DH in a sulk over Simon Cowell

[Wildthingsx]

This morning I wrote a comment on a post about Shag Marry Avoiding Simon Cowell, and my husband is now in a huge sulk that I have written I would shag Simon Cowell from the 90s. (I would avoid early 00s Cowell and marry current Cowell, for anyone who is interested....) my comments were jokey and in the spirit of the post.

I mentioned it to him as I thought my comment was amusing, clearly a joke (I wouldnt shag ANY Cowell!) and a few hundred people have ‘liked’ it for its silliness, but he has told me to stay away from him, that I am not a ‘nice wife’ for writing this on the internet and that if I think like that then he is ‘out’. He also threw a pillow at me as I walked out the room and is giving off those sulky negative vibes that make me feel I should avoid him.

This is not the first time something like this has happened - although I have never commented on Simon Cowell before 😅 nor do I take part in these types of posts usually! Infact I never compare men or make lewd comments. As he is insecure and I tread very carefully....

I know this isn’t an AIBU but am I?

This is his issue to resolve. His behaviour is not ok. Irrelevant of what mental health problems he has or how insecure he is, this extreme level of jealousy is unacceptable and abusive.

Wait till he’s calmed down, them tell him to get help. That’s it is not acceptable and it will not happen again.

I think your last line says it all. He's really insecure, even about an imaginary person (because 90s cowell doesn't exist). Is there a back story?

His reaction however is massively OTT. Told you to stay away from him and that you're a bad wife? Was he joking?

I don't think I could bear the sulking tbh

I wonder if he's controlling in other ways or if you "tread very carefully" around other things...

Tell him Simon wouldn't behave like that.

Maybe he's just cringing at it being a public post? Sometimes when my ex did stuff like this it really gave me the ick.

You could block him on Facebook! That would solve it

Throwing the pillow at you in anger, throwing anything at you in anger, is completely unacceptable.

@JazzyGeoff

Tell him Simon wouldn't behave like that.

Yes!!! Do this!!

Seriously OP - is this the tip of the iceberg?

I couldn’t live with a man where I had to walk on eggshells around him all the time. For him to throw a childish tantrum over a tongue in cheek comment is ridiculous.

What does he bring to your life?

@JazzyGeoff

Tell him Simon wouldn't behave like that.

😂😂😂😂

@nanbread yes he is, but usually it all relates to being insecure.

A recent example, he said I make too much effort when I go to work and look ‘too sexy’.
I don’t know how to reply to these comments without setting off an argument.

In reply to a few others - yes this is, I have recently told him I am unhappy with things, nothing in particular has happened I just feel tired with this constant theme of insecurity.
I know I wrote this post in a jokey manner but a lot of you have clearly seen what I’m trying to say. Which scares me!

Hmmmm, the very tip of the iceberg, this, wasn’t it?
We are all here to help if you want to talk some more, and to help you get your head straight

Urgh get out now before you lose anymore of yourself to this insecure controlling man child.

Reversing the roles Mumsnet would be pretty hard on a husband who engages in those sorts of social media posts. There's always a double standard for women on here. When women look at pics of celebs or make lewd jokes it's always 'just a bit of a laugh' and the man is always called insecure, but if the man is doing the looking then it's considered very disrespectful to his wife.

In short, Mumsnet is very inconsistent on this and probably a bad place to get advice on this sort of issue.

I'm sure there will be a handful of replies stating the opposite just to prove how progressive and different they are, but if you do that then you've missed the point of this post entirely. I'm talking about the collective hive mind response, we all know there will be individuals who differ here and there.

Is he really insecure or is that a screen to enable him to control how you act/dress etc. He doesn't sound nice at all OP

Was this on Daisy May Cooper's insta by any chance? 😂 I was laughing at this earlier.

@ArmsClary yes it was! Please do not out me and guess my comment 🙈

Controlling af behaviour. I wouldn't live with anyone I had to be that careful around.

A recent example, he said I make too much effort when I go to work and look ‘too sexy’

DH had a dream one night that I had an affair with Art Malik - of all people . It took him a whole day to look at me properly and get the image out of his head. But I absolutely killed it, along the lines of ‘please could you put the bins out - I wouldn’t need to ask Art Malik twice’ etc. Because it was actually quite funny. Certainly no sulking went on.

Well him telling you that you dress too sexy for work is clearly ridiculous and I wouldn’t stand for that at all. However, if my husband wrote that on social media about a female celebrity I would be mortified to be honest. I find it really immature, embarrassing and degrading to talk about shagging people like that regardless of if it’s a celebrity. I’m not insecure in the slightest though and have no history of being sulky/ difficult on the relationship. We have respect for each other and perhaps a completely different sense of humour to you so wouldn’t find that funny. I’m just pointing out not everyone would appreciate their partner writing crap like that on social media so you can see it from another perspective too.

[quote Wildthingsx]@ArmsClary yes it was! Please do not out me and guess my comment 🙈[/quote]
Don't worry, I don't have the energy to read all 1250 comments

Ooh, Art Malik though... 😚

@DayBath You have a point re social media, but I think if a woman posted "My DH dresses too sexy when he goes to work" I don't think anyone would be sympathising.

Op I don't think your husband is insecure, I think he's controlling.

LadyMonica yes, nothing wrong with Art Malik! Wouldn’t be my first choice to have an affair with though ...

[quote EvenMoreFuriousVexation]@DayBath You have a point re social media, but I think if a woman posted "My DH dresses too sexy when he goes to work" I don't think anyone would be sympathising.

Op I don't think your husband is insecure, I think he's controlling.[/quote]
Yes you're right. But the allegations of insecurity came before OP revealed that part.

Aww he is insecure, silly man.