My boyfriend hit me

[Sadmom1013]

My boyfriend hit me
,I gave birth to our little boy 6 weeks ago
About two weeks ago we had a bad argument he he grab my cheeks so hard and chocked me we apologised to each other as some hurtful things were said and he felt bad for putting hands on me .
Early Monday morning we had an argument he was clearly drunk he ended up punching me giving me a black eye,strangled me and jammed me in between the back of our sofa and bed .
While he was strangling me I bit his hand and scratched him to get off me and I was kicking my legs about he’s got a black eye but not as bad as mine.

Straight after this he started crying saying what are we doing .
He’s apologised to me and recognises he’s made a mistake and he’s a different person when he’s drunk and he’ll change for the better and won’t ever drink again.
He begged me not to leave and he’ll change for the sake of our family

I’m only 22 I don’t know what to do I’m just seeking advice from a really dark place please don’t judge me

Wow Shelly, you really are a grade A victim blaming cunt. Fuck off.

Bless you op. I hope you’re ok. Please come back when you can. I’ve reported the ridiculous comments.

Shelly
You’ve read the op incorrectly. Please stop now.

Op DEFENDED HERSELF reread the posts. HE DOES NOT HAVE A BLACK EYE.

@shellydashock

Comments like what. I'm only reading what is written.

It sounds like it's got a bit heated between them and the child is the immediate and primary concern. DV isnt a gendered issue.

A bit heated as in he attacked her and she fought back?

I ask again, how is your determination to assign blame to the OP helpful? You keep banging on about the child- how does making his mother feel she'll be blamed if she attempts to leave helping him?

It's not. You're just sticking the knife in for no apparent reason. Now do the decent thing, report your own posts and slink off.

@shellydashock

Comments like what. I'm only reading what is written.

It sounds like it's got a bit heated between them and the child is the immediate and primary concern. DV isnt a gendered issue.

of course DV it's not gendered unique... but this Thread is this lady's current and present situation.. this is Her Thread...

Stop Blaming the Victim.

@Mummyoflittledragon no he does have a black eye, from where OP was desperately trying to stop him STRANGLING her! (Caps for Shelby’s benefit, not yours)

Sunbird
Thanks for correcting me. I misread in my concern.

My point of course still stands about defending herself and victim blaming.

@shellydashock

She bit has hand. Not possible if being firmly strangled. Biting is a violent act too. There's a baby there FFS does this surpass you?

What's your aim here? To convince the OP she's just as bad as her boyfriend so that she stays with him? To scare her off reporting the incident to the police? To get a rise out of other posters? Are you the OP's boyfriend?

You can't seriously believe this little me-rail of yours is helpful.

@Mummyoflittledragon you’re welcome, I absolutely agree. Someone who chooses to attack another person bloody well should end up with bites, scratches and a black eye. Although it doesn’t seem to have stopped him doing it again in this case.

@shellydashock of course everyone’s aware there’s a baby here, that’s why they’re all advising the OP to get herself away from this man while she can.

Sunbird
Exactly

Just as a heads up folks, Shelly only started posting today, 31st Dec.

As soon as he strangled the OP she'd have been justified to do anything, to the point of using weapons and leaving him in any state as far as im concerned.

@Mummyoflittledragon

Sunbird Exactly

Just as a heads up folks, Shelly only started posting today, 31st Dec.

interesting.... well spotted ...

Please leave - this is a high risk domestic abuse situation
Contact a local women’s refuge asap
Strangulation can easily end in death
Alcohol or age is never an excuse. He will apologise less each time.
His abuse is escalating
Your hitting him back to defend yourself is self defence ( don’t worry about it)

There’s fighting and standing up for myself I’ve never been a violent person and I hate arguments.
The last thing I ever want to do is do this in front of my newborn.
Sadly this is why I haven’t said anything yet because that how everyone would view me and some situations a better avoided and just leave it as it is .
I could only do so much to stop this from happening especially with a drunk person I know I shouldn’t have done what I did .

Thank you all

Back to Jordan Peterson youtube videos with you 'shelley'.

You did nothing you shouldnt have done.

You were protecting yourself. He potentially could have killed you or seriously injured you.

Tell your social worker first thing today. Tell them you need to leave immediately as he potentially could choke you to death.

I will be closing thread soon.
It’s better to stay quiet on the situation most people and possibly the police will view it how Shelly has and I don’t feel like I’ll get anywhere.
Thank you for the advice but I’m too scared