He got engaged tonight!

[whatisgoingonn]

Have know him for a long time and have been in regular phone contact for the past year or so, he sent me some very graphic pictures a few hours ago and was asking if we could meet next week.

I was doing some facebook stalking and have seen he got engaged tonight. Looking all dapper and happy at the Savoy with his beautiful and clearly clueless girlfriend...I don't get it, how can someone send dick pictures 2 hours before asking someone to marry them?!

I feel awful for her as well. I don't know what I'm asking really, just can't believe he could be so deceptive. Ugh some people are shit.

Agree with @Londonmummy66 too OP, I wouldn't be surprised if there are more women if he is that disgusting of a person that he's sending dick pics and arranging sex on the day he proposes to someone else!

I'd just block him. Maybe let her know, but I was in a very similar situation about 10 years ago, and my decision to let the fiancée know resulted in threats and harassment from her, him and her adult children. I ended up having to involve the police.

I would send copies of messages he’d sent leading up to the dick picks as well, just to prove that they’re from him. What an utter fuckwit.

Oh and to his darling mummy.

Was England not in lockdown?

So you've known him years, have his facebook and have only just established he has a gf who he is now engaged to... doesn't quite add up

Poor girl. She'll find out when this is all over the D Mail - can't be that many couples got engaged at the Savoy this week.

Can’t imagine many people were staying at the savoy at all so if she sees this she will know it’s about her . No doubt

Shocking 😁😁😁😁😁

Wow such a lot of responses, and some massive judgement, not nice.

Thanks to those of you who offered constructive advice and kind thoughts. I came on here as I am embarrassed and can't bring myself to tell anyone in RL and wanted advice which you have given me.

Couple of responses before I bow out:

Not jealous of the engagement but I do feel stupid, and embarrassed.

Absolutely don't want a relationship with him, it was very much casual sex with us and always has been and that's enough for me.

There are details that have been changed so it's not as identifying, I was being careful because I'm not a dick, not because I'm a troll.

I think am going to tell her, but I'll find a way to do so without telling her who I am. I'm concerned that he might get angry and he lives near to my mum who I definitely don't want involved.

Thanks again to those of you that were kind.

Good on you for saying you’ll tell her.... anonymously.

Blimey- was it a quick thing with his fiancee then? If yours and his family are friends and he lives near you mum- how have they not known?

@whatisgoingonn I think you are right to tell her, but please don’t do so anonymously. I’m still preoccupied with the anonymous messsge sent to me five years ago. Not knowing who sent it nor what their motives were really messed with my head.

It won't be anonymous anyway. You might not tell her who you are, but as soon as she confronts him he'll know it was you.

"......as soon as she confronts him he'll know it was you."

whatisgoingonn may not be the only one.

If there’s a chance that he could get nasty and your wider families could get caught up, leave it alone.

@Sargass0

Blimey- was it a quick thing with his fiancee then? If yours and his family are friends and he lives near you mum- how have they not known?

@GreenClock

If there’s a chance that he could get nasty and your wider families could get caught up, leave it alone.

Yes, if it will make you fearful of repercussions, simply block him everywhere and leave it all behind you.

His poor fiance - but it's not worth possible aggro for your family.

So you've known him years, have his facebook and have only just established he has a gf who he is now engaged to... doesn't quite add up

Your reading comprehension doesn't add up.

She's said, possibly more than once now, that he's not got Facebook (or not one he's made accessible to her anyway), she saw the announcement on his mum's Facebook.

And while she's known him years, she hasn't been in the sane location as him for years. Currently 7 hrs away.

Why do people comment without reading ops posts.

I wouldn’t worry about aggro from families - sounds like the couple are in their 40s or 50s - I doubt he is going to tell his 70 - 80 year old Mum and her 70 - 80 year old family friend - pointing the finger at OP for telling his fiancé that he had sent her dick pics......

I would contact her directly and tell her that you have had this on off casual sex thing for decades as PP have said he is likely doing this with others. She needs to know who he is. I would maybe try to call her and send the details / proof later if she asks rather than let her open a shocking email at an inopportune time.

@Sargass0

Blimey- was it a quick thing with his fiancee then? If yours and his family are friends and he lives near you mum- how have they not known?

OP says that from fiancés face book it looks like they have been together at least two years. So not quick. I also don’t see why OPs mother would necessarily know about or even mention the love life of the adult child (40/50) of a family friend to her daughter. Depends how close the family friends are.

Oh ffs I would just block his number and forget about him - he’s a dick

But I wouldn’t get further involved or waste another second thinking about him or attempting to get in touch with the girl - it’s not really your problem.

Tell. Don't let her pay so much for a wedding to a deceptive piece of shit.

I would have ended it after receiving a dick pic. Who wants a photo of a dick?