The One Where Ross Has To Figure Out Clingfilm

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How’s that for a title?!

Well, I’ve done a deal on the car. Actually it drives very nicely. I can see it’s practical. And it’s not an old banger.

It’s not very me. But it is sensible, and sensible I must be.

Actually got some kip last night. 9-5.

How’s everyone else doing? Justilou is it warm in Oz? One of my best friends lives there and I haven’t seen her for too long. RandomMess have you managed to have a better night / find out when you’re going home?

I haven’t told him about handing it over to the solicitor and no mediation on Friday yet. Waiting for the notes and financial summery from the mediator first. Hopefully today.

So let me guess he hasn't offered to do the schooling for the week...

I've just done that with Alexa 😂😂

So I assume he’s totally given up on the idea of 50/50 then?

You are doing so well! Good luck tomorrow!
In the meantime, is anyone else wandering around their own home selecting what they would take if they were leaving? Soooo tempting!

Hello ! @ @StuckInPollyannaMode

First time reading your thread.

I just wanted to say I hope all goes well for you.

I’m not in your position yet ( of leaving ) but can’t wait until I am.

for your new home

Thanks for all the well wishes folks. And hello to all new posters - I hope that one day you’ll be in my position if you need to be.

Just popped out for a quick walk and a reset before The Final Push. Currently leaning on a tree having a fag 😂 #stayclassy

I retained the moral high ground and texted his mum to wish her happy birthday. She replied with Thank you - so at least I’ve not been a bitch.

Getting there with everything and kids doing ok, that’s the main thing. He’s even cooking dinner tonight and has offered to get in all lunches for next week. I think any plans for more than 50% have gone out the window from the tone of his email. And of course, no, he didn’t offer to do it next week!!

Hoping to exchange tomorrow. That’ll be a big weight off.

Thanks for saying hello and making me feel welcome smile]

I’m already looking forward to that day although it’s a little while off yet.

I’m so excited for you

Surely he needs to attempt to home school them at least one or two days next week so you get away from him work?

Hope all goes well for you and your girls tomorrow. Good Luck

All the best for the move OP, hope your new home is a haven for you and your DC!

I think you should take his cling film gadget.

I’ve packed that @katmarie

Exciting last minute update - his house won’t exchange next Friday.

Guess who is angling to come stay...!

He is seriously deluded! 😂 how did you respond?

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Please tell me you laughed in his face

Wtf!! Seriously what an obtuse cunt!

No doubt he is expecting you to sort storage as well, solve his WFH problems and so on...

Have you spoken to him @RandomMess?

He wants me to recommend storage as you say, and places to stay, and how do you use AirBnB, and maybe he’ll go to this mother’s...and can he redirect his post to me.

Only issue with him buggering off to his mums is that it leaves me entirely in charge of the kids for a month, including home schooling- she’s 250 miles away and in her 80s so not really feasible to go back and forth in the middle of a pandemic

I just looked at him and raised one eyebrow, then packed the KitchenAid.

So, the war begins.....
Be gentle on yourself on Saturday, you will be totally exhausted, the adrenaline you gave keeping you going now will drop off, tidying & sorting the new house is not urgent.
Just sort the beds made & somewhere to sit & eat, the boxes can be unpacked when you have time & energy.
Maybe you can get the girls involved in a "rebuilding our home" joint project?
XH cannot set a foot in your house, start as you mean to go on...theres no internet, theres no bed, & anyway, his house purchase could be delayed yet again...
Tell him to get an airb&b with internet, so he can do the girls home schooling & cook them meals....
Courage, Good luck for tomorrow

He is so predictable...

Remember do nothing it's his problem.

He if he f*cla off the priority is mental health and calm over homeschooling, phone in sick for them if need be.

Hugs

He's been divorced before, surely he knows about storage et al. Idiot.

Do you know what, it could be worth you booking an airb&b for him, so at least he can have the girls & you can have time to sort out your house/work/sleep

He can fuck right off lol....WTF would you want him in your new ex free house, the memories you start making from tomorrow are without him in your life and YOUR new home..

Beds, bedding, cuddly toys the kids bring to bed, if any..kettle, tea, sugar, coffee, milk, wine and nibbles for you.

I second the air bnb for him and he can do his share, otherwise he needs to change his maintenance payment to reflect you having the kids 24/7

Best of luck

Order take away if you can afford it and turn your phone onto silent cos you can be sure he will be texting/ringing

Long term, would it be easier for you if he buggered off back to where he came from for a few months? Better off settlement wise? Better way to have a clean break? I know it will be bloody hard with work and homeschool but if you could break the idea in his tiny head that you exist simply to move his furniture and find him an Air BnB and all the rest of it - would it be worth it.

OP,

Think very carefully about what suits YOU best.

Please do not allow him cross your threshold....your daughter's need the safe place.

Would an Airbnb with wifi make the next month easier for you?

Think carefully of what works best for you.

Good luck.