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Right to be offended by tonight's comments

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GenevieD · 12/10/2020 22:42

So my on/off partner messaged me tonight and said he hasent been in touch all day because hes absolutely furious at something that happened today. So he basically got pulled by police for something he shouldn't have been doing and got an on the spot fine.
He said he got victimised because he is a hardworking straight white Male. Then he said to the police officer I bet if I was a woman, or on benefits or of colour you would have let me off because it's not worth your job.

I was horrified to hear he had said that and I've really taken offence tonight. I am a single parent yes I work really hard to look after my daughter (but I do get a little bit of additional support in the way of benefits). He said woman would turn on the water works and say it's time of the month or use some other excuse like 'I'm pregnant' to get away with it.

So it's now turned into a little bit of a slanging match. He says nobody feels sorry for him because hes a white Male. Hes slated women tonight. Yesterday when I was out with him we were walking in the woods and there was a woman with an 18 month old toddler on reins and he walked really closely and impatiently behind him, so the lady said move over to let the man through, he stormed through. And then he said can you believe how sarcastic that woman was to me!!!

Theres been so many things go on lately, but these are huge red flags arent they?

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Butterer · 12/10/2020 22:44

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Hobbes8 · 12/10/2020 22:46

Could you make him and off/off partner, do you think?

I’m sorry...he sounds like a woman hating arsehole.

SBTLove · 12/10/2020 22:48

Time to switch to OFF, what an entitled arsehole.

DandyMandy · 12/10/2020 22:48

Get rid of him. Racist and sexist. Lovely combination.

GenevieD · 12/10/2020 22:49

Haha @Hobbes8 I could make him an off/off partner I did a couple of months ago and for some very bizarre reason I missed him and went back.

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saraclara · 12/10/2020 22:50

Ugh. He's awful. Get rid.

TeeBee · 12/10/2020 22:51

Yeah, this one sounds like a dick.

BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze · 12/10/2020 22:52

Get rid.

Hobbes8 · 12/10/2020 22:52

I think you might find you miss him a little less this time!

RightOnTheEdge · 12/10/2020 22:53

Omg, run!
He sounds like a horrendous pig.
That poor woman in the woods, it must have been so intimidating for her!

SBTLove · 12/10/2020 22:54

Hard choice

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BadDucks · 12/10/2020 22:57

He sounds vile come on OP deserve better than that.

Butterer · 12/10/2020 23:00

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GenevieD · 12/10/2020 23:03

@RightOnTheEdge I felt mortified when I seen his behaviour I thanked the lady for letting us past. I lost respect for him a few months ago.

And then sunday I woke up and was really irritated by absolutely everything he done. We were getting on motorway and range rover didnt move over as quick as he wanted to and he was shouting yeah alright mate we can all get financed upto our eyeballs and buy a range rover. Then a man at the woods said I wouldn't park there your blocking people in so he slammed his car down and said to me about him being a prick!

I had a rare full day to myself but I made excuses I had to leave! He really angered me and I couldnt sleep last night annoyed by all the little things he had done in the day. Now he is arguing with me because myself and my ex (my daughters father) both took DD to an outdoor cinema screen last night. Tempted to block him right now

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GenevieD · 12/10/2020 23:04

@Butterer he didnt use the term 'of colour' I used that term for him because I was too embarrassed to write what he actually said

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Pumpkinpied · 12/10/2020 23:06

What a prince amongst men! Run as fast as your legs will carry you.

Etinox · 12/10/2020 23:07

Bin. More red flags than the long march.

TwentyViginti · 12/10/2020 23:08

TEMPTED to block him? Just do it - he's dirtying your phone by being on there.

gamerchick · 12/10/2020 23:11

What did he do? Flick a cig end into the street?

Sunbird24 · 12/10/2020 23:12

Ugh, self-centred prick. Get rid.

VaggieMight · 12/10/2020 23:16

Sounds like an angry Laurence Fox. Did he really say he was victimised for being hardworking and straight? Not the point I know, but how would the policeman know he was hardworking and straight?

Get rid, especially for being arsey about spending time with your ex and daughter.

MoreCookiesPlease · 12/10/2020 23:17

Sounds like a vile, nasty prick. Ditch. And try and work out why you went back to him.

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newnameforthis123 · 12/10/2020 23:19

Racist, sexist AND shouty. The triumvirate of cuntishness. What the fuck are you debating?! Obviously block him and break up. He's vile, would make my skin crawl.

PickAChew · 12/10/2020 23:21

He's an utterly rancid twatwaffle. Please remember that the next time you consider taking him back.