DP cross there's no food

[droopyears]

My DP of 4 years has just had a go at me because there is no food in the house. He doesn't actually live with me.
He knows I do my food shopping on a Wednesday so am usually pretty low on a Tuesday.
He seemed really cross that there wasn't a huge menu of snacks available
I just wanted to vent really

Why on earth do you put up with being treated like that?

The mind boggles .. four years and you provide dinner most nights to which he doesn't contribute financially, offer to cook or wash up?

Please tell us what his good points are and what you are getting out of this 'relationship'.

The sex must be utterly awesome for you to be paying out so much in cash, time and effort to have him as a boyfriend.

Good God. And what does this Prince among Men bring to your relationship?

It's not food, not financial contribution, not a share of household duties ... hmmm ... a golden penis that ejaculates diamonds perhaps??? Because I can't see why else you tolerate him.

Honestly, he taking the absolute piss. Don't cook for him constantly and tell him to get to the shop for his own bloody snacks.

Ugh, I'm angry for you. Don't let him walk all over you.

Did he make a mistake and thought he was visiting a free all-you-can-eat establishment?

You cook for him and clean up after him, he doesn’t pay a penny, then he moans you don’t have good snacks?

Does he have a gold-plated knob?

Seriously?
You can do better op. Be with someone who actually cares about you and isn’t just thinking of their own needs.

How dare his favourite free food establishment not have free snacks to follow his free dinner.

He must be really good in bed!!!???
Otherwise why would you put up with such a man?

He's got it made, hasn't he?

He’s got a pretty good deal going there and he’s still annoyed with you!

Oh dear. Are you one of those women who thinks any man is better than no man?

What are your thoughts on marriage?

Looks like he’s got used to being provided for and has now come to expect it.

Why do you cook for him most nights when he doesn’t contribute anything towards it at all? Are we to believe his mere presence is reward enough? Does he think it is?

He did say he was joking about the snack situation, but I'm not sure. He seemed to want me to solve the problem of no food though but I said he'll just have to eat what's there

Is there any point to him?

You know what, OP - there are men in the world who will sleep with you even if you don’t feed them.

I know, it’s hard to get your head around such a radical idea. But have a think about it.

@StephenBelafonte I'm not overly fussed about marriage - if it happens, it happens! DP doesn't 'believe' in marriage

@droopyears

He has dinner at mine most evenings but no he doesn't ever really bring food with him.

So he treats you as his personal cook and is demanding service BEFORE HE EVEN LIVES WITH YOU.

waves a red flag

You know he wasn’t joking. He might feel like a dick now but gaslighting you isn’t the answer. An apology and a contribution might help.

Does he mistake you for the doormat, because you are behaving like one with full knowledge.

You sound very passive
Do you not mind him sponging off you?

CAN HE BREATHE THROUGH HIS EARS?

Why are you not saying EVERY week "You've eaten at mine all week, your turn to fork out for a takeaway"

Grow some ovaries woman !

[quote droopyears]@StephenBelafonte I'm not overly fussed about marriage - if it happens, it happens! DP doesn't 'believe' in marriage [/quote]
No. Thats because he sees you as his personal cook rather than someone he wants to be - shock horror- committed too and give something back to.

waves another red flag

DP doesn't 'believe' in marriage

Doesn't believe in marriage, or has more assets than you and wants to protect them?

He seemed to want me to solve the problem of no food though but I said he'll just have to eat what's there

Have you fallen into a parent/child dynamic? Sounds like it. It's not exactly romantic, is it?