Food. I'm teeny, tiny me <simpers> aren't I lucky - because I have CHRONIC PAIN. DH comments on what I eat.

[MrsGRamsay]

Because of chronic joint pain I find it hard to take on sufficient calories. My DH is a good bloke - does 99% of housework etc and has learnt to cook. He's naturally slim. He will have bread with every meal 'Toast and marmite for breakfast?! Not the same without some Sourdough and cheese on the side!'; we could have Sushi and he'd crowbar a couple of slices of sourdough in.

However, I've noticed that if I admit to a hint of appetite he'll comment on how hefty the dish was, how there was enough in 'one portion' to share for two etc. I've just come back from a over a week in hospital where one nurse (lovely lady) really tried to get me to eat and have lost even more weight

What? I can't make out if you're being sarcastic? What the hell is all the simpering stuff about?

Glad it’s nit just me who understood not a word of that 😂

I understand OP. Is he controlling over other areas of your life too?
Sorry you are unwell.

What?

I didn't understand any of that really but this bit:

. I said I could eat because not much and he said didn't make sense because would only keep going on and on. He had with two slices of bread (of course) then mentioned plenty enough for two.

I'm stumped!

Can you rewrite your post in clear language leaving out the simpering.

So you're underweight and your husband wants to restrict your food intake?

Eh?

Hmmm ok.

I'm interpreting it as the OP is unwell and due to this is underweight and not gaining. Her DH is a pig and eats bread with everything. However when she eats he comments to the effect that she eats too much, even though she could do with gaining some weight.

You could all try being a bit kinder, this isn't AIBU and the OP may not have English as a first language.

I think the OP is worried that she will be accused of stealth boasting for saying that she is underweight.

She is pointing out that’s it’s because of her health problems and not her choice.

I think the teeny tiny bit is her being sarcastic and a joke.

Sorry if I’ve got that wrong OP.

But is she being sarcastic as in she is actually overweight?

The 'simpering' is an attempt to be self-deprecating I think. I expect the OP is used to bitchy women being goady about her weight and unsympathetic because they wish they had were also slim?

That's how it potentially read to me.

@S00LA high five!

Has your husband always tried to make you a smaller version of a teeny tiny person?
Perhaps you could eat when he isn't around? You could also wipe the toilet bowl with his sourdough.

If you want to eat, eat. Men are not subtle creatures. Speak plainly and firmly to him. Simple commands are best, such as "give me food".

You probably need to manage your own eating without his ‘useful’ input. Have you had a chance to see a dietitian if you are underweight? I realise there’s a reason for it but you may get some good advice on how to increase your weight from a professional. This would arm you to tackle your odd husband when he criticises your eating.

Yes, there's a lot of well-known competitive under-eating on MN.

When you're ill, it can be quite difficult to navigate. If the OP has chronic illness, she could have IBS or IBD or something alongside other stuff.

You could also wipe the toilet bowl with his sourdough.

Eh?