He got engaged tonight!

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Have know him for a long time and have been in regular phone contact for the past year or so, he sent me some very graphic pictures a few hours ago and was asking if we could meet next week.

I was doing some facebook stalking and have seen he got engaged tonight. Looking all dapper and happy at the Savoy with his beautiful and clearly clueless girlfriend...I don't get it, how can someone send dick pictures 2 hours before asking someone to marry them?!

I feel awful for her as well. I don't know what I'm asking really, just can't believe he could be so deceptive. Ugh some people are shit.

OP how old are you both?

There's only one way if looking at this... If you were her what would you want to happen.

So tell her...

Check the dates on the pictures. Is the Savoy even open ?

@Lovethesun100

Check the dates on the pictures. Is the Savoy even open ?

OP said she had changed some details, maybe venue was one of them?

Were all his family there at the engagement do at the Savoy?

Be very very careful with this OP. I understand both options and would want to know myself, however, guys like this have a nasty way of twisting things around and he could decide on a vendetta against you which would result in a whole load of major stress and even safety concerns if he flipped. It's going to be hard to do it anonymously, he will know it's come from you because he will inevitably find out because they will talk. I'd stay out of it and put your safety first. It's a very difficult one.

I agree with PP on being careful how you communicate.

However if I take myself back to being engaged, etc, I think I would want to know and be told. It is never a good thing to hear but it easier to think / call it off before getting married or with kids down the line.

It's going to be hard to prove, unless the dick pics he sent are unique and identifiable to him. Would the wife to be be able to identify it as such? Lol they all look the same to me.

@wobblywinelover

It's going to be hard to prove, unless the dick pics he sent are unique and identifiable to him. Would the wife to be be able to identify it as such? Lol they all look the same to me.

Screenshots that show his phone number/name or the message stream will be pretty conclusive.

Providing he's not using a different number. I'm just trying to think of ways he could wriggle out of it, which might make the OP's decision easier..

If you keep it vague (when you tell her her fiancé is a creep) he might not know it's you as there may be/likely to be other women he's "involved" with. I was going to say perhaps nothing would have happened between you but as you've got history it probably would.

I would keep quiet until the day he's planning to meet you and let him waste his time. If he does set out to meet you (don't go) you know what he's capable of.

You've dodged a bullet there op.

Thank you for planning on telling her OP; emotions aside, this woman deserves to know that she needs an STI check.

Checking in for an update! Intriguing stuff, we all want to know and know if you are okay OP

I got the impression the op was signing off with her last post, so not sure they'll be an update

That's a shame, me and my son have been talking about it and what a dilemma it is, hope there is some closure and that she'll be okay