"OP has already said that a cleaning company wouldn't do it to his standards."
Xpost - I think that’s unlikely - depends on the company and the brief. A good company can do it to any standard.
@TatianaBis (and others) -
The cleaning company idea misses the point. The clue as to what is really going on is the OP's comment that he wouldn't be satisfied with any job cleaners could do.
The H isn't bothered at all by the state of the house. No cleaning effort on anyone's part - except his mother's - will ever be satisfactory, because the aim of the H's game is to always criticise, not to end up with a clean house.
The state of the house is just something handy that he has weaponised against the OP.
The point is not to get the house clean. He doesn't care about the house. He has two items in his agenda:
1 - It is vital from his pov to always have something to criticise the OP for, something to use to keep her feeling small and anxious all the time, something to remind her that the H is in a position of authority over her, and keep the OP on the back foot at all times, anxious, but at the same time optimistic that she will one day meet with his approval.
This is the trap laid by all abusers. The other side of the abuse coin, the role of the victim in the dynamic, is the toxic optimism on her part in response to the bait set out, optimism that one day she will finally get it 'right' and the abuser will finally approve of her. The OP believes deep down that there is a right way, that the goalposts will never be moved, and that trying really hard will result in approval and appreciation from her H. It's a chimera based on the false assumption that this man cares about the house.
2 - I suspect he also cares very much about showing his mother that he is on the same page as her, focused on the same preoccupation, and is willing to allow his mother into his house to participate in the shaming of the OP. This is a triangular relationship and his mother is probably only too happy to join forces with the H against the wife.
Ultimately, what keeps the OP in this very unhealthy relationship is a deep fear, not necessarily of her H, but of something else. YY to @Songsofexperience.
@Goodbadanduglyyyy, you need to sit yourself down and ask yourself what your deepest fear is.
Being alone?
Shame associated with failure?
Humiliation?
You need to name and face this fear or you will always be inclined to give away your power.
You will always ask, 'How high?' when someone says, "Jump!" instead of the retort, 'Who do you think you are, telling me to jump?'