DP cross there's no food

[droopyears]

My DP of 4 years has just had a go at me because there is no food in the house. He doesn't actually live with me.
He knows I do my food shopping on a Wednesday so am usually pretty low on a Tuesday.
He seemed really cross that there wasn't a huge menu of snacks available
I just wanted to vent really

In the bin with him.
Absolutely useless, cocklodging, cheeky fucker.
You deserve better than that.

Are you happy doing this for him? Be careful not to give to much as you could end up feeling taken advantage of or resentungvhim for not doing the same in return.

He'll just have to eat what's there?

Poor sod.

Please don't tell me you made the poor lamb prepare it for himself as well?

Jesus he is a total freeloader and horrible to boot. My DH cooks loads. After he has done and paid for our weekly shop. He always clears up.

Where does he live?

So had he actually eaten a meal & was pissed off at there being no snacks?

So not faint with hunger?

Not that that would excuse him expecting a meal at someone else's house-even if it is the norm!

What do you mean 'if marriage happens, it happens'. It's not exactly something that will just happen - whoops, just stumbled into marriage, clumsy me!

So you would be happy to get married, if he wanted to?

Some of the situations I read on here the men must shit rainbows for the women to put up with it
Op dump him and get ya self a real man .

I'm sorry OP, but you're a mug. Cooking and washing up after him every night with no contribution is odd. Have you got a partner or are you babysitting a child?

Oh OP.

I'm glad that you're realizing what's happening. He's not thick, he knows what he's doing. He's using you, and he's not even prepared to give you any commitment (not that that would make it any better.)

Well done for realizing his game.

So he's a leech: eats at yours daily AND expects you to provide the food.

What do you see in him ... he certainly isn't bringing any food or funding for food to the table? Do you have children he's depriving of extras through his selfishness?

He's a lazy, greedy, freeloading fucker!

Child-man. Run away OP!!!

He is a cocklodger-and doesn’t seem to have much else going for him.

Oh sod that.
Get rid of him quickly.
A real man would bring a selection of snacks with him or at least visit the garage for chocolate.

I'm really not surprised he doesn't believe in marriage. From the little you've told us about him he seems more than happy to share what's yours and he doesn't really share what's his. If he married you, he would need to share all his stuff with you. Which must be considerable as he doesn't appear to have had to fork out to feed himself for the past four years.
How do you feel about this OP? You seem very passive, like you just allow life to happen to you. Do you think if this man loved and cared for you, he'd allow you to buy all the food for four years without really contributing?

Jesus, get rid, I hope you’re not planning on having babies with this twat? You know if he expects you to cater to his snack whims he will literally not for a second assume that ANY aspect of looking after a child is his responisbility. Everything will be your fault for the rest of your lives.... kid’s arse smells? He’ll be glaring at you wondering why the fuck you haven’t changed it’s shitty nappy.... baby crying in the night? He’ll be seething at you that you didn’t wake up quicker to feed it.... etc etc.... you’ll be miserable. Get out now while you still can without too much collateral damage

Well he knows which side his bread is buttered.

@Graphista, amen sister!

It is quite depressing why so many women put up with these entitled pricks.

He is not your "D"P. He is a selfish entitled wanker who is sponging off you. You can do better than him. Get rid.

Once you've dumped him you will probably find you have loads of food left on Tuesday.

Why haven't you told him to fuck off and not come back again?

What is wrong with you? Why are you putting up with this shitty behaviour?

I guess this situation has crept up to you gradually. You cooked him one night a week, and then two, and now it’s most nights. Initially, you did all the clearing up and it’s become a habit. A habit maybe both of you have fallen into.

Maybe time to change the situation. What would happen if you asked him to help out, either help prepare the veg, wash up and clear up, ask him to contribute to the food etc. I think his reaction will tell you whether he’s a keeper or not.

There seems to be a thread a night about done utterly piss taking cock lodger?!

Oh, OP.

You are not pathetic.

People are basically on your side and saying 'you are worth ore than this'. But pages of it seems very victim blaming .

It's easy to get into habits. I think I would be first irritated by the not washing up. Does he just sit around while you clear up?

No wonder you needed to vent over the snack-tantrum.!

I would talk to him about this - say that his expectation of snacks made you realise that he eats a lot of your food, a lot of meal you have cooked and causes a lot of washing up that you do, and you would like to make things a bit fairer. From now on he shares the washing up, and brings the ingredients for your meals for half the week. Or some other arrangement.

Give him a chance to put things right. If he doesn't respond immediately and start pulling his weight you will know there is an unsolveable problem with him.

No thanks. I'd be thanking him for bringing it to your attention that he's a taker (and one with an unpleasant attitude, at that).

Won't he be surprised if his grumping about a lack of snacks is the thing that makes you realise he's no longer a positive in your life!