He got engaged tonight!

[whatisgoingonn]

Have know him for a long time and have been in regular phone contact for the past year or so, he sent me some very graphic pictures a few hours ago and was asking if we could meet next week.

I was doing some facebook stalking and have seen he got engaged tonight. Looking all dapper and happy at the Savoy with his beautiful and clearly clueless girlfriend...I don't get it, how can someone send dick pictures 2 hours before asking someone to marry them?!

I feel awful for her as well. I don't know what I'm asking really, just can't believe he could be so deceptive. Ugh some people are shit.

Its a hard situation but I think telling her is the right thing to do here. Poor woman.

Definitely carefully compile some screenshots to show the longevity of you guys meeting so she knows it wasn't just once and include the main one from tonight as the first, do it before it's too late the only grateful part of finding out my ex was cheating was that we were not married.

You definitely need to tell her

I figured it out by myself by tricking the woman when she was drunk that I already knew so that she admitted it. I wish she had just told me she was my best friend.

Oh god . I usually am of the opinion of say nothing but in this case I'd tell her. She can then make an informed choice whether to marry him or not.

i would rather know..than not know. Are the kids his/soory that makes no difference-fuck it-tell his ma too

What a sleazeball. Please tell her

Tell her so she doesn't marry this pos.

Just tell her.

Yep tell her, it’ll be hard for her but if I were her I’d want to know before it’s too late. You’d actually be doing her a massive favour.

What a knob 🙄

Hate men like this you have to tell her

Definitely tell her before she devotes money and emotional energy planning a marriage to this idiot.

If you tell her,set up a new email and use that
Don’t under any circumstance use your RL details, it’s too provocative

It’ll be a punch to the gut, and she might not even believe it/ignore it, but she should be told.

As someone who found out her fiancé was cheating after a year of wedding planning and the day after all the invites had gone out I can tell you just how humiliated and stupid I felt - and the absolute worst thing was realising that a couple of people knew and could’ve told me. we also lost a lot of money in deposits when I had to cancel everything. Tell her. You don’t have to get involved, just send her screenshots and let her make her own mind up. But she absolutely deserves to know what a loser she’s about to marry.

Ps, and years later I can honestly say that, even with all the humiliation and upset, finding out before I would’ve married him and splitting up was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I swerved a bad one there.

I can understand you may feel bad at ruining her happiness but remember that's on him, not on you. He's decided to act in this way and if his fiancé is hurt that's his fault. I'd tell her, better she finds out now, you're doing her a favour xx

She needs the truth before she marries him. I’d be very angry, but better to know beforehand. I wish I had listened to my heart and not married my ex. I was ready to call it off the night before.

She just got engaged. No children, no mortgage....as some who divorced a cheater after 2 children and 16 years of marriage and is now a 50 year old divorced woman I beg you to spare this week more heartache. She should know.

I think you should tell her... be prepared that you can't know her response, whether she'll be grateful or hate your guts but if the reaction is negative remember it is his fault, not yours and the fallout is on him, not you.

We are so conditioned, including women, to always see things as the woman's fault even when the woman's didn't know the bloke had another relationship, and the man obviously knew perfectly well he had two women.

Wow, he's a sleaze.

Tell her. And provide concrete proof of course. Women sticking by women is the only way to root out pricks like him

I wouldn't usually say this but tell her! Cause it took me a dc and two years to find out! And we always do

@LindaEllen

Do you know what, I don't often condone telling partners, but here I honestly would. Because she's not gone too far yet, they're not married, it's easy for her to get out right now. She needs to know the kind of man she's engaged to.

This - completely agree! Usually I'd say stay out of it but not in this case, ugh! He's disgusting.

@whatisgoingonn also he did it because he was feeling like a king and a player! He got the biggest boner know he was lying and wanted