Get rid

He's not normal, OP.

Sex should be an activity you do together for both your enjoyment, not a need of his that you must fulfill. What’s in it for you? Yuk.

That's gross! Dump him and run

Eurgh sounds like a vile scummy rat of a man! To be honest, a rat is nicer!! He’s a sex pest OP, how you can even bare this man touching you is beyond me. Dump him this second, block then have a glass of Prosecco to celebrate your freedom from this twunt

Run for the hills!

Eeew. Dump him!

Dice darling, make 2021 a great year by losing this excuse for a human being. 🎉🥂🍾

He isnt a man child he is an abuser.
He thinks he is entitled to your body. He claims it is because he doesn't trust you (which would be bad enough if it were the case) but actually it's all about control. If you read Lundy bankrofts book 'why does he do that?', he worked with abusers for years and it was common for them to call their partners cheats/sluts ect but when asked most said they didnt actually believe she would cheat, but they accused her anyway in order to gain control. Basically so that she wpuldnt so focused on proving her love/innocence/loyalty ect to him that she would be easy to manipulate.

He is playing you. He is playing with your mind. He means you harm. Run. Run fast and far and never look back.

*would be so focused

Absolutely single all the way x

I was planning being on my own tonight anyway to get an early night more than anything else. One of his conditions was that he has to see me every evening and it has meant I'm losing sleep not getting to bed til late. I don't function on lack of sleep. He says if things were as he had asked then he would be happy to let me sleep. He has his DD tonight so I was planning a nice early night but he was talking of palming her off to come see me. I told him I don't want him to do that it's not fair on her. He has blamed me for having a bad Christmas with her because of how anxious his paranoia is making him. I'm sick of feeling like everything is my fault. I'm trying to be realistic and he keeps moving goal posts. I can barely eat through the stress of it.

Also pp be prepared when you tell him it's over, it is unlikely this lunatic will go without a fight. Dont be slow to threaten him with police (and call them if need be) if he won't leave you alone.

You are not a prostitute. He does not get to ring you up to book you in for a shag. Tell him to fuck off.

Conditions?

So basically - you arent allowed a day to yourself.

He wants you to not have any headspace. He knows that if you have space to think, you will realise his behaviour is not ok.

OP, your 'conditions' are that you get a good nights rest. Thats a fair non negotiable to have. So why do his unreasonable ones matter more than that? Protect yourself. He is bad news.

You've said yourself he's awful. You know you can't carry on. It's far from normal and you deserve better. Finish it. Block. Go into 2021 and find a nice caring man who will want to be with you for you.

Get rid. Be happy.