DP cross there's no food

[droopyears]

My DP of 4 years has just had a go at me because there is no food in the house. He doesn't actually live with me.
He knows I do my food shopping on a Wednesday so am usually pretty low on a Tuesday.
He seemed really cross that there wasn't a huge menu of snacks available
I just wanted to vent really

Total user, get rid or at least set some boundaries.

@picklemewalnuts

He's really rude then and inconsiderate. He's using you and your home as a comfortable free fully serviced hang out.

What a selfish arse.

What does he bring to the table?

what does he bring to the table

A knife and fork?

I'd be a tad pissed if if I wanted a snacky snack.. But then I would go to the shops and great lush bits for the 2 of us

What a cheeky using bastard. He's not daft is he. You're buying the food and cooking the food and he's not even contributing. What are you doing with this man OP.

He's not really a partner is he?
You have to pretend he is.
He's a guy that gets free dinners and a shag round your house.
What did he get you last Christmas? A Terry's Chocolate Orange from the Pound shop?
You'll be telling us next he lives with his mother or he's renting a relative's house really cheap but needs his own space so you aren't allowed over there much.

I am surprised no one has turned up to ask what you are thinking not having at least a month of food prepped and waiting for emergency use. Although it sounds like if you had, he'd have eaten it.

I think you need to sit down and have a good chat about this. If he's eating at yours most nights he needs to start contributing towards your food bill. Or bring his own contributions towards the food. Plus I find you doing 50/50 in takeaways a bit odd, does he have no shame, surely he can't not work out he's taking the piss?

Oh and to add to my post, he needs to also start cooking and washing up too!

How long have you been together?

How come you don't live together?,are you worried about finances if you do eg if you lose some tax credits/housing benefit are you worried he won't help to financially support you and the children?

Is he still living with parents?,does he have an significant ex/kids?

What's he actually bringing to the table in his relationship?

He sounds worse with every update.

I would directly tell him that you've noticed that your relationship has fallen into a pattern of him coming over most nights, eating all of your food and then not even offering to do the dishes. You think it's time for a change.

If he has a problem with this then I would get rid of him.

I cannot believe you've allowed this cretin to take food from the mouths of your children for 4 fucking years ?!

please DUMP.

@popsydoodle4444 We've been together 4 years. He lived on his own then moved back in with his Mother when his Dad died a few years back (as she couldn't cope), and has been there ever since. I own my house. Which explains why I don't go over there much. He has 2 DC.

@nimbuscloud One is a pre teen, the other a teen, and they both absolutely love him

What age are your children?
Can you not see how shit he is ? He’s using you.

@nimbuscloud Mine are pre teen and teenager, his are younger

Sorry cross posted
Do they really? Why am I not surprised
Do you love him?

So, you weren't even expecting him over and he's moaning you didn't have as many treats as he wanted? What a bellend!

He made himself some toast tonight, and then started talking about the food shop tomorrow, wondering what I'm going to buy. And now I'm sat here starting to feel irritated that he appears to be excited about what I am going to buy (and him eat)

So please tell us you told him that he is doing the food shopping?

God your poor DC with this twat turning up waiting for you to cook for him. He is a using scumbag....do you ever go to his for for dinner or is it all one way ?

Just seen why you dont go to his...he stays with his mum, likely doesnt pay any rent and comes to yours for food...he is a catch isnt he?

You sound very passive, OP. Where's your anger?

More of the , less of the please!

Yuk yuk yuk.

Essentially he has 2 mothers. But he's shagging one (you)

If he’s at yours noshing your food every night when does he see his kids?

Your perception of healthy relationships is really poor OP. Why are you so passive? You don’t seem to feel you have a say in much. If he shows up when you’re ill and want a quiet night then why not bloody well say so? If he’s getting all drooly about the food you’re going to buy when he’s already eating you out of house and home then tell him he’s eating too much, contributing too little and needs to pay for a shop

And what’s this bizarre approach to marriage? You d got children ffs, you don’t live together, you cannot seriously be thinking marriage is on the cards?!

What are you thinking woman?

Your self esteem must be through the floor if you put up with his nonsense.

Chuck him in the bin!

Honestly, I am not going to say dump him . . . yet. But he should be buying you £5 of groceries for each meal he has at your swans doing the washing up if you cook. If he objects, dump him.