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Has anyone stopped online dating?

180 replies

XmasHollie · 06/12/2020 17:57

It's so boring!! I've deleted my account. anyone else?

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barbrahunter · 26/12/2020 22:08

@Onacleardayyoucansee

I really think I'm better off on my own, focusing on myself, pursuing my own interests, there's loads I still want to do career wise and personal growth wise. A shit relationship would be a distraction and waste of time. Ive lived over half my precious life already.

The most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves?
I have to live with me.
On my journey, I realised, whenever a man would devalue me/abandon me, I would abandon myself.
I've stopped doing that.
Learned that lesson.

I'm not so much interested in knowing someone else as much as knowing me.
Being there for me.
Sticking with me, whatever happens.
Being faithful to me.
True to me.
I made a commitment to myself.

I've looked at attachment disorders, love addiction and codependency, meditation, self enquiry.

I want to be in a place where what others think, say, or do does not disturb me.

We don't need to look under stones to find our issues. We know what they are. There are loads of resources out there if you want to do the work.

What an inspirational post!
manofgreengables · 01/01/2021 18:05

Yep OLD is a great way of meeting "interesting" people but a pretty inefficient way of meeting future life partner. Statistically, like it or not, pubs, parties, churches and workplaces are where most LTR's in the UK get started. During COVID all four of those are unavailable. Here's to a better 2021 for us all.

thegreysheep · 04/01/2021 14:37

I've found OLD a mix of either avoidants or clingons. Rarely a happy medium!
The positive is, it and threads like these have opened my eyes to spotting red flags earlier and being more assertive in enforcing my boundaries and saying 'thank you, next'. If something isn't working for me. But it is disheartening and exhausting for sure!

j712adrian · 04/01/2021 20:35

When you’re a bloke and you see a profile of a lady who wants you to dance around the kitchen with her to Huey Lewis and the News, you should probably steer clear.

famousforwrongreason · 05/01/2021 02:23

@j712adrian

When you’re a bloke and you see a profile of a lady who wants you to dance around the kitchen with her to Huey Lewis and the News, you should probably steer clear.
Oh my god she sounds bleddy dreajy, send her my way Smile
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