Not invited to Parter's Christmas

[drinkribeina]

I may be being unreasonable here, and if so then please say!

Been with DP 3 years, both have kids, none together. We don't live together.

Every year DP spends Christmas Day at his Mums, with his older sister and her partner. I usually go to my parents. This year they have said they do not want me to go as my Dad is elderly and they are worried about catching Covid.

I will be spending Christmas Day on my own. My DP has not invited me to his Mum's for the day (I get on very well with his family and do an awful lot for his Mum). His Dad died a few years back.

Am I wrong for thinking it would be nice for DP to invite me to spend it with him and his family rather than let me spend it alone?

OP give that console to your kids.. Or sell it. Don't give it to him.
Claw back your self respect and get out of this now. Watching your updates on her I just think you deserve so much more.
You've wasted 3 years on this twat. Don't waste anymore time on him.
I know you will though, you'll carry on waiting in the wings waiting for him to throw you a few crumbs.
Anyone that cared about you would never treat you like this.
I'd just have a sit and really thing about how you really.
I hope whatever you do decide, I hope you do have a good Christmas. You're kids will be with you for the remainder of the festive time. Have a 2nd Christmas Day with them.
All the best x

• how you really feel

Beautifully wrapped present.
Inside the box I would actually ask a store for a spare box PS5 sized. Wrapped in lots of tissue and bubble wrap a dumper truck. See how long it is before the penny drops. If he phones don’t speak. I married someone that doesn’t speak if he doesn’t want to discuss something. They don’t change in that regard.
When I had only been out for about 6 months and he found out I was to be on my own working all Christmas Day because Boss and her DH had gone on holiday and the two girls that worked with me had been allowed to go home because they could be back in two days whereas I lived 300 miles away he invited me to his parent’s house.

To not be invited when he knows you are on your own and the fact that you have been a support to his mum is really awful. I would have to consider whether I wanted to be with him and if not buy the dumper truck!

He sounds like a prize twat op

Is he planning to spend hundreds of pounds on your present?

Are you not embarrassed by it op? Running around after this man, and his family, who’s been pretty clear about where you stand.

Noo sod that he’s a selfish arsehole. He could invite you round to be with him and his family. That’s just wrong when he knows you’re all alone. I’d be raging.

This is so sad. Another vote to sell the PS5 on and dump him for a new start. The idea he wants you to come over Christmas Eve to stay over and give him his present but then pack you off home alone is horrible. You deserve so much better and he doesn’t deserve you.

Covid police please shut up about bubbles. It's a made up, stupid thing and no one cares.

@Milliepossum

He doesn’t care about you OP. He’s using you whenever he wants for sex or food and his mother is also using you to do things for her. Please don’t make the mistake of thinking his mother is nice and different to the son, it’s my experience that sons that are tied to their mothers like that usually have the same attitudes as the mothers, because this is how their mothers taught them to be. Some people may not agree with this, but unfortunately I’ve seen it too much.

I agree with this. He is so attached to his mother and won’t contemplate spending Christmas away from her is because she’s trained him. She therefore sees herself as having the primary relationship with him, not you and he’s been taught this is normal when it absolutely is not.

This man is CF of the year. OP, you seem so lovely! Dump his ass!!!

@readingismycardio

This man is CF of the year. OP, you seem so lovely! Dump his ass!!!

I’m not sure, the op is the one who decided to spend several hundred pounds on him for Xmas. He doesn’t even know. It just seems to me it’s an unbalanced relationship the op is more into him than he is her.

So she’s going to see his mum, spending lots of money on him, where he doesn’t really care so much. There is even an undertone of if his mum knew she’d invite me,

Op, I hope you retain some dignity, don’t go over Xmas eve fhen kinda hang around hoping to score a sympathy invite to stay from his mother.

He wouldn't be my partner any more, sell the console and spoil your kids.

If you do end up staying over Xmas Eve (I don't think you should - another vote here for LTB)
Please please PLEASE just accidentally forget to take his PS5 and say you'll give it to him next time you see him 😈🤣🤣🤣

Give yourself the gift of freedom from this selfish man. Return his present and spend it on yourself and your kids.

@drinkribeina what redeeming features does this man have?

I ask, as from what you’ve described he’s little more than a free loading, selfish cocklodger.

He lives with mummy but you cook for him and he’ll stay over

He wants you to stay over on Xmas eve, so that you’ll shag him and he gets his expensive gift.

He then expects you to leave, so that he’ll be left alone to play with his new console. All whilst, mummy cooks and waits on him and hand and foot.

No doubt, he’ll suggest that he comes to you on Boxing Day. So you’ll then run around after him.

I’m sorry to be harsh, but get some self respect and dump him.

He doesn’t love you, you are just there to make his life easier and to also fulfil his sexual requirements.

🤢🤮

Odd relationship op. Odder that you come on here and ask this lot before you ask him.

Does he know how upset you are?

I'd be tempted to let his mother know you will be on your own so you can flush out how they feel about you.

I hope your kids aren't missing out at Christmas because of the console cost.

Buying him a PS5 will definitely improve this relationship

He probably wants you to piss off so he can play FIFA all day.

He sounds worse and worse with every fact you post OP.

Crikey, he is a massive cock lodger isn't he! I'm sorry OP, but I am with the others saying your relationship seems very one sided and he doesn't seem invested in it as you are. Not a fucking chance would I be giving him that console! It cost a fortune, he doesn't deserve it. Either let your children have it or sell it on and bank the money for other things. Then dump his ass, stock your house with all of your favourite food and drinks and have a cosy Christmas in your pjs watching festive shitty but great tv and reminding yourself that you are worth so much more and that you did the right thing in ditching that disrespectful prick.

@Eddielzzard

Sell the PS5, get him a mug that says 'fuck off', have a lovely xmas eve at his - he's cooking and clearing up. Clear off early christmas day leaving his present. Never see him again and live happily ever after.

This. But wrap it in a ps5 size box. Give his sister her contribution back on Xmas morning too.

Do you have the games consol or does his sister?

Are you ok @drinkribeina?

I guess it's hard to see this written in black and white. You are worth more than this.

Out of interest, does he get you nice presents and make lots of effort for you?