Should I walk in to 2021 a single woman?

[TheDiceWoman1]

NC for this.
In a very up and down relationship and I've spent all of Christmas feeling stressed and low.
He doesn't trust me. Makes me jump through hoops. He said he wanted to see me today to have sex as it's his reassurance I won't be sleeping with anyone else tonight. Not that I'm going anywhere it's just deranged thinking. I'm on my period and he tells me I'm avoiding and delaying having sex. I have been bleeding since Tuesday and last had sex with him Monday.
He clearly is not happy just to spend time chilling with me.
He says I don't take it seriously how much sex he needs. I've tried to accommodate and I'm not prepared to have sex while bleeding. He's truly awful and I'm struggling to walk away. I don't want my new year to start like this.

He'd let you sleep if you'd met his conditions, WTF? He's not your boss, he doesn't get to set rules for dating him and he's no catch anyway. Please do yourself massive favour and get rid, he'll only get worse

I am not sure why I've stayed but I'm determined not to stay any longer. I do have low self confidence anyway and I guess it's the cycle thriving off when he is nice that has kept me but I'm not prepared to keep doing this. Especially now it's got to the point the nice things aren't even there anymore and I'm continuously in a situation that is going from bad to worse. There is no way of getting a positive outcome with him staying in my life.

Look at how much support you have on here @TheDiceWoman1.
You can do this. We are all here to support you.

As previous posters have said, it doesn't sound like he will take the news lightly so be prepared to phone the police and make sure you do if he starts with any aggressive behaviour. I've been there.

Jeez, cut him loose, and be quick about it! He's a creepy controlling loser. Text to end it and block immediately.

I've done it. I feel dizzy and sick but I've done it. Why does it feel so awful?

Hi Op
He your Boyfriend is One hell of Serious Head Fuck !
(Being in a relantship with him,
Sounds like akin like mental Torture.
(Your sleep is essential)!
His Paranoia/insecurities are his
personal issues, to address get help for.
These issues of his, are ones he has had a Looong time before you came on his horizon.

You know you can have so much better than this.

Do yourself a massive favour,!!!

Get rid of your Arse hole of your man child Abusive poor excuse of a Boyfriend.!

It can get better for you,the new year
When you ditch the massive ball and chain of a boyfriend hanging from your neck.!!!

How dare he treat you like a Prostitute !!!

You deserve much better than this...xxx

Oh goodness, OP, I can’t tell you how upsetting this is to read. It’s like Gilead or something.

Do you have any friend or family you can go to? Does anyone in RL know what is going on?

Of course you must stop seeing him, and you will need to block him completely, but I think you should have someone with you or be elsewhere.

Fantastic news! Please call a friend if you are feeling scared or just wobbly - no harm in having someone close by. This man was mentally and sexually abusing you, you will be so much better off with him out of your life. Make it a resolution in 2021 to work on your self esteem, OP, NO ONE deserves to be treated like this. He is a pretty shameless abuser, most of them don't show their hand until they move in or have got you pregnant.

OP I don't comment often but this is truly awful. He doesn't have control of your body, you do. If he is trying to get into your house, do you have someone you can trust that can be with you, even from a distance, I think in these circumstances it would be allowed. If you were feeling vulnerable.
You certainly do not have to put up with this. Don't feel pressured and take control.

Very well done, OP. It will feel bad for a bit, while you shake off his nasty mind tendrils. But the thread seems pretty unanimous, you’ve absolutely made the right decision.

Make sure you block him on every platform too.

I've just read your update, well done. You feel awful because he's made you feel this way, that you should give in to his demands.

He is an abuser. He sounds mentally unwell. Are you safe? Does he have a key to yours?

Well done op I know it will hurt but its shirt term. Long-term you are better off out such an abusive relationship and I hope you are able to work on gaining back some self confidence. You don't have to be with someone in order to be worth anything

@TheDiceWoman1 I think you’re stronger than you think!! Well done for recognising that this isn’t healthy for you and getting rid! You will be SO much happier! Here’s to a HAPPY 2021!! 💐

It will feel awful. Endings are always traumatic - whoever is doing the ending or for whatever reasons. But!...endings make way for new beginnings! You can do this. It's time to focus on you. New Year - new life ...well done you! x

Well done 👏
Have a nice cuppa to calm down. I can’t believe he’s trying to force sex on you. That’s just abusive. I can’t even believe he wanted to move in with you. That would’ve been a recipe for disaster, he would up the abuse.

What an excellent way to end 2020. You're starting 2021 a new independent lady who wont take no s**t from nobody! haha.

Well done, I know that wasn't easy and you will have that sick feeling for a while. Stay strong, and come back and post if you are feeling lonely/unsure what to do.

Well done OP.
Stick with your decision because he will try everything to try and change your mind.
Block him on everything because you dont need to hear anything he has to say.

I wish you a very happy new year,stay strong and be kind to yourself x

Well done OP, you’ve 100% done the right thing, your life will be so much better without him!

Have you blocked him too? Do it to save having to listen to any more of his shit

You have so much support here, keep chatting, stay strong & here’s to a brilliant 2021 without him in your life

Don't walk, run. While singing for joy and celebrating.

Well done OP! Block him on everything so he can't abuse you anymore.

It's okay to feel awful for a while. Just keep telling yourself you'll feel a million times better soon.

Well done OP. Proud of you. Block him, open a bottle of wine, have a hot bath and enjoy your first night of freedom. 2021 will be a better year already for getting rid of him. X

Well done, now stick to it. Remember all the crap he has put you though. He is not in the remotest the sort of man you want any sort of relationship with, let alone a long term live-in one! He sounds really creepily horrible

Massive congratulations OP!! It will feel horrid for a while but you have done absolutely the right thing. He can fuck off with his “conditions” that you have to meet in order for him to be happy!! Do you have a mate you can call irl for some support. We are cheering you on all the way!!

Well done, op, just be sure he is blocked and you never speak to him again.