@Slothmomma
I'm with you on the financially solvent, my ex husband had a spending problem so that affected my finances a lot as i had to pick up the slack.
Never again will I get involved with a man who spends money like water.
He also needs to have his life together, not necessarily a home owner but definitely needs to get through life at a steady pace rather than 100mph with loads of drama/crisis.
@cravingthelook
Nicely spoken is an interesting one because I grew up in a poorer household but I've been told I speak posh....definitely not, just well spoken I think....but Mr K brings out the worst in my local accent and my country bumpkin accent comes in when I'm around him (or my family).
Too well spoken makes me freak out and I dont feel good enough 🙄
@Ruralbliss
Thanks so much for your kind comments, it was tough but I just got on with it and now I think its great that my kids are grown up and I'm not yet 40 (but will be in a few days), some friends from school are just starting out😱
I dont think there is any right time to have children, just whatever suits you and your situation.
Me and my ex husband were split 18mths at the point he kicked off big time, I had been meeting guys for casual sex for over a year but he obviously didnt know but what triggered it was me spending my birthday with Mr K and not him.....
He confronted me, I admitted a casual thing and it sent him psycho.
He has had mental health issues for years and was sectioned when we split up because he was so suicidal and what I hadn't realised was that he thought we were getting back together at some point and i would forgive/forget his indisrection (again) but finding out I had met someone (even though casual) tipped him over the edge.
Too be fair he appears to be doing much better since about April but we are on limited contact so its just what I hear from DD.