DP cross there's no food

[droopyears]

My DP of 4 years has just had a go at me because there is no food in the house. He doesn't actually live with me.
He knows I do my food shopping on a Wednesday so am usually pretty low on a Tuesday.
He seemed really cross that there wasn't a huge menu of snacks available
I just wanted to vent really

Give him a chance to put things right. If he doesn't respond immediately and start pulling his weight you will know there is an unsolveable problem with him.

If he needs it spelling out to him, he's still not worth it.

I think some people want to use shock tactics but generally they’re on your side. They’re just angered by this man and how he’s treating you.

It does seem to have crept up on me. I've been noticing recently that I'm running out of food earlier than normal but didn't really put 2 and 2 together. Sometimes I'm having to top up mid week when I never used to have to. It used to be dinner maybe 3 times a week but when I think back over the past month or so it seems to be nearly every night.

I guess we buy about the same amount of takeaways. He earns slightly more than me.

He made himself some toast tonight, and then started talking about the food shop tomorrow, wondering what I'm going to buy. And now I'm sat here starting to feel irritated that he appears to be excited about what I am going to buy (and him eat)

For those of you that asked, I have 2 DC's

He's freeloading cocklodger.

How does he show his appreciation for all you do for him?
Let me guess, he doesn't.

Honestly, you deserve better.

[quote droopyears]@StephenBelafonte I'm not overly fussed about marriage - if it happens, it happens! DP doesn't 'believe' in marriage [/quote]
Lol, no way! Can't imagine why.

Ask him if he could contribute to your shopping if he’s planning on eating at yours every night.

What an entitled bellend. Sorry Op, it's easy for this kind of thing to creep up on you. I wonder how he sees it?

He's a scrounging creep, how can he not have thought about this?

Omg. What can you say to address's the problem? Maybe, 'I've just realised that I buy all of the food. It must be your turn to do our food shopping tomorrow?' If he's at least half decent he will. Bet he's horrified by the suggestion though.

then started talking about the food shop tomorrow, wondering what I'm going to buy

Excellent opportunity to discuss that as he is now eating at your place every evening, what is his fair contribution?

start now op

he's excited about tomorrow shop...ask him now for a contribution

Shops are that way >>>>>> call a taxi to get you home.

This is no dp, I'm afraid.
The "d"means darling = he isn't one.
The "p" means partner = this isn't a partnership, let alone equal.

Then I think you ought to bring it to the table, so to speak. If you can stay calm you should address this with him. I think this has become a habit and an expectation. If he’s a good sort he’ll see that it’s not cricket and agree to contribute...if he’s a arsehole, he’ll create. If it’s the latter, feel free to ditch calm and go straight to fuck right off.

It is quite depressing why so many women put up with these entitled pricks.

Sadly the number of these entitled pricks will grow as there are women out there who let them take advantage.

If every woman said no to entitled men, they'd soon die out!

He’s not nice to you, he has no appreciation for the fact you cook him his meals, he contributes no money and doesn’t even wash up... What a charmer.

What would his reaction be if you gave him a grocery shopping list for the next evening, with the clear message that he’s buying?

He wasn't actually supposed to be coming over tonight but he turned up out of the blue just after dinner. I'm full of cold so was looking forward to a bath, film and early night. I've just been told not to get too close to him as he doesn't want to catch my cold

He made himself some toast tonight, and then started talking about the food shop tomorrow, wondering what I'm going to buy. And now I'm sat here starting to feel irritated that he appears to be excited about what I am going to buy (and him eat)

Ugh cringe! I’m embarrassed for him.
So unaware of what a freeloader he is.
You need to work on your boundaries and evaluate what he brings to the relationship.

Reading your latest update, I’m with the “dump him” crowd.

I think it is worth having an open and pretty blunt conversation with him rather than moving straight to ditching him.
Explain that feeding him every night has significantly increased your food bill.
Ask him to cover a share of the food bill and also help clear up after dinner.
If he gets sulky at this then he probably isn't worth keeping but he may have not thought about it either.

He's really rude then and inconsiderate. He's using you and your home as a comfortable free fully serviced hang out.

What a selfish arse.

What does he bring to the table?

Dump
Dump
Dump

Grade A Cocklodger.

Comes over unannounced, eats yours and your kids food or complains about the lack thereof and then doesn't want you near him not that you should want him near you.

Does he have a giant penis? Not sure what other redeeming features would compensate for cocklodging?

Why are you so passive?

[quote droopyears]@Tappering No he doesn't cook or offer to wash up after [/quote]
Ah, now I understand, he thinks you are running a cafe. A rather special cafe where you don't have to pay.

Or, obviously , do the washing up.

Does he tip well ? [stop sniggering at the back, I said tip not tup]